bradt93 Posted August 7, 2019 Share Posted August 7, 2019 Hi you all, so I will be entering my junior year at college at 30 years old this Fall, because of mental health reasons. I'll be a junior and senior next year. The question is what do I have in common with a bunch of 20 and up year olds? IT would also make having a relationship with a girl hard at my college, because they are 10 years under my age. So, what should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted August 7, 2019 Share Posted August 7, 2019 Depending on the school, there'll be varying numbers of "non traditional" (i.e., older) students, male and female. But my advice is not to worry about that and focus on school. ETA: And congrats on going back, man. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author bradt93 Posted August 7, 2019 Author Share Posted August 7, 2019 Depending on the school, there'll be varying numbers of "non traditional" (i.e., older) students, male and female. But my advice is not to worry about that and focus on school. ETA: And congrats on going back, man. Thanks, I actually started this Summer, but this will be my first time at a regular semester at this new college. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 7, 2019 Share Posted August 7, 2019 You don't try to date the traditional pipe line students who are decade younger then you. You find the other students who are just like you . . .coming to college with a bit of experience under their belts. There will be a club or a gathering space for like minded folks who find themselves in minority. Just go find them. Good for you for completing your education Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted August 7, 2019 Share Posted August 7, 2019 The question is what do I have in common with a bunch of 20 and up year olds? That is entirely up to you! To illustrate, if I want to stay current with my step-son (who is about 30 years younger than me), and have some meaningful thoughts about what he's into, and be able to have interesting conversations with him, then it is on me to put in the time and effort to learn about the stuff that he is into, that he finds meaningful and important. I'll tell you right now that it is NOT what I consider important, of value, or meaningful in my own life! If you think that their garbage is somehow 'lesser' than your garbage...then you will necessarily feel that you have nothing in common with them, and will not be able to find the common ground. If that makes sense? Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted August 7, 2019 Share Posted August 7, 2019 I teach classes with people ranging in ages from early 20s to late 50s, the differences in ages makes for a good mix and the dynamics and interactions are pretty good I think most of the time. dont worry about it- theres not a huge difference between 20 and 30 really, many of the ladies may prefer a more mature man anyway:) Link to post Share on other sites
Author bradt93 Posted August 8, 2019 Author Share Posted August 8, 2019 Well my GPA is my main goal. I have to concentrate on my studies. Ignore all the pretty women I see . Link to post Share on other sites
CandiGirlFun Posted August 8, 2019 Share Posted August 8, 2019 Well my GPA is my main goal. I have to concentrate on my studies. Ignore all the pretty women I see . How do you manage this?) Is it abnormal? Link to post Share on other sites
PRW Posted August 8, 2019 Share Posted August 8, 2019 Hi you all, so I will be entering my junior year at college at 30 years old this Fall, because of mental health reasons. Never go around telling anyone that something is a certain way or turned out a certain way due to mental health reason. That is social suicide. What matters is the moment and looking forward. As far as the world is concerned you are perfectly fine and healthy and there is nothing wrong with you. What happens in the therapist's office stays in the therapist's office. BTW - I was 28 the first time I went to a college,...and there isn't/wasn't a thing in the world wrong with me. I'll be a junior and senior next year. The question is what do I have in common with a bunch of 20 and up year olds?Nothing. You are there for an education and to graduate and do something with your self afterwards. It would also make having a relationship with a girl hard at my college, because they are 10 years under my age. You are not there to "pick up chicks". Do you classwork and leave. So, what should I do? Graduate.Get a good job.Build a social life.Make something of yourself. School is just a means to an end,...and the "end" isn't "picking up chicks". 1 Link to post Share on other sites
normal person Posted August 8, 2019 Share Posted August 8, 2019 many of the ladies may prefer a more mature man anyway:) From my experience when they say they prefer a "mature" man, they mean one who has a job and things going for him already. Not one who's a decade behind the curve. OP runs a sizable risk of looking creepy and predatory if he pushes too hard with 20 year olds, I echo the comments saying he should stick to the women his own age in a similar situation. Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted August 8, 2019 Share Posted August 8, 2019 Take a night class, those students tend to be older. But keep in mind, most night students have already put in a full day at work and won't feel much like talking or dating after class ends. You never know, you might find a "needle in a haystack". 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author bradt93 Posted August 9, 2019 Author Share Posted August 9, 2019 There has to be some type of club on campus I can join with people my own age. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 9, 2019 Share Posted August 9, 2019 dude, the better you do in school the better opportunities you will have later on...focus on school like GT said. Forget about chicks for now, there will be plenty of time for them later Link to post Share on other sites
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