Starswillshine Posted August 5, 2019 Share Posted August 5, 2019 We have children.... do I just toss everything that is just the two of us? Keep it for them? Obviously anything that pertains to them, I keep, but what about all this other stuff? I'm moving, so going through it all. Link to post Share on other sites
DKT3 Posted August 5, 2019 Share Posted August 5, 2019 In a sense anything that isnt a sex toy belongs to the children , doesn't it? They are a result of that union. For example, take your wedding pictures, my daughter has one of ours in her bedroom. Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted August 5, 2019 Share Posted August 5, 2019 It's just a very personal decision that is probably many times made under a cloud of bad emotions. I would do the prudent thing. I would box them up nice and tight and keep them until such time that I felt I was out of the emotional backwash and then decide. You may still set them on fire and toast the destruction with a glass of wine but at least you will know it was what you truly wanted to do. Best Wishes 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Starswillshine Posted August 5, 2019 Author Share Posted August 5, 2019 In a sense anything that isnt a sex toy belongs to the children , doesn't it? They are a result of that union. For example, take your wedding pictures, my daughter has one of ours in her bedroom. We didnt have a wedding so no pictures, so none of that stuff. There are a lot of printed photos of the two of us, but I think i will ditch any that have a digital copy. I tend to keep EVERYTHING. So every hotel key, every concert ticket, movie tickets, etc. Some from our first dates over 22 years ago. Yikes. I have the clothes we wore when we met (I'm sentimental.) My natural inclination is to ditch that because that isnt normal and not something the kids would care to even think about, right? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Starswillshine Posted August 5, 2019 Author Share Posted August 5, 2019 It's just a very personal decision that is probably many times made under a cloud of bad emotions. I would do the prudent thing. I would box them up nice and tight and keep them until such time that I felt I was out of the emotional backwash and then decide. You may still set them on fire and toast the destruction with a glass of wine but at least you will know it was what you truly wanted to do. Best Wishes Ha! I'm a good bit passed the divorce. Just selling my house so having to go through everything. Otherwise, I likely wouldnt even bother to go through it all. But I'm losing a full basement storage area. Link to post Share on other sites
vla1120 Posted August 7, 2019 Share Posted August 7, 2019 My natural inclination is to ditch that because that isnt normal and not something the kids would care to even think about, right? You would be surprised. My daughters wanted everything that had anything to do with our relationship. I split everything between the three of them. I am sentimental, so I would have kept most of it myself, but my controlling "new" husband wouldn't allow it (It's five years later and now I'm getting rid of HIS stuff, too.) Link to post Share on other sites
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