The negative effects of OLD

[Eternal Sunshine]

So I was recently visiting my home country. Over there, online dating is not popular, nobody uses it. Tinder doesn't even exist. So I only spent 5 days there. Over those 5 days, I was approached and asked out by 6 men in real life. It was crazy - more attention than I got in 5 years "in real life" in Australia. And..I didn't go out at all. No bars, clubs or meet-ups. Just went about normal daily things. In addition to that, women in my country are known to be gorgeous and there are almost no overweight people. So it makes no real sense since there is much less competition in that sense in Australia.

 

I wasn't really into any of the men that approached me, but my only conclusion is that online dating has nearly killed being approached in real life.

[PegNosePete]

You can blame it on OLD if you want but it could also be any one of a hundred other things.

[Curiousroxy86]

I don’t see the point of complaining about things out of your control though.

 

I mean you could just accept old

 

You could do old and put your in social settings in real life and get out the house and still be opened to any resources at your disposal to get approached in general whether online or offline and just let go of the outcome

 

Or you could Move back to your country where you get approached a lot

 

Maybe Approach men yourself

 

Or give up on dating all together

 

I mean personally I’d rather just let go of the outcome and use both since you never know when and where your going to meet a quality match and just live your life

[chillii]

lt is a strange world the whole online thing no doubt about it.

But it's an allusion too, this much we see all over forums truth be told.

But at the same time then you were single all those years at home before too anyway right ! Or wound up single by the time you left.

So l wonder how things would be in that way now if you stayed .

Don't worry l've moved too and wonder the same thing.

[Woggle]

It is more than just OLD. Maybe men in your country are not scared to speak to women.

[chillii]

l could understand in the states from the sounds of it why men would be hesitant to speak to strange women , but other places l dunno if it's anything to do with scared.

More like say when l was younger l'd go talk to some stranger chick lf l liked her in that way , but over the years you get to find out that usually she has a bf or h anyway , or tells you that so she's not interested . And the women will still stare even if they're spoken for , means nothin, most of them still enjoy a good look around so to speak but you feel like sayin so wtf were you staring and smiling at me then b@tch, when you have someone at home already.

So for me l soon learned that chatting up strangers was usually a waste of time and stopped bothering.

 

 

Or the second she opened her mouth you were turned off for whatever reason , either way though, the stranger thing never ever went anywhere with me. Parties or in some social form where you could see a bit of someone first before wasting your time turned out a much better way to go imo.

[alphamale]

what is your "home" country ES?

[FMW]

Were you visiting a larger city than the one in which you live?

 

I live in in the middle of the US, in a large city. I'm over 50, as are several of my friends, and we all get approached fairly regularly, by guys in their late 30s on up. I've been approached in grocery stores and even at the place I have a storage unit when I had on a sloppy tshirt and no makeup.

 

After reading many posts here I've come to the conclusion it's about population. There are plenty of single men around so the odds are better that at least some of them will be a little bolder.

[chillii]

Back when my marriage first effd up , when l was ready l was really looking forward to all the online stuff l'd heard and read about,, the allusion had me sucked in too l thought God that's gonna be fun. lt wasn't around before l was married.

 

But l soon found it it was a pretty sorted mess though and 90% of them were either fake or just not someone you'd even wanna meet anyway or this or that. The good thing was though lf you had a good nose and eye, among it all there were a few special women about , few and far between but they were there. And when you didn't have a social life like me at the time , in the end it did prove worthwhile though and l met some damn nice women that were simply on there because they were in the same situation as me basically.

Pros and cons, but at the same time l do think it's a shame that so much of the world seems to be going the whole online thing.

[Springsummer]

Were you visiting a larger city than the one in which you live?

 

I live in in the middle of the US, in a large city. I'm over 50, as are several of my friends, and we all get approached fairly regularly, by guys in their late 30s on up. I've been approached in grocery stores and even at the place I have a storage unit when I had on a sloppy tshirt and no makeup.

 

After reading many posts here I've come to the conclusion it's about population. There are plenty of single men around so the odds are better that at least some of them will be a little bolder.

 

I think ratio probably more important than population. if you live in a city where there is more women than men....