nospam99 Posted August 5, 2019 Share Posted August 5, 2019 This is just an OLD 'report'. It's an observation, not a complaint. So I get messages and six months ago I decided to start keeping score. I'm posting today because I just got the second one in the last two days. And seven total in six months - about the rate at which I USED TO meet women. But since I've been in a 'drought', the only meet in those six months was one of the seven who reached out to me first. My meeting and dating her turned out to be a 'bad idea' that won't be repeated. The women in question are all 'challenged' (I forget - there's some kind of a desirability score that some of you folks post about - can't remember what it is.) But I'm talking about contacts from women who because of some or all factors of appearance, age, or location are probably not getting many men contacting them. The 'children dealbreaker' is not an issue at my age - I'm sure it comes into play for younger women. What is, is. But the point of this thread is to notice that it's not ONLY males who have difficulty finding 'someone'. Link to post Share on other sites
mr_ybor Posted August 5, 2019 Share Posted August 5, 2019 I've only been back on Ok Cupid for three weeks now (and deactivated it yet again last night as I feel like I have to rewrite my profile), and I've got over 80 likes and got only three matches. I assume huge amount of those matches don't even come close to fitting my criteria as the stupid DoubleTake will show people just about anyone and everyone. These women are just too damn lazy to click through to read a profile to find out we're not compatible in the least. I really despise the new Ok Cupid, to be honest. Link to post Share on other sites
shydad Posted August 6, 2019 Share Posted August 6, 2019 the point of this thread is to notice that it's not ONLY males who have difficulty finding 'someone'. Hi nospam99! Yes, I agree with you, men are not the only ones who can have difficulty with OLD. I learned this from my sweetie after I first met her. At my request, she mentioned all of the standard problems...ghosting, non responses, pen pal people, etc. I was surprised. Why was meeting the woman you mentioned a "bad idea" that won't be repeated? Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted August 7, 2019 Share Posted August 7, 2019 Yep , heard all the same stories from women l met when l was on one, most of them had wasted years on bs and gotten nowhere as l always remind the guys . It actually sounded a bit worse tbh. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nospam99 Posted August 7, 2019 Author Share Posted August 7, 2019 Hi nospam99! Yes, I agree with you, men are not the only ones who can have difficulty with OLD. I learned this from my sweetie after I first met her. At my request, she mentioned all of the standard problems...ghosting, non responses, pen pal people, etc. I was surprised. I'm 'talking' about general lack of male interest. So more in the category of 'non responses' and no focus on ghosting and pen pal people. The whole 'non responses thing' is relative. For example I've gotten over 70% non responses, a 'score' that's gotten worse on average as time goes on. Based on my reaction to what I see in their profiles (weight, age, activity level, general appearance), I'd guess that the women who send me unsolicited messages are doing a lot worse than that. Why was meeting the woman you mentioned a ''bad idea'' that won't be repeated? The woman in question is old, much less physically active than I am, and lives much farther away than any other woman I've met. I 'took a chance' on her because of some things she wrote in her unsolicited message that turned out to be exaggerated. Link to post Share on other sites
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