! I reached out after 7months no-contact and we are about to meet 2 days from now!!

[LivingWaterPlease]

How is it selfrespect to not honor my feelings and just let him go like this?

 

I didn't see your question to me earlier. Not sure you'll see my response at this point.

 

Honoring your feelings is something you can do without involving him in it.

 

And you aren't just letting him go like this. He's already gone.

[preraph]

I usually don't have to say this to women: You need to learn to take "no" for an answer and leave the person alone.

[confusedInDenver]

I'm unclear why (mostly women) decide that when a man says POINT BLANK "I don't want a relationship just sex" he is lying and decide he really wants one. MAYBE some women say that so as not to scare the man they do want one with off in the hopes he'll come around. Men classically lie about wanting a relationship to get sex so when one says "I DON'T WANT ONE JUST A CASUAL THING" you can take that as an absolute certainty.

 

I get the heart wants what it wants but IMHO this guy has been pretty cool with you and pretty mature in fact for an immature guy. Many guys would just keep telling you what you want to hear and stringing out the sex for months. He didn't. He might end up being a great guy in a few years indeed but now is not the time, now is not the time for two of you, and he is not the guy for you. Maybe in a few years you reconnect and he's changed so put that in the back of your mind and move and because I PROMISE you if he has changed in a few years and is ready you won't even remember what you liked so much.