Art_Critic Posted September 27, 2005 Share Posted September 27, 2005 wow for a 28 year old man that is kind of silly Georgia Girl.. You are not serious.. Look at the quote from your previous post.. I mearly used your own words on you instead of you using them on your ex.. I was trying to show you that you are not moving on by continuing to play theses CHILDISH games with your IM software.. If you WERE serious about moving on you would delete him for good.. but since you are not.. It's your emotions and decisions.. Over and out.. I won't post anymore to your thread since you seem to not want advice from me.. Link to post Share on other sites
JS17 Posted September 27, 2005 Share Posted September 27, 2005 Georgia Girl.. You are not serious.. Look at the quote from your previous post.. I mearly used your own words on you instead of you using them on your ex.. I was trying to show you that you are not moving on by continuing to play theses CHILDISH games with your IM software.. If you WERE serious about moving on you would delete him for good.. but since you are not.. It's your emotions and decisions.. Over and out.. I won't post anymore to your thread since you seem to not want advice from me.. She's 2 1/2 weeks into a break up! Cut her some slack. I think you're doing great GG. One day you'll get up the courage to delete him. Until then NC seems to be doing you some good. Link to post Share on other sites
Author georgiagirl76 Posted September 27, 2005 Author Share Posted September 27, 2005 AC You are welcome to post any time. If you had read my threads you would have known that I didn't come here for advice- at least not this thread. I have been around the break up block a time or two and I have made all the wrong choices in the past. I just came here to vent- I have had a plan since day one and I have stuck to it and I am feeling and experiencing the benefits. Again, if you had read my posts you would know that we didn't fully break up- we are taking time apart- I am not ready to just block him completely because I haven't made my decision as to whether I am going to accept him back into my life or not. I don't have him on my cell phone or any other form of communication. Yahoo is the one way that we have left to communicate when the time comes that we need to discuss moving stuff out and other things. We have a dog together- we haven't dicussed who is going to keep her. This isn't some childish romance that ended because I slept with his best friend. We are two adults that had an overwhelming amount of personal stress, taking the bar, illness, and upcoming deployment to the war that is still going on- therefore we took some space. Is it the perfect mature way to handle the situation- NO. I would rather have sat down and worked through it but I can't control him and this is what he wanted- to get his house in order before going off to war- there fore I had to respect it. You are always welcome to criticize or whatever- I welcome any comments. Life isn't always filled with people who agree with me- and I learn some of the greatest lessons from those who don't. I am sorry that my disagreeing with you has sent you away- funny in all your posts you seem to be tougher than that! Take care all and HANG IN THERE Link to post Share on other sites
Author georgiagirl76 Posted September 27, 2005 Author Share Posted September 27, 2005 Js17 Thanks for having my back! lol. I am here for you too. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted September 27, 2005 Share Posted September 27, 2005 funny in all your posts you seem to be tougher than that! I'm having a cold medicine moment day.... Too many drugs.. You seem to have your head screwed on right GG and I'm sorry I was sooo harsh.. Generally I never sugar coat things and sometimes I could use more tact.. Deep down I am a true romantic and alway's root for the reconciliation of people who break up.. Including myself.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author georgiagirl76 Posted September 27, 2005 Author Share Posted September 27, 2005 No problem AC Im just glad you are back. Sugar-coating is the quickest way to get into denial! Hope you are feeling better. I promise I am really working on me! GG Link to post Share on other sites
francis Posted September 27, 2005 Share Posted September 27, 2005 GG, ex wrote me 7 emails, he is 7 hours ahead of me and he wrote them as soon as he got into work this morning so I got them upon waking when i checked my emails, we always used to do that so that I would wake to his messages and he would wake to mine. I just passed my exams and so he is asking all kinds of questions regarding my next moves, living arrangements, term start dates etc, as well as just general chatting, updating, discussion on events in the news etc. sob...it makes me ache when he expresses such concern and interest in my life... I didnt reply to any of them. So I guess this is my first day of NC! I'm trying, i'm trying!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author georgiagirl76 Posted September 27, 2005 Author Share Posted September 27, 2005 Francis GOOD FOR YOU. I just made it through day 17 and I am feeling good about it. Not replying is the first step. Eventually you won't even look for his name in your email. Hang in there and post here anytime you feel weak or call a friend first before you reply to him or talk to him. You can do this- I did it and I know you can too. I am sorry that it hurts but one day it won't anymore. And after today you are one day closer to healing totally. Good JOB:bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
francis Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 right now this just feels mean... he wrote me another email this morning, again as soon as he arrived to work. he didnt write anything, just provided a link to a news story he knew i would be interested in...sigh but i haven't replied and won't reply Link to post Share on other sites
francis Posted September 29, 2005 Share Posted September 29, 2005 i saw him on msn yesterday...i blocked him, didnt talk...he's dissappeared again today but i STILL havent replied. ok, i've been here before, i made it a week before he emailed me...I think I am focussed to much on the pattern that emerges. I just gotta let go. If I leave it this week, he would normally email me on Monday, asking for an update. Sigh...I'm going away today for a couple of days and I start back at Uni next week so I am very glad of these distractions... I want him in my life so badly, I feel like I am punishing myself by cutting him out. Link to post Share on other sites
francis Posted September 29, 2005 Share Posted September 29, 2005 he's just emailed me again with another news article...sigh i think he's either bored at work or just wants to send out random emails and isnt bothered that i dont reply. if i ignore him long enough, he will go away? Link to post Share on other sites
smile95 Posted September 29, 2005 Share Posted September 29, 2005 I thought you just said you wanted him back?? I think I am confused? Do you want him to go away? Or want you back? Link to post Share on other sites
francis Posted September 29, 2005 Share Posted September 29, 2005 he refuses to talk about his feelings towards me and instead wants to stay friends. as long as we maintain a 'friendship', i cannot move on and forget about him. i do want him back, but he is not giving me anything. i feel that he is stringing me along so I need to take control and end this. i feel like its dragged on long enough. i cannot delude myself any longer with hope that we will reconcile when he is not prepared to work with me in dealing with our issues. in his words 'he gave up on us' and couldnt decide if i was the 'one'. if i stay friends with him and he begins to tell me about his new girlfriends, i think i will die. i need to get out of this now for my own sake. Link to post Share on other sites
smile95 Posted September 29, 2005 Share Posted September 29, 2005 i think you are headed in the right direction! good job girl! I am in the same place. Link to post Share on other sites
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