I think my mom is being pathetic.

[Rayce]

Thanks. I have been biting my attitude lately. Just kind of irritated that I have to be patient and be there for her when she was never there for me! The only thing that's keeping me from snapping is remembering that she is my mom and I'd feel sad if she died and I'd been an ******* to her.

 

The mother daughter relationship is complex... It's ok to take a break even a long one from your mom and your dad for awhile to sort their own life out. Live yours and meet up for holidays and share with them what's going on in your life. Wishing you and your family peace.

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[vla1120]

I spent a lot of time being angry at my mom because she had depression and spent much of my childhood sleeping. I basically raised my younger sisters, so I get your frustration with feeling like your mom is weak and doesn't pull her weight in the household. Unlike your dad, my step dad did nothing to help. I was the oldest daughter, so it fell on my shoulders. I could not get out of there fast enough and the fastest way out was to join the U.S. Navy. You should do what you need to do to get out on your own. Your mom and dad's relationship is between them, and though she is not behaving in the best way possible, the best you can do is contribute what help you can to the household and encourage your mom to go back to work, for her own sanity and welfare, until you can make it on your own, then the problem is her's and your dad's.

[Vanity1]

Do I know if your mom has menopause? Nope. But a doctor's appointment would sure verify it for her. And if she has it, she needs hormonal replacement therapy, CBT therapy, and probably an antidepressant. Otherwise, she's probably like my roommate who never gets out of her bed, for any reason.

 

She finally lost her period sometime this year. She has been menopausing for sometime. I spoke to her after reading your posts and suggested she looked into menopause and what he does to your hormones. Yes I was very kind and respectful. She said yeah I know but I don’t want to take anything if I don’t need it. Like everything else that’s important to talk about it, she brushes it under the rug and downplays it. I told her but she has been moody. she got offended. I cannot talk to that lady.

 

 

Regarding your roommate..Maybe his mother thinks he’s old enough to make his own food, she at least has food for him in the fridge?

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[Watercolors]

She finally lost her period sometime this year. She has been menopausing for sometime. I spoke to her after reading your posts and suggested she looked into menopause and what he does to your hormones. Yes I was very kind and respectful. She said yeah I know but I don’t want to take anything if I don’t need it. Like everything else that’s important to talk about it, she brushes it under the rug and downplays it. I told her but she has been moody. she got offended. I cannot talk to that lady.

 

 

Regarding your roommate..Maybe his mother thinks he’s old enough to make his own food, she at least has food for him in the fridge?

 

My mother became a paranoid-angry-rager when she went through menopause; she put the rest of us through hell for about 5 years. We were all relieved when suddenly one day, she was docile again. No wonder I have blood pressure problems now!

 

Hey, at least you brought menopause up to your mom. As that saying goes, "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink." Your mom sounds like she's very stubborn, like she's the type of strong personality who does things on her own time table regardless of what others tell her? You've done your daughterly duty, so if she chooses not to pursue a doctor visit to confirm that the cause of her behavior is due to hormonal changes well there's nothing anyone can do. Believe me, I FEEL your frustration. I really do. Hang in there. Just hang in there. Ignore her outbursts. Don't let her suck you into her hormonal drama.

 

I'm not sure what my roommate's teenage son's lifestyle routine at her house is. He sure acts entitled, I'll say that much. He ALSO stays in his room all day and school starts up after Labor Day. I wonder if either of them will get into gear when his high school starts school again. Not that I mind helping out, b/c frankly I had no place to go as this was my best option. But, I feel like the maid here and it's sort of annoying. I never had kids of my own, so I forgot how entitled teenagers are in general. I think that too is hormonal. Damn, his mom has menopause, he's got puberty. CALGON TAKE ME AWAY!! :lmao: