Plainjane2019 Posted August 4, 2019 Share Posted August 4, 2019 I'll start of by saying 9 months ago I was assaulted by two women they smashed my face in and broke my pelvis in two places recovery to a while to heal from this,so it prevented me being sexually active and I have seemed to of shut myself down the assault has affected me badly mentally ,in February I also had to have my foot fused with pins which has also caused a lot of physical problems, I didnt notice until now how it affected my now ex boyfriend, cut a long story short he dumped me 6 weeks ago for not having a sexual relationship with him as much as we used to ,I begged him over 3 week ago to take me back but he said no and that hes happy I've also heard that hes happy now and hes got a date set up,I'm hurting so much at the moment I just cant understand how hes moved on so soon without taking my feelings into consideration I feel like I had a hard 12 months and hes left me at a time when I needed him the most ,I'm still waiting to go to court over the assault and I'm still waiting to see if my foot has fused correctly, I'm feeling so down and hurting I just want to end it all ,why does the dumper move on so soon did I honestly not mean anything to him ? Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 4, 2019 Share Posted August 4, 2019 Honey your boyfriend is a POS! Look you have to just face that it took you having some physical problems and things not being perfect to reveal what a shallow piece of crap your boyfriend is. This is why it takes so long to get to know someone before you marry them or have kids with them. because sometimes you can't see the real person when things are going well and you have to wait until life takes a bad turn to see that person and what they are made of. his priority is sex and he's truly just does not care very much about you or any other woman as a person. He just wants easy always available sex and he's happy. There are a million guys out there like him so don't think for a minute that if that's what you really want that you can't replace him in a hurry. Anything he did that made you think he really cared was faking it to get what he wanted. When you really needed him he jumped ship. He's an irresponsible shallow jerk and you can't change him. you may be thinking that he was so nice in the beginning and that that's the real person, but that is completely backwards from reality. The longer you know a person the better you know a person. That was just him doing what he needed to do to get sex. You found out at a terrible time that he is not who you hoped he was. And I want you to just remember that and not let yourself stay depressed or to keep chasing him. You deserve better. He was a bad bad boyfriend. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted August 4, 2019 Share Posted August 4, 2019 Screw him. It's when we need people the most is when we find out who our friends really are. And while it hurts, you didn't lose anything in the long run. He proved to you who he really was without so many words. Find a guy that appreciates you and respects you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Plainjane2019 Posted August 4, 2019 Author Share Posted August 4, 2019 I'd like to say a big thankyou for cementing on my post you've both made me feel a little better ,I'm just hurting and like you said he wont change and I need to understand that, thanks again 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 5, 2019 Share Posted August 5, 2019 Don't let him fool you twice. Just rest up and get better and you'll know who your real friends are through this, but don't be afraid to tell your friends or family if you need them more. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Plainjane2019 Posted August 5, 2019 Author Share Posted August 5, 2019 We didnt need pills to assist us ,I just cant do what he wants do to having broken bones and being in pain ,I've heard from another source that hes happy and due to go on a date next week, how can he be so cruel as if I'm not going through enough,I'm now coming upto 4 week no contact which has been so hard to do but I'm sure I'll be okay as time goes on Link to post Share on other sites
Maddie82 Posted August 5, 2019 Share Posted August 5, 2019 If all he cared about was sex while you were going through such an ordeal then you are lucky to be rid of that pos. He clearly only cared about his own needs. I'm really sorry for what you are going through and I hope one day you find a guy that actually cares and treats you the way you deserve 2 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 5, 2019 Share Posted August 5, 2019 What you've been through with those women sounds awful. Were you jumped? I hope they were arrested. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Plainjane2019 Posted August 5, 2019 Author Share Posted August 5, 2019 No I was assaulted for sticking up for my daughter who was also assaulted by one of the same people who assaulted me ,its a bit if a long story ,something I'll have to live with as it has mentally affected me Link to post Share on other sites
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