jg8407 Posted August 9, 2019 Share Posted August 9, 2019 My ex (21M) and I (20M) have recently split after almost three years due to his mental issues. He has a pretty bad avoidant attachment style, and we agreed that he needs to seek therapy for his issues. He is unable to support ANYONE, and any close relations make him shut down and push everyone away. I tried my best to support him throughout the relationship, but I just felt so bad about myself because of how he was so distant in the relationship. IÂ’ve been pretty down this past week, and I feel like a large part of my life is now gone for good. We talked about coming back together in the future if his therapy is a success, but that is a huge if. I would like to have a future with him but only if he is able to overcome his distant/avoidant attachement. I havenÂ’t found myself crying as much as I thought I would, but I just have this general feeling of sadness and lack of motivation that is tearing me down. I am coming on here just to find a place where I can help myself heal and move past all of this. IÂ’m usually seen as the happy guy, so telling people I am sad is very hard for me. Seeing othersÂ’ stories about this struggle also helps A LOT. I wish I could skip all the pain and move on immediately, but I guess that is life! Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted August 9, 2019 Share Posted August 9, 2019 If you are staying I strongly recommend that you seek individual therapy for yourself and if not that attempt to find a group that shares your problem and attend their meetings or a least read their literature and postings. Link to post Share on other sites
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