Don't know what to think

[Still_In_Love]

I don't know what to think. It appears that she has the "fight or flight" syndrome.

My ex broke up with me 3 weeks ago. We had been together for 1 year and gone through some rocky times, but had some really great times. I was in the middle of a divorce when we met and although I tried to keep her away from certain things, she went through alot with me. Right at the end of my divorce, she felt she needed her own space and gain control of her life. She wants to know what else is out there for her as I was her first real love.

My heart is broken because of this. I am devasted as I still love her with all my heart. I told her that I love her and I won't give up on this love or her.

I have gone to see her a couple of times. I stopped calling her last week, but she text me most days and one day text and said "miss U." I saw her on the weekend and we agreed that we can maybe try and hang out once in awhile, but we shouldn't call everyday...then she calls me the next night to ask how I am and say goodnight!?!

Does anyone have similar occurrences and is there any hope for a future?

Thanks

[Art_Critic]

Hanging out with her is gonna rip your heart right out of your chest..

 

Chance are that she will just hand it back to you as a pile of scar tissue..

You can't be friends until enough time goes by that neither party is carrying any torches for the other..

 

Pull away from her for a while .. you need to heal and she needs to miss you.

 

I know it hurts.. but it will get better.

 

How old is she ?.. She sounds young..

[Still_In_Love]

Thanks for your input Art. She is 24 and I am 31.

I let her know that I won't talk with her at this time as I need to work on healing myself. I love her more tahn anything!! I have never in my life met anyone like her....she is an amazing person.

[slubberdegullion]

Hanging out with her is gonna rip your heart right out of your chest..

 

Chance are that she will just hand it back to you as a pile of scar tissue..

You can't be friends until enough time goes by that neither party is carrying any torches for the other..

 

Pull away from her for a while .. you need to heal and she needs to miss you.

 

I know it hurts.. but it will get better.

 

Wiser words were never spoken.

 

OK, maybe Abe Lincoln came up with a few, but you get the point

[georgiagirl76]

No matter how much you may think hanging out is a good idea- in the long run it isn't. It may feel good because you get to spend time with her- but all you are doing is delaying your grief.

 

NC is the best way to get your head together and start to move on. I know how hard it is. It has been three weeks since my boyfriend asked for space. He send me a message today out of the blue and it made me sad all day. It was a sweet one- nothing biting- however it still hit me hard. I can't imagine seeing him or talking to him and being able to heal. Just some advice.