chillii Posted July 29, 2019 Share Posted July 29, 2019 Your not having any luck. Ya gotta aim at the target to hit the thing right. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mr_ybor Posted August 3, 2019 Author Share Posted August 3, 2019 Your not having any luck. Ya gotta aim at the target to hit the thing right. Meaning? Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted August 3, 2019 Share Posted August 3, 2019 You've gotta have and idea of the sort of girl you want and that is gonna suit you , and that's what you hone in on and look for , not just anyone on legs. Link to post Share on other sites
snowcones Posted August 3, 2019 Share Posted August 3, 2019 I find that women are as varied in what they like to see in a profile as berries that grow in a field. So you're never going to be able to appeal to them all. It's impossible. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mr_ybor Posted August 3, 2019 Author Share Posted August 3, 2019 (edited) You've gotta have and idea of the sort of girl you want and that is gonna suit you , and that's what you hone in on and look for , not just anyone on legs. For sure, but that doesn't make any difference on today's swipe apps either way. You swipe on the "ideal" ones, and a few others that might fit the bill to keep an open mind about things. ¯\(°_o)/¯ I can't see how I'm doing anything wrong here. I find that women are as varied in what they like to see in a profile as berries that grow in a field. So you're never going to be able to appeal to them all. It's impossible. Exactly. How is it going to hurt to cast a wider net and be somewhat open minded about who you might meet? I'm hardly swiping everything with a pulse, however. There's a happy medium. Edited August 3, 2019 by mr_ybor Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted August 4, 2019 Share Posted August 4, 2019 Well , in that case yeah doesn't matter how many then as long as your trying for your ideal included. Have you tried a proper date site . After my marriage l was on one for a short stint but did really well and hell yeah you could get much more feed back in what's going on with women you were interested in. lt showed when they viewed you when they were on line how many times they checked you out and some other goodies that really helped and they could see all the same so you could literally tell if you were interested in each other before you even contacted her. And with all that you could work out a good time to contact her too . Maybe check out a few date sites. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mr_ybor Posted August 5, 2019 Author Share Posted August 5, 2019 What's a "date site"? Link to post Share on other sites
Author mr_ybor Posted August 9, 2019 Author Share Posted August 9, 2019 Because everything I'm getting here is sooooooooooooooo far off the mark. I feel like I'm really just bad at this for whatever reason. Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted August 9, 2019 Share Posted August 9, 2019 Your problem may be that you do not know what you want, have a think about that, write down things you like and things you dont like, add to these lists as you encounter some new experience every day, if you dont know yourself what makes you tick, its going to be very hard to be successful at dating, develop yourself- simply get to know what you like and what you dont like, it will become easier for others then to connect with you and to build relationships. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mr_ybor Posted August 9, 2019 Author Share Posted August 9, 2019 (edited) Yeah, I know what I want at this point (I really should), thanks. That's my issue here: Trying to find someone who clicks with that... someone who'll match back. Edited August 9, 2019 by mr_ybor Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted August 9, 2019 Share Posted August 9, 2019 Yeah that's the go. lmo if it's a relationship you'd like knowing yourself and what you want, need, like, type of person you fit with, is all really the key. lt's not easy to find but when ya do it's worth it. So many don't seem to know any of that stuff and seem to just chase their tail. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted August 9, 2019 Share Posted August 9, 2019 Seems to me dating sites/apps need to be able to match the right people to the right people. It usually works well as most have fairly straightforward and realistic requirements. So "Good looking 20yo male seeks good looking 20yo female" is easy. Present each with a bundle of options and watch them pair up Where it falls down for individuals is when there is a fundamental mismatch. Where the requirements lead to a very small pool of options or where the dating site algorithm says "No". It is not in the site's best interest to promote what it considers to be poor matches with little hope of a positive outcome. They do not care that Joe Bloggs is unsuccessful, they are only concerned with the throng. Last thing they want to do its put off their core clientele by flooding them with people they would not date in a million years... The people who find themselves at the edges with no or poor matches on OLD need IMO to go find some other way to meet people... Link to post Share on other sites
Author mr_ybor Posted August 9, 2019 Author Share Posted August 9, 2019 (edited) Seems to me dating sites/apps need to be able to match the right people to the right people. Right?! Not sure what I'm doing wrong here. Also, who the crap is Joe Bloggs? Edited August 9, 2019 by mr_ybor Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted August 9, 2019 Share Posted August 9, 2019 Right?! Not sure what I'm doing wrong here. I don't know but you have said your tastes are quirky and you describe yourself as "a weirdo". I guess something is tripping the algorithm and so you are put in the pile of guys who are rarely if ever seen by the type of woman you actually want to date... ELO may be dead, but it is bound to have been replaced by something similar IMO. It may be your behaviour on the site. Clicking literally hundreds/thousands of profiles may not make you a good bet... A tourist... Link to post Share on other sites
Author mr_ybor Posted August 9, 2019 Author Share Posted August 9, 2019 (edited) I don't know but you have said your tastes are quirky and you describe yourself as "a weirdo". Yeah, weirdo seeking similar. Ain't that the point? Nerd-for-nerd, goth-for-goth, etc. I guess something is tripping the algorithm and so you are put in the pile of guys who are rarely if ever seen by the type of woman you actually want to date... Why would that be? I'm looking to date someone, you know, similar... i.e. not from that "big pile". This is the **** I apparently need help with. It may be your behaviour on the site. Clicking literally hundreds/thousands of profiles may not make you a good bet... A tourist... Yeah, not doing anything close to that. The suggestions are sooooooo far off the mark for the most part. Edited August 9, 2019 by mr_ybor Link to post Share on other sites
Author mr_ybor Posted August 12, 2019 Author Share Posted August 12, 2019 I need a woman to... ...write my profile... to get a woman. #inception Someone who understands me and what I'm looking for, who can project that in an attractive way to, you know: Women. Because, holy crap, I'm no good for doing that for myself. Unfortunately, I don't know any. Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted August 12, 2019 Share Posted August 12, 2019 (edited) Ah well maybe some of the ladies here will come forward to help with this. Edited August 12, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted August 12, 2019 Share Posted August 12, 2019 You'd be better off asking a guy that has no issues attracting women.... TFY 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted August 12, 2019 Share Posted August 12, 2019 Sure, just snag a pic of a male model off the internet and explain how at 35 you've become independently wealthy and now devote your time to working out, philanthropy, and investing in real estate. Now you're finally ready to settle down and start a family with someone special. On second thought, nah don't do that... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 12, 2019 Share Posted August 12, 2019 Your profile needs to be positive & interesting. Highlight what makes you special & offer something that would make a woman want to talk to you. Be genuine & avoid clichés. Include 3-4 photos in different settings. One needs to show your face. One should show your body, not a shirtless pick, just something that gives a sense of your overall size / shape. Be well groomed in all the pictures & smiling. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
planb1973 Posted August 12, 2019 Share Posted August 12, 2019 Maybe it's not your profile that is hindering your success. Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted August 12, 2019 Share Posted August 12, 2019 I'm assuming you want someone to do this for free as there are tons of dating coaches, etc. on-line who are happy to write your profile for money. I don't believe there is any one magical profile, only ones that are better suited to attract some women more than others, as well as some dating sites are better suited to attract some women more than others. Same with photos. That means to me you need to have in your head clearly who you'd like to attract, get on a site that aligns with that, then find a woman like that who can help you with your profile. You may say any woman within reason, I'd advise think of one or two qualities you have that you'd like the person you attract to be into, and lead with those. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted August 12, 2019 Share Posted August 12, 2019 Forgive me if I've missed your responses..... I've asked you in the past about who your people are and what you're looking for. But I have not seen a response from you. All I know is that you're not looking at mainstream. Starting numerous new threads without spending time talking to people who respond to your old threads will get you nowhere. So I ask again: What are you looking for in a woman? And for that matter, why would that woman want to be with you? We need lengthy reponses to both questions to help you form a reply. Also, show us what you've already written. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mr_ybor Posted August 13, 2019 Author Share Posted August 13, 2019 (edited) You'd be better off asking a guy that has no issues attracting women.... I don't know anyone like that. ¯\(°_o)/¯ Sure, just snag a pic of a male model off the internet and explain how at 35 you've become independently wealthy and now devote your time to working out, philanthropy, and investing in real estate. Now you're finally ready to settle down and start a family with someone special. That sounds really disingenuous... and essentially would be catfishing. Beyond being a dick move, what would really be the point of misrepresenting oneself? You're going to meet them eventually and they're going to know that's not you. Not to mention I've dated some girls who were models, and snagging and using their pics for misrepresentative reasons is really troubling and uncool for them. They're actually people, too, it turns out. Think about it. Your profile needs to be positive & interesting. Highlight what makes you special & offer something that would make a woman want to talk to you. Be genuine & avoid clichés. Include 3-4 photos in different settings. One needs to show your face. One should show your body, not a shirtless pick, just something that gives a sense of your overall size / shape. Be well groomed in all the pictures & smiling. That's more-than-less what I've got. It's not translating for whatever reason. That's kinda why I feel like I need a third party to sort the syntax. I'm obviously not in marketing (fun fact: in real life, I don't work in marketing). Maybe it's not your profile that is hindering your success. Online? My profile is all I got. That means to me you need to have in your head clearly who you'd like to attract, get on a site that aligns with that, then find a woman like that who can help you with your profile. You may say any woman within reason, I'd advise think of one or two qualities you have that you'd like the person you attract to be into, and lead with those. I agree 100%. I'm probably not for "everyone", but I'm not looking for everyone, either. That's quite the distillation and quandary, I suppose. Two qualities? Someone with a similar outlook and perspective on life (I suppose that boils down to similar appreciations in life), and someone with a similar lifestyle to myself. That's probably nebulous, but to anyone who really knows me, it's not. Where do I go with that, exactly? Forgive me if I've missed your responses..... I've asked you in the past about who your people are and what you're looking for. But I have not seen a response from you. All I know is that you're not looking at mainstream. Starting numerous new threads without spending time talking to people who respond to your old threads will get you nowhere. So I ask again: What are you looking for in a woman? And for that matter, why would that woman want to be with you? We need lengthy reponses to both questions to help you form a reply. Also, show us what you've already written. What I said above. Similar outlook, similar lifestyle, similar goals in life and love. Why would she want to be with with me? Because we're... um, similar. ¯\(°_o)/¯ Ain't rocket surgery. Edited August 13, 2019 by mr_ybor Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted August 13, 2019 Share Posted August 13, 2019 "Genuine,loyal guy with gsoh, likes to love and to be loved" fit something like that in on your profile, after that its keep meeting women until you find the right one. Link to post Share on other sites
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