Marriage For The Kids Instead of Love

[Saturn98]

The only way I would ever see myself getting married and asking a woman to marry me is if I got her pregnant unintentionally.

 

I do believe that once a woman is pregnant the right thing for a man to do is marry her as quickly as possible for the sake of the kid. The baby needs a father and mother in that house. Forget about my own interest level. Once she is pregnant the party's over. My low interest level is not an issue anymore.

 

20 years later when the kid is grown up I can file for divorce if I want to.

 

Other than that I would not propose to my girlfriend. I am due for a vasectomy in September so I have no chance of getting her pregnant.

[Foxhall]

the woman is hardly going to marry you under such circumstances!

 

not in my country anyway, where the benefits for single mothers are so good

 

you can still play an important role with visitation rights and financial support,

 

the fact that both of you around to contribute to the child's upbringing is good enough,

 

it would be unreasonable to push for a loveless marriage,

 

the child needs to live in a happy home too, let the woman marry a man who there is genuine love with and then the child has two Dads and a good home environment,

 

how would you feel about an other man raising your child?

[MetallicHue]

I guess OP what are you wanting to hear? What is your question? Some people want to get married, others don’t for various reasons. Some want kids and some don’t too.

[Els]

The baby needs a father and mother in that house.

 

 

That might not be your decision to make. She may choose to decline your obviously suspicious offer and file for child support instead.

 

 

 

I am due for a vasectomy in September so I have no chance of getting her pregnant.

 

 

Maybe you want to abstain beforehand just in case...

[elaine567]

From your other posts you seem to be a novice dater, why are you getting a vasectomy?

[Saturn98]

From your other posts you seem to be a novice dater, why are you getting a vasectomy?

 

To be prepared for any kind of temptation. I'm still human with weaknesses after-all.

[mark clemson]

To be prepared for any kind of temptation. I'm still human with weaknesses after-all.

 

 

Having unprotected sex while dating around is a BAD idea, my friend.

 

Just saying...

[preraph]

Glad you're getting a vasectomy. Chances are a woman wouldn't marry you just because you accidentally got her pregnant unless you'd been together at least a couple of years.

[Saturn98]

Glad you're getting a vasectomy. Chances are a woman wouldn't marry you just because you accidentally got her pregnant unless you'd been together at least a couple of years.

 

Women can marry for the wrong reasons too so you never know. She might see it to her advantage to marry me for conveinence. It is not uncommon for couples to marry for reasons other than love.