Author Tagalz Posted July 21, 2019 Author Share Posted July 21, 2019 I don't see why you don't find another cinema or customer service job. Sounds like this is not a career job for you. It's not worth the drama and also looks like the manager is looking for an excuse to fire you. It’s not easy to find a job in Norway. Also Abdi told me that I’m taking things to seriously and that could also be the reason that people are spreading rumours about me... I guess they’re saying «don’t joke with Tagalz cause he might take it serious» Even if they are telling everyone I still have to endure it and take it as my fault. But they are still being rude to me before they went behind my back so they don’t have anything to say if I were to confront them. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted July 22, 2019 Share Posted July 22, 2019 Did you read everything? I won’t leave my job because they are rude. I can either be rude back or confront them (: My friend, part of what you need to learn to be successful in the working world is how to get along with people - bosses, coworkers, customers. You will not always get along with everyone you meet, and you need to learn to negotiate conflict and deal with people. Those are not your only two options, which it would seem you still need to learn... Are you this confrontational in all your relationships? Do you get along well with family and friends? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tagalz Posted July 22, 2019 Author Share Posted July 22, 2019 My friend, part of what you need to learn to be successful in the working world is how to get along with people - bosses, coworkers, customers. You will not always get along with everyone you meet, and you need to learn to negotiate conflict and deal with people. Those are not your only two options, which it would seem you still need to learn... Are you this confrontational in all your relationships? Do you get along well with family and friends? I actually don’t and if I don’t be rude back I’m just showing weakness and it could eventually be evolving to them bullying me Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted July 22, 2019 Share Posted July 22, 2019 I actually don’t and if I don’t be rude back I’m just showing weakness and it could eventually be evolving to them bullying me See, and I think you have an opportunity to take the high road here, or take the low road... It is quite possible to be firm, or not to engage, or look for a different job... Bullying behavior stems from weakness, not strength. If you sink to their level, you will not be acting from a position of strength... Link to post Share on other sites
PRW Posted July 22, 2019 Share Posted July 22, 2019 I don’t be rude back I’m just showing weaknessAbsolute nonsense. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tagalz Posted July 23, 2019 Author Share Posted July 23, 2019 See, and I think you have an opportunity to take the high road here, or take the low road... It is quite possible to be firm, or not to engage, or look for a different job... I know what I should do know. Yes my dignity is lost because I take everything to seriously and after Girl A told everyone I deserved it. I dug a hole on my own grave. Now all I have to do is not care and don’t talk to them. Just care about doing my work 100% Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tagalz Posted July 23, 2019 Author Share Posted July 23, 2019 Absolute nonsense. Yes I exaggarated a little bit when I wrote that I’m going to be rude back. What’s going trough my mind now is if I should tell my manager about Girl A or not. Even If I tell him then Girl A would hate me even more or the worst part is that she would tell everyone that I am gossiping. Meanwhile I just do my job 100% and don’t say a word to other colleagues. That would lead me to a boring workplace but at the end of the day everyone is there just to make money Link to post Share on other sites
JEG88 Posted July 27, 2019 Share Posted July 27, 2019 I still don't understand why you don't just get another job. Is it that hard to find work at another cinema or similar venue near you? Or do you secretly like being involved in the drama for whatever reason? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tagalz Posted August 1, 2019 Author Share Posted August 1, 2019 I still don't understand why you don't just get another job. Is it that hard to find work at another cinema or similar venue near you? Or do you secretly like being involved in the drama for whatever reason? Girl C was rude to me because I was being rude to her first so that’s on me but Girl A and B just didn’t care and were talking behind my back. Everytime I work with them or not I feel like they think negative of me. I feel that because the look of their eyes... like I can tell that there has been some negative talking about me. I just don’t know what so right now I’m just focusing on doing my job. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tagalz Posted August 1, 2019 Author Share Posted August 1, 2019 Hey! I’ve been working there for 2 months now and I have more insight of how it is to work there. Because of all the drama at the beginning regarding the two girls I still feel that my colleague has a negative view of me. I can tell by the look of their eyes when they are talking to me or when we just take a quick glimpse. So right now all I care about is to do my job but I can’t survive for long if I’m not socializing with them. I don’t know if I have already written this but after you have let everyone in to the cinema room and after you have refilled the popcorn you are free to do whatever you want for 30 minutes or 1 hour. Some colleagues are socializing and some choose to do something else like cleaning. I’m the guy who is cleaning just for the sake of having something to do and by that way I won’t be needing to talk to them so I’m not engaging. I’ve tried to talk to my colleagues to get to know them better but as I were talking I noticed that some ask questions and some don’t. The colleagues that asks me questions back are those who I went to interview with. While those colleagues that doesn’t ask question back are not interested Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tagalz Posted August 4, 2019 Author Share Posted August 4, 2019 (edited) Hey We can call her for Girl A on this thread. While I was in the process of refilling the soda’s I heard something Girl A said with a low wisphering voice to Boy a who were working with her just to refill the popcorn fast. I didn’t hear everything but this is what I heard of Girl A’s low voice «I feel like Kevin is being left out and that’s why I feel sorry for him» she did say more but that was all I heard. I didn’t confront her or anything but the reason why I could hear her voice is that popcorn’s and soda’s are located at the same place at the cinema’s so we’re always walking past each other when we are refilling. I did however went to the manager and told him this. Because Girl A is walking around talking sh*t about me to other colleagues. she is guilty of making this workplace a bad enviroment. So that was Girl A. Yesterday I had 30 min to do everything so I asked Boy A if he needed any help. He told me no and then I walked away. 5 min later he takes the boxes full of popcorn and is tossing it on the ground saying «Here Tagalz, you can clean this up, now you have something to do» Edit: my manager said this: I will speak to Boy A about this and regarding the girl. If you want I can speak to her about it but she has her last day tomorrow so after that she won’t bother you anymore.. Edited August 4, 2019 by Tagalz Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted August 4, 2019 Share Posted August 4, 2019 Tagalz, Girl A was being compassionate to your situation. She recognised that you're having trouble and felt bad for you. This isn't talking bad about you. Unfortunately, now that you've reported her, she will probably stop feeling compassion for you. Boy A sounds like a knob. Link to post Share on other sites
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