Boyfriend of 6 months suddenly broke up with me **Updated**

[intdibc]

So I've had interactions with my ex now. Basically it was his birthday on Saturday i had no choice but to text happy bday as my friend messaged him it on the group chat we're still in so obviously it would of looked rude if I didn't say it but I kept it straight to the point and just said 'Happy Birthday x' that's all. He messaged our group chat today to say that the CEO of our company is visiting my office on Monday as a heads up. (He directly works for her).

 

I'm not sure why he messaged the group chat as I'm the only one in the group chat who still works in that office everyone else works in different places now. It was purposely sent for me so I had to reply.

 

Do you think there is any chance he's slowly trying to get back into contact with me? Thing is he isn't directly messaging me as we've only spoke on the group chat since.

 

My friend saw him on his bday and said he kept calling her my name by accident - not sure if that means anything although he prob was drunk.

 

I just miss him so much and I guess these messages are kind of giving me some kind of hope but I'm not sure as he's not directly contacting me. (I thought i was over him for a while but it seems the feelings just keep coming back)

 

Let me know what you guys think please.

 

Thanks

[stillafool]

Sweetie I'm sorry you're going through this but think about what you wrote. He let's the entire chat group know that the boss will be there next week. It probably was a heads up for you just to be nice. If he wanted to talk to you personally he wouldn't be asking others how you are, sending a group message to include you, of any of the other things you mentioned. He would contact you personally, tell you he made a mistake and ask you back. Until that happens tell your friends to stop giving you messages about meaningless things he does and says. It is stopping you from moving on.

[chrishen]

He probably didn't change his feelings so quickly. It might have been on his mind ever since he met you that you weren't going to be the one, or maybe not.

 

Men don't need you to be the ONE to consistently hang out and do things with you. It's a funny thought I know, because you're likely looking at it using logic and thinking "Why would you bother?"

 

Well, many reasons. Sexual reasons being one, affection addiction (oxytocin) being another.

 

I'd say, guessing by the manner at which he communicated to you, he's made his mind up. He actually did you a favor not wasting your time any longer, but I know you won't feel that initially.

[smackie9]

As they say to be more desirable is to be less available. Time to block/delete him off any chat or social media and make it look like you are having the time of your life..busy with life, new suitors, going to parties, not talk about him to anybody, etc.

[intdibc]

So it's been exactly 6 months since my ex broke up with me. I feel better now, I'm not as heartbroken as I was at the start. I've started a new job and have made new friends etc. So life is good in that sense. But I still think about him time to time, and I can't for some reason get over him fully - why is that?

So, I made hinge 2 days ago, (New Years resolution is to get out there more and go on dates) I get numerous likes, but literally feel like I'm not attracted to any of these guys like I was to my ex, I'm not sure if online dating is for me, but I want to give it a shot! I just hate how I constantly compare people to him!! How do I stop this?

Any tips would be helpful.

Thanks x 

[stillafool]

You just have to stop comparing.  There is only one of each of us.  Getting over someone is not easy you just have to take it one day at a time.  It would go faster if you didn't work with him. There is no easy way to do it just keep moving forward and don't look back.