Normm Posted August 2, 2019 Share Posted August 2, 2019 I'll have to find wow somewhere else seemingly. Maybe next time your friend asks you to join him for a night out with a group of single girls you won't let fear stand in your way like you did the last time. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mr_ybor Posted August 3, 2019 Share Posted August 3, 2019 Women are just as frustrated, believe me. Well, what do you want from us... who aren't douchebags that is...because everything (I try, anyway) is never enough. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ZA Dater Posted August 3, 2019 Author Share Posted August 3, 2019 Maybe next time your friend asks you to join him for a night out with a group of single girls you won't let fear stand in your way like you did the last time. For the last time I can't work in that sort of environment. I don't enjoy clubs and bars, this becomes very obvious very quickly. Besides even he didn't find them appealing which considering his only criteria is looks says something. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ZA Dater Posted August 3, 2019 Author Share Posted August 3, 2019 Seemingly. Indeed, women are just as frustrated by the online dating experience. I can’t tell you how many men I went out with who turned me down because I didn’t “wow” them. I also don’t know how many men I turned down because they didn’t have the social skills to actually be on a date. Live your life. That’s all you can do. You hit the nail on the head with this post, nobody wants to invest anything, women want perfection, men want looks bit nobody is prepared to actually work with someone. There is no "well he or she has potential", it's rather a case of well for women and fun men there are limitless options. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ZA Dater Posted August 3, 2019 Author Share Posted August 3, 2019 And given your new, broader criteria from a potential date, it sounds like you've opened your criteria to include single mums. Good for you. Still not interested in single mom's yet to find any who don't have tons of baggage. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted August 3, 2019 Share Posted August 3, 2019 (edited) You hit the nail on the head with this post, nobody wants to invest anything, women want perfection, men want looks bit nobody is prepared to actually work with someone. There is no "well he or she has potential", it's rather a case of well for women and fun men there are limitless options. And yet, I managed to find someone wonderful. So, you can’t tell me that nobody is willing to invest anything. You are not willing to invest anything, that is for sure. Because, these women don’t have the looks and personality to “wow” you. You are not looking for “potential.” If you were, you would know that when you meet the right person, looks don’t matter as much as you may think and there is no such thing as perfection. You have yet to get there... Edited August 3, 2019 by BaileyB Link to post Share on other sites
Author ZA Dater Posted August 3, 2019 Author Share Posted August 3, 2019 And yet, I managed to find someone wonderful. So, you can’t tell me that nobody is willing to invest anything. You are not willing to invest anything, that is for sure. Because, these women don’t have the looks and personality to “wow” you. You are not looking for “potential.” If you were, you would know that when you meet the right person, looks don’t matter as much as you may think and there is no such thing as perfection. You have yet to get there... I spent years trying to work with people I didn't find attractive and who didn't even know where California is. Past bothering with projects. I have met a few right people, unfortunately I wasn't right for them.... As you say one can just live. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ZA Dater Posted August 9, 2019 Author Share Posted August 9, 2019 If you insist on using Tinder, your bio should be specific. I’m looking for someone educated, interested in xyz and who knows the difference between the dinner and dessert forks. Not looking for a relationship or dates right now, but I’d love to have someone who wants to join me at some social events and who knows my secret signal for “help! I’ve looked at her grandkids’ pictures for the last 20 minutes! Save me!” In return you get some witty banter, a decadent meal and to meet some of the” coolest/ smartest/ whatever” people I know. Hopefully we won’t have a repeat performance off our last dinner where i sheepishly had to retrieve one of my snails that went flying across the room! Etc. Thanks again for this. I ended up going with a variation of this and unfortunately go no matches which were suitable. Many seemed to think this was an invitation for a paid arrangement which doesn't interest me. The net result is I am going on my own, no real surprise there. I tried to reach out the politics girl I had a great date with but barring a few lines of communication she doesn't seem interested in meeting me again. I'll keep tweaking my profile, adding pictures, changing bios with varying levels of text and see but have to be honest I am fairly resigned myself to matching with the same people I don't want over and over again. Being polite, I am slim and athletic, would be so hard to match with the equivalent instead of the complete opposite... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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