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ExpatInItaly

A former coworker of mine contacted the BW. She'd been sleeping with her husband for some time, and was angry when he distanced himself.

 

Imagine her surprise when she heard not one peep back from either the BW or the MM. And yes, the BW most definitely did get the message my coworker sent her.

 

Coworker was more pissed off and frustrated than she'd been before the revelation, as she was clearly hoping for a reaction from someone. She never got one.

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That’s probably what I would do. I wouldn’t want to give her the satisfaction of a response. And to be very honest, there is nothing she could say that I would want to hear anyway...

 

My attention would be entirely on my husband.

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If my wife cheated on me I would definitely want to know. If someone knew about the cheating and didn't tell me I would be highly pissed. Everyone who is living with a cheated needs to know where they stand in the marriage. I do wish you well.

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Imagine her surprise when she heard not one peep back from either the BW or the MM. And yes, the BW most definitely did get the message my coworker sent her.

 

I can easily imagine doing the same. While I said earlier that I'd tear strips from the OW, that's only if she did it in person. If it was a message, I'd say nothing. I would hope to deny her the satisfaction of seeing any fallout.

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The MM wronged me because he pretended to be a divorced man. I was fine dating him but then he gave me that hope and dreams that we will be starting a new life together - get married and be together for the rest of our lives. He gave the date.

 

Only for me to find out that he is still married.

 

 

I wanted a revenge so bad.

I wanted to tell his wife.

 

 

I was thinking:

a.) Should I tell him that I found out that he was lying and that he is still married?

 

Then depending on his answer, I will let his wife know.

b. End it with him by telling him that I got tired of him and found somebody new - which hopefully will hurt his ego even just a bit.

 

 

I ended up telling him about it. But never told his W.

 

But if I could turn back the time - I would have do B first then depending on his action - I will follow it with B. Lol

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I am the OW that told the BW. You are right... I could care less about the BW. I didn't make the commitment to her. I'm a single woman and it was her husband that pursued me. I didn't do it for revenge. I did it because it was necessary for my healing.

 

:lmao:

 

That's incredibly selfish of you. You played a part in causing all her pain, then you continue to dump on her because you need to do so for your own healing, and then you cap that off with the "laughing until I cry" emoji?

Is that really who you are at heart?

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somanymistakes

What would you rather she do, lie and hand-wring and pretend that "Oh, no, it was all for HER sake" when she knows otherwise? Would you not then attack her for being "incredibly selfish" for pretending to care?

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That's incredibly selfish of you. You played a part in causing all her pain, then you continue to dump on her because you need to do so for your own healing, and then you cap that off with the "laughing until I cry" emoji?

Is that really who you are at heart?

 

I know your fav pastime is to judge me...tks!

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Secretgal34

In a thread I posted a few suggested I tell his wife. I wouldn’t for many reasons. Reasons being it’s not worth it, and another is chances are she won’t leave him. Revenge isn’t healthy just keep living.

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I repeat I did not do it for revenge but you all go right ahead and just judge me all you want. I know what is in my heart and I am ok with my reasons.

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Shining One
I repeat I did not do it for revenge but you all go right ahead and just judge me all you want. I know what is in my heart and I am ok with my reasons.
I believe you're being judged for this:
At the time that really hurt, I now get great satisfaction knowing or at the very least hoping they are fighting over me.
There's a difference between "being necessary for healing" and rejoicing in the discord you added fuel to.
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I believe you're being judged for this:There's a difference between "being necessary for healing" and rejoicing in the discord you added fuel to.

 

That is just an assumption on your part as to thinking I was "rejoicing"... I have no clue what is going on in that relationship.. all I know is that he told me..

 

She cheated on him

He used me to get revenge on her.

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