lostgirl123 Posted September 27, 2005 Share Posted September 27, 2005 My ex and I were getting so close (I posted my story here previously), and because of my one minute of neediness, we are no longer talking. And when I try to talk to him, he just mumbles one word answers. I hate going to work now, because I have to face him sitting in front of me everyday ignoring me. I try to ignore him too, but it's so much harder to ignore a person when they act like you did the wrong thing and act so angry at you. I already tried to be understanding and apologized for everything I did, saying him I'll give him the space and time he needs. Not to get back together, but something simpler - as friends. So why is it that he acts like I did something really horrible to him that I can't be forgiven? I first assumed that he wasn't angry at me specifically, just not happy in general, so I emailed him thinking of ways to cheer him up...but all I get is a "I'm not unhappy". ARGH it's so frustrating! He's the one who dumped ME...he's the one who hurt ME...so why does he have to act like I'M the one that did something wrong all along? Or is this what guys do when they need their cave space? Will they bounce back when they're ready? Or do I have to feel like I'm the one who wronged him for my entire life? Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted September 27, 2005 Share Posted September 27, 2005 He's the one who dumped ME...he's the one who hurt ME...so why does he have to act like I'M the one that did something wrong all along? Or is this what guys do when they need their cave space? Will they bounce back when they're ready? Or do I have to feel like I'm the one who wronged him for my entire life? It's a defensive measure to keep his feelings in check. In the future, don't date co-workers. This is what it leads to. Link to post Share on other sites
georgiagirl76 Posted September 27, 2005 Share Posted September 27, 2005 I think you are missing the big picture here. You said it was just one mistake however even in your post breakup behavior you are exhibiting all the behavior that made him leave in the first place. He said that you wanted his time 24/7 and you said you had changed. However, texting him, giving him gifts, and all of that contact doesn't give anyone the impression that you have. It sounds like it was a pattern. He asked for space and you have yet to give it to him- his indifference to you is because he is most likely annoyed with the fact that you don't get it. Also, he isn't unhappy because the more you show him you can't be without him the more he is going to realize that his reasoning for breaking up (you were too clingy) was right. You need to stop involving yourself with him. Treat him as a co-worker and nothing else. Work on being there for yourself first instead of needing him or anyone else. Hang in there Link to post Share on other sites
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