rainbow12 Posted July 23, 2019 Share Posted July 23, 2019 I know this friend for 10 years and she's been saying that she wants to earn money like I do online, I was trying to be helpful and thought she would be interested in em considering she's broke and she would love to leave morocco to live in the UK. In the beginning, I offered first to do the surveys for her and she accepted. I was going to help her do the surveys while she does it as well and pockets the money but I soon realised it be too much for me to do so I said to my friend she should do it herself because I wouldn't have the time. Anyway, I got the impression her heart wasn't in it so I felt like I was wasting my time, So I told my friend that I needed a break from her because I felt that whatever I was trying to do to help her she weren't appreciative, So, I said I will have space from her for 3 weeks period, in the meantime i've been posting photos on instagram and she hasn't liked mine even when I have liked hers. is she being funny with me or do you think our friendship has it's sell by date? Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted July 23, 2019 Share Posted July 23, 2019 Don't even worry about it. Social media should be taken with a grain of salt as a whole. If she's mad, she'll cool down. But should she not, you probably really didn't lose much of a friendship in the first place. Most people get that we have other things to do in our lives and can't devote all of our attention to them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author rainbow12 Posted July 23, 2019 Author Share Posted July 23, 2019 Don't even worry about it. Social media should be taken with a grain of salt as a whole. If she's mad, she'll cool down. But should she not, you probably really didn't lose much of a friendship in the first place. Most people get that we have other things to do in our lives and can't devote all of our attention to them. Thank you Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted July 23, 2019 Share Posted July 23, 2019 Thank you No problem. Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted July 24, 2019 Share Posted July 24, 2019 What you did is similar to loaning a friend money and they couldn't or wouldn't pay you back. Instead of money you offered to lend her your skill set. It may have been your excellent use of the English language or your insider knowledge on how to wring some cash from this electronic medium. She has a dream of moving somewhere else but dreams resent the intrusion of reality in that no matter where you live you still have to make a living. I've had a South Korean friend for over 30 years and he would use me in exactly the same way. When his kids were in school he would ask me to write up responses to their teachers about work they had accomplished. I'm always looking for ways to hone my writing skills so I took it on as a favor and a project but I couldn't complete the assignment. I did not have the time to finish the last response because my sister was visiting from Florida. I figured he could use the other papers I did as an outline and do one himself. He was after all their father. He was peeved at me for about two weeks. It made me realize that no matter how successful he was on the job that he didn't have my skill set when it came to putting down words on paper. I of course had an advantage over him being native English speaker. Switch the language to Korean and he would have walked all over me. I think you did what you should do for a friend who wants to be self sufficient. If your friend wants to use those around her for her own benefit without returning the value then that's a different take on being friends. Best Wishes 1 Link to post Share on other sites
D0nna Posted July 27, 2019 Share Posted July 27, 2019 Social media define your friendships now?lol . you said you need a break so that's what she is doing!!!! Giving you your break! If you wanna keep liking her stuff is up to you. Beside she may not be happy right now,just let the 3weeks pass. And see what's up with her. And maybe she wanted the money and not all the work she realize she had to do. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author rainbow12 Posted July 28, 2019 Author Share Posted July 28, 2019 Social media define your friendships now?lol . you said you need a break so that's what she is doing!!!! Giving you your break! If you wanna keep liking her stuff is up to you. Beside she may not be happy right now,just let the 3weeks pass. And see what's up with her. And maybe she wanted the money and not all the work she realize she had to do. Thanks, You're right. Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted July 29, 2019 Share Posted July 29, 2019 I don't really understand why you needed a break from her? Were you trying to send the message that you were annoyed by her? I understand why you're annoyed - you tried to help her and she didn't accept it. It can be frustrating when friends don't take advice. But she didn't really do anything wrong, did she? She's not obligated to do the job you suggested. She didn't seem into it so she didn't pursue it. This is fine. But I think it's an overreaction for you to stop talking to her over this. And why for three weeks? If you don't want to be friends anymore, then don't be friends anymore, period. And if you tell someone to stop talking to you, you can't expect them to be active on social media with you. I'm kind of thinking that you just wanted for her to know that you were annoyed and you also kind of wanted to punish her a little bit. And I'm also thinking that you expected her to grovel for your forgiveness and kiss your ass, and you're now confused about why she hasn't done that. Correct me if I'm wrong. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
anika99 Posted July 29, 2019 Share Posted July 29, 2019 I kind of agree with the previous poster. You're friend is not obligated to follow your instructions on how she should make money. I'm not sure how much time you put into helping her. It's unclear because you said you were going to help by doing some surveys for her but then you quickly realized that you wouldn't be able to do that and told her to do them herself. Then when you saw her heart wasn't in it you told her to go away for 3 weeks but now you are offended that she did what you asked and she's not paying attention to you on social media. Not sure what is supposed to happen after 3 weeks and I'm not sure what you want from your friend but if something like this enough to end a friendship of 10yrs then it doesn't like it was ever much of a friendship at all. Because to me it reads that you are mad that she didn't do what you told her to do. I've spent time giving friends advice or helping them get started on projects only for them to decide that it's not something they actually want to do. I have felt disappointment when that happens because I was excited to help them and excited for them so I do understand how you feel but then remind myself that I can't run someone else's life or make their decisions and it would be silly and selfish of me to expect a friend to keep doing something they don't want to do just because that would make me feel good. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rainbow12 Posted July 30, 2019 Author Share Posted July 30, 2019 I don't really understand why you needed a break from her? Were you trying to send the message that you were annoyed by her? I understand why you're annoyed - you tried to help her and she didn't accept it. It can be frustrating when friends don't take advice. But she didn't really do anything wrong, did she? She's not obligated to do the job you suggested. She didn't seem into it so she didn't pursue it. This is fine. But I think it's an overreaction for you to stop talking to her over this. And why for three weeks? If you don't want to be friends anymore, then don't be friends anymore, period. And if you tell someone to stop talking to you, you can't expect them to be active on social media with you. I'm kind of thinking that you just wanted for her to know that you were annoyed and you also kind of wanted to punish her a little bit. And I'm also thinking that you expected her to grovel for your forgiveness and kiss your ass, and you're now confused about why she hasn't done that. Correct me if I'm wrong. No, I don't want her to grovel to me and kiss my ass, and say sorry about not doing the surveys. I don't care about that. im giving space from her because...it wasn't just the surveys, it was about everything on top of it. The paranoia, me relying on her to make me happy and expecting her to be there all the time when im available. I just wanted to give her space to make things easier for her so she can take a break from me and for me to be a better person for her and to make her miss me and appreciate me more not saying she didn't appreciate me but you know what I mean. I don't ever want her to do things she doesn't want to do. I want her to do what she wants and be happy, not to suit me. I do miss her and...I wasn't sure if she missed me or not. I thought being with her all the time is doing more harm than good. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rainbow12 Posted July 30, 2019 Author Share Posted July 30, 2019 i want to close this thread now, i decided to text her now. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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