HurtwoU Posted September 27, 2005 Share Posted September 27, 2005 ok so heres whats going on with Luke and I. He is a great friend....keyword FRIEND. I want more....I want a relationship with him. i want to be by his side, when hes happy and sad. Today this guy asked me out, I said yea, thinking maybe Ill get over the feelings I have for Luke. I was sitting there thinking.....What in the world am I doing? My heart is Lukes, I cant get involved with this guy. So I told him. He was upset but I hope he understands. Why i said yes in the first place I donno, but anyways.....Luke and I decided to be friends. But how can I be friends with him, when hes all I think about. Hes the one I want to be with. We made amends and we both agreed to stay friends. I was okay with it in the beginning but now im not. I want to sit him down and tell him all this, but what if his reply is he wants to stay friends. Ill feel like a complete as* even bring it up. And also i know what will happen if I sit him down and tell him I want to talk to him. Ill start to studder and Ill make a complete fool of myself. What do I do. What do I say. I feel I need to get this off my chest.....I know I do. My heart is his..... Link to post Share on other sites
Topper Posted September 27, 2005 Share Posted September 27, 2005 Are you more worried that you will loss Luke or are you more worried that you will look like a fool? The real fool is the one who doesn't express her feeling for fear she will look like an idiot. Link to post Share on other sites
Curt Posted September 27, 2005 Moderators Share Posted September 27, 2005 Are you more worried that you will loss Luke or are you more worried that you will look like a fool? The real fool is the one who doesn't express her feeling for fear she will look like an idiot. When you really come down to it, this is the true mark of deep affection for another person... when we are willing to extend our hearts past their ordinary limit, and be vulnerable to the one we care most for. Tell him how you feel. No matter how it turns out, better that he knows how deeply you care for him. Regret not those things done, but those things left undone. Curt Link to post Share on other sites
lovesaddy Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 You know I believed in telling all and stuff and you need to express what you feel and all that crap.I thought I dont care what the result is but the truth is I did and everyone does.I also was in this dilemma for over a year and unfortuantely for me I thought the guy liked me too..but as it turned out,he flirted with a lot of girls..not to say he is a bad person,in fact he could have said ok to a relationship for fun even if he wasnt serious which he didnt.But,he didnt feel the same way.and i didnt know how to take it and though I am an egoistic person I kept asking him why he did this for me why that and all(just because he was being nice),then I questioned myself..whats wrong with me if he doesnt like me and he said nothing and then i kept asking him if there isnt why not have a relation and see how it goes but he was simply not interested though he reluctantly agreed.I kept forcing and pushing him till now we dont talk anymore and its painful as he is the best friend I had and I could tell him everything and take advice from him about anything.ya,maybe he is nice to everyone(but he doesnt hav efrnds in grls..okok..see again i try to add a color to our friendship which just wasnt there)..the deal is i always wanted to marry the guy i love and who was my best frnd and since this guy was my best frnd i thot he was the one for me..so i didnt let go..in a way i hadnt let go till few days back too..but now i have as u see i always wanted to marry the guy i love but dont we want the guy to love us as well and be crazy about us..the guy was the best..he even offered to marry me if it eased my misery but is that what i want?love has to be mutual..thats the only kind..so now i am all alone like before with just memories of our good times.So dear,my advice to u is..throw some hints around and ppl are very sharp at sensing such things and if he is interested he will play along or feel very awkward about it which is when u have to back-up and try to get over it cos it leads to nothing but hurt..trust me...and if u do decide to tell him after all..make sure its in person and wish you all the best! Link to post Share on other sites
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