Is there something wrong with me?

[Berteau]

All my life I have never missed people or worried about them. I feel like I can't love. As I child I never missed my parents or cared if they were around much. I never miss friends if I don't see them for a while. I was never sad or cared when relatives died. This could be uncles or my grandmas.

 

 

 

I am 37 and have never been in love, yet had 4 girls fall in love with me and want to marry me, yet I felt no strong feelings for them. Feelings would never grow.

 

 

I have never had any trauma growing up and no reason to be like this other than that's just how my brain is wired. I'm not a sociopath. I feel empathy towards others.

[alphamale]

you need to see a psychiatrist or therapist that specialized in your issue

[Foxhall]

I dont think there is anything wrong with you,

 

I think you are simply primarily focused on your own welfare,

 

Have you ever been rejected by a close friend or a girl that you particularly fancied,

that can create a defence mechanism which makes it harder for a person to get too emotionally attached to others- they become more detached in a sense for a fear of rejection again,

 

In terms of my own Father, he passed away almost ten years ago now, and my own feelings at the time were somewhat similar to yours,

I felt sad for him but I questioned my own feelings- why was I not more upset say and feeling more emotional.

 

then curiously three years later, I was attending a match with his favourite team and all of a sudden a feeling of genuine sadness came over me and it brought a tear to my eye that he was not there at that particular time,

 

so different people can feel a loss in different ways perhaps. Afterwards I felt better then for finally feeling genuine sadness.

 

Yes I can relate to what you say I suppose, similarly never felt much emotion at the passing of relatives but would feel emotional about a sad accident for a random stranger on the news or whatever,

 

lol might need to see a therapist myself on this one,

[schlumpy]

Has your lack of feeling made you unwilling to help someone in need?

 

Can you cheat people and still sleep at night? Do you have any concern as to how other people regard you?

 

When there is an emergency are you one of the few people that can stay on target while everyone else shouting, "Oh my God! Oh my God?"

 

If you have core values of duty and honor and a code ethics concerning human relations, I'm not sure you will be penalized by your caring disconnect except for the emotional pleasantries of a love affair.

 

Then again many people will tell you that you're not missing that much.

 

I imagine many women would find you quite a love challenge.

 

I think you can still have a happy life without too much difficulty. The majority of us miss out on lots of things in life and we all manage somehow. I wouldn't mind being a bit taller.

 

Just don't tell me you enjoy pulling the wings off flies.

 

 

Best Wishes

[Berteau]

Has your lack of feeling made you unwilling to help someone in need?

 

Can you cheat people and still sleep at night? Do you have any concern as to how other people regard you?

 

When there is an emergency are you one of the few people that can stay on target while everyone else shouting, "Oh my God! Oh my God?"

 

If you have core values of duty and honor and a code ethics concerning human relations, I'm not sure you will be penalized by your caring disconnect except for the emotional pleasantries of a love affair.

 

Then again many people will tell you that you're not missing that much.

 

I imagine many women would find you quite a love challenge.

 

I think you can still have a happy life without too much difficulty. The majority of us miss out on lots of things in life and we all manage somehow. I wouldn't mind being a bit taller.

 

Just don't tell me you enjoy pulling the wings off flies.

 

 

Best Wishes

 

Nope. Like is said, I’m not a sociopath. I feel bad when I hurt people.

[alphamale]

I’m not a sociopath. I feel bad when I hurt people.

 

you're not planning on doing any thing bad are you?