Logo Posted July 22, 2019 Share Posted July 22, 2019 Do you believe in or buy into Sternberg's Theory? Can passion build up throughout a relationship or does it have to be there from the start? Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted July 22, 2019 Share Posted July 22, 2019 Intimacy, Passion and commitment, Passion probably has to be there from the start, it is hard to find the spark if it not there initially, Perhaps intimacy and commitment can keep a relationship going long after the passion is gone, then there is the beggars cant be choosers mentality, you find someone you are reasonably content with and that is good enough, settle for average as came up on another thread and perhaps in time the intimacy and commitment will grow. Link to post Share on other sites
spiritedaway2003 Posted July 22, 2019 Share Posted July 22, 2019 I can only speak for myself, but the "spark" or "interest" has to be there. I've not been in many relationships because of it. I'm not a shy person so talking to people isn't a problem; it's finding the right person that's harder. Without that spark, there's no chance of anything more. I used to a friend who wanted more; on paper he seems like a good match. In reality, he feels more like a brother to me. No spark or romantic feelings for him. I really tried - just can't do it. He became an ex-friend because of it. Link to post Share on other sites
somanymistakes Posted July 22, 2019 Share Posted July 22, 2019 Do you believe in or buy into Sternberg's Theory? I don't know because I have no idea what that is. Can passion build up throughout a relationship or does it have to be there from the start? Depends on what you're defining as the "start"? If there's no passion at all fairly early in the relationship, it probably won't work out. On the other hand you don't have to have an undying passion when you've just met someone either. Friendship can develop into love, but it doesn't always. People who decide to date someone "just to try it" sometimes find that spark and other times don't. Sometimes when you let yourself explore an option it explodes into wild passion and other times there's just nothing there. Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted July 22, 2019 Share Posted July 22, 2019 l can confirm passion can def build up over time. Not saying that will happen, but lets just say you can get some extremely nice surprises along the way that can change a lot of things. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted July 22, 2019 Share Posted July 22, 2019 over time romantic love fades and something else must be present to keep the union together Link to post Share on other sites
pepperbird Posted July 22, 2019 Share Posted July 22, 2019 My spouse and i have been married for almost 22 years. Just speaking from perosnal experience, but passion ebbs and flows, based upon what's going on. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted July 22, 2019 Share Posted July 22, 2019 over time romantic love fades and something else must be present to keep the union together Disagree, though one's definition of what constitutes "romance" evolves over time... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
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