Lovelypop Posted July 7, 2019 Share Posted July 7, 2019 Hi everybody, I'm new here, I don't know if I'm posting in the right forum, excuse me if not. Well guys, hope that anyone can help me with some advices, my problem is that I like a guy, I've known him for more than a year, just simple flirt, things never got too serious between us, we've been out a couple times and we've had fun together , I mean it was like a good friend to me, I ended up with a very complicated relationship, in which I did not want to commit myself again so I don't take the things very seriously.. We talked, but not very often and everything was fine. This year I was trying to forget my ex and I don't know why but I really started to like this guy, I did not have much enthusiasm to go out with him before, but now I want to see him all the time So we started to see each other more often, we've kissed several times and had some hot moments, not sex. He told me that he wants me, He also told me that he loves me but I feel it's too soon for that, when we have met he behaves very cute and gentlemanly, my ex treated me so badly, so I was delighted with this new guy, he seemed so interested in me The problem is that now that things get a little serious, he says that he doesnt have time, and says he dont have time to spend all day sending me messages, he is a tattoo artist and I understand this, but Im so worry that literally all the time he is online on WhatsApp , even and mainly until dawn but he says he is busy to talk to me, I know there are many girls chasing him, girls who come to his tattoo studio. Most of the time I'm the one who initiates the conversations, the first one to text, I ask questions but he doesn't follow the talk just send me short answers or emojis, lately I see him online and he doesn't answer me, he does it hours later. Yesterday I send him a good morning message and he answer me the night of the next day, however I was not bothered by it and I answer him normally, but I'm afraid he loses interest in me, I'm afraid he noticed another girls and I don't know how to act now, should I keep sending messages? What should I say? My last relationship left me seriously affected my ex betrayed me with another girl and I'm afraid to fall in love with this boy and that he does the same, I feel I'm falling in love and I don't know if he's also in love with me or he only wants to have sex with me Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 7, 2019 Share Posted July 7, 2019 You need to calm down. You are very anxious. First is he actually on WhatsApp all day but not messaging you? If that is the case, then give up. This man is only interested in casual. He told you he wants you. That means he'll have sex & is only saying "I love you" to get in your pants. If he's not actually on line all day but is rather doing his job -- a job for which he needs both hands & can't be having a phone all the time -- then you need to get a serious grip on your emotions. You are not falling in love. You are desperately clinging to this nice guy after the demise of your complicated relationship. Your Ex must have been really bad if this guy looks good by comparison because from where I sit his interest is lukewarm at best. When a man genuinely likes a woman, he chases. This guy has either given up or was never all the keen to begin with. You will probably be better served, writing him off & spending some time alone not dating anybody. You have to get your head on straight & build some self confidence. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lovelypop Posted July 7, 2019 Author Share Posted July 7, 2019 Yeah, I'm very stressed out and anxious. That's right he's all day on WhatsApp, but when I tell him why he doesn't send me some texts, he tells me he's busy doing his job and can't send me messages, but I always see him online all day, all the time. You must be right I guess he just want sex, I was so excited about him, he seemed like a serious and gentle guy, I mean when we're together he's so respectful, but the rest of the days he forgets me. He's not interested in me, 'cause who's chasing him is me and not him to me. Thank you very much for answering, have a very nice day Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 7, 2019 Share Posted July 7, 2019 I didn't want to be right. I wanted you to day he wasn't actually On-Line all day but that you were just upset he wasn't texting you. Regroup. Lick your wounds from your other break-up & move forward in a positive way. Best wishes 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lovelypop Posted July 8, 2019 Author Share Posted July 8, 2019 Yeah I think I see things more clearly now I feel so sad maybe I don't mean anything to him :,( Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 22, 2019 Share Posted August 22, 2019 From his perspective he's been chasing you for a year and it's been one excuse after another from you. First you're seeing someone else, then you're broken up and not ready to really enter a relationship. Then you pursue him a little and he escalates to I love you, but you discourage that. I think he's given up and isn't going to spend as much time chasing you anymore because he's not getting anything tangible in the way of a girlfriend out of it. So he's got other resources and he's using them. Link to post Share on other sites
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