Yolosloth Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 im looking for some friendly advice... Little over a year ago i met this woman through a friend of mine. We hit it off great as you would say. We didnt make it an official or anything, we were just taking things slow. Well lol i wounded up saying something stupid and hurtful to her and we stopped talking completely. Pretty much long story short lol. 3 great passionate months. Real (intense) memories made... Recently we ran into each other knowingly at a mutual friends childs party. I figured i would keep my distance and not bother her. Well you guessed it lol she decieded to take her beautiful butt over to where i was siting and started up a conversation. She asked how i was and how everything was going on in my life and she told me how things were going in her life. We brought up things we talked about when we were semi together a year ago. And this wasnt a chit chat we sat next to each other for a good min talking and laughing a little. We have similar interest in certain things and we are both in the same scene as some would say. She even invited me to come see her at her designer school she is attending. She even decided to tell me about her love life in the past year. Weird right? From she got cheated on and that she currently is with someone. I would say our run in went pretty well. I havent reach out to her since and neither has she. She is a really cool smart lady and i find myself opening up to her easier than most women i have socialized with in the past and i dont know why lol. I tend to keep walls up since in todays world theres a lot of fakeness out. So i guess my question is, why would she try to invite me back into her life even tho she is with someone? And yes, i do like her. Somehow she is able to spark this fire inside me. Quick note we are not connected through any form of social media. I find social media destroys the beauty in getting to know someone... Thanks to anyone reading! Much Love! Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 She didn't really invite you back into her life. She was civil to you because the two of you have mutual friends & you need to find a way to peacefully co-exist. She told you about the new guy so you know where the boundaries are. Until she tells you that the new BF is gone & out of the picture, do nothing except be polite & friendly (but reserved) when you are thrown together socially. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
PRW Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 (edited) So i guess my question is, why would she try to invite me back into her life even tho she is with someone?Why the passivity, the hand-wrining? Why the waiting for something to happen? Those are going to be very unattractive. No woman wants a guy who just sits there spinning in circles and can't make a decision or take any action. If you want to get together with her offer her a date,...I don't mean ask what she "thinks about" a date "sometime",...but an actual date. Nothing I saw in the rest of your message said she was with anyone till just here. So if it is just a guy she is "seeing" or maybe he is a "BF", that is still between them and no concern of yours. The guy can wake up being a BF in the morning and be dumped by supper,...it is not a marriage. If he is on the rocks, one foot out the door, then that is between them. But you have to keep in mind that she may have just been "being nice",...she is happy where she is, and doesn't "want" you. Somehow she is able to spark this fire inside me. Mellow dramatic statements coming from guys always concern me though. It could mean you don't have control of your emotions as you should have which could indicate you will get right back in the same condition you were in before,...leading to you "saying something stupid" again and ruining all of it again. So you have to dominate your emotions, not the he other way around. Edited July 26, 2019 by PRW Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 I suspect she was feeling you out to see if she had made a mistake. I can't tell what her decision was from what you wrote but it may be that she's waiting for some positive sign from you. She already put herself out quite a bit by initiating the conversation. Link to post Share on other sites
Buffer Posted July 27, 2019 Share Posted July 27, 2019 Sounds like she is being polite. I am unsure how hurtful the comment you made was but is she can put it past her and still talk freely with you, embrace it. As she has a BF, don't get your hopes up but be nice she may just start thinking diferently of you. But having said that you should not hold your breaht and can look at greener grass else where. Have fun and good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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