SkylarForever Posted July 21, 2019 Share Posted July 21, 2019 (edited) Three years ago my close friend of 10 years, now 28 years old hooked up with me (29 years old) for no reason at a club. We are both female. At the time we had been with our male partners for 3 years, she was also engaged and never was the type to hook up with guys or girls like that even when she was single. A month before, however, she did yell at me the whole night for talking to a single male coworker of hers at a party. I just thought she was too drunk and hormonal and brushed it off. She did apologise the next day. Everything goes on as normal for about 6 months until we start planning our vacation around the US with our partners and 4 other friends for June 2017. My partner's birthday was occurring during the trip and she refused to pick a house that would cause the four of us to share a room. This annoyed me because it didn't mean we were going to have sex. However we ended up sharing a room before his birthday in LA and everything was fine. Halfway into the trip my partner and I got engaged and she wasn't too excited and even had attitude with the waitress at dinner. A few days later at a club in Miami she looked around to see if our other girlfriends were in ear shot before grabbing me from behind (also not normal clubbing behaviour for her) and then moved to my front. My anxiety was running high so I turned away. A week later in an RnB bar in Memphis, my now fiancée and I are dancing. She comes up to me and says "Stop doing that". I say "Why? I like it". She says "But I don't like watching it". She kicks me a few times in the back of the leg. In the months after the trip things got surprisingly better. She was talking to me more than ever before over all social media (she lives about 17 hours away for work). Lots of compliments, support for my fitness lifestyle and general terms of endearment. Then around Xmas time 2017 it all stopped all of a sudden and has never been the same since. She only talks to me in our group chat. She comes home every 2-3 months and only likes to spend time with me with others. No compliments, no support, no lasting conversations. We're still close friends on the surface but if you dig a little deeper things are ugly between us. She is getting married in 3 months. I am not a bridesmaid as expected. I might be dramatic, but this has caused me a lot of frustration and guilt about what I have done or didn't do and how I really want to know what's going on without tearing us more apart. Edited July 21, 2019 by SkylarForever Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted July 21, 2019 Share Posted July 21, 2019 There's only one person that can answer your questions - her. Tell her you want to get together privately and talk. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted July 21, 2019 Share Posted July 21, 2019 I think I'd leave it alone and be glad she stopped acting jealous. She sounds a little nutty, honestly. Maybe she's moved on, so no reason to pick the scab. Probably has a new female crush or something. I'd leave it alone and just accept that this is how it is rather than go back to her being jealous and kicking you. Link to post Share on other sites
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