Husband said he couldn't have an intelligent conversation with me

[Amethyst68]

I disagree because this was a social gathering in their home and the two had separated themselves from the group and chose to conduct business during what should have been family time.

 

The appropriate response to her jab should have been: "You're right, tonight is about levity and business can wait."

 

He went for the jugular in response to a scratch.

 

Really? At every party I've been at there's been a multitude of different types of conversations, yes even at family get togethers. In fact family gatherings often have serious groupings and discussions in them because it's natural to want to discuss things that have been bugging you with people you are close to. This includes work things with people who get 'it'.

 

Not every party is 'fun fun fun' all the time.

[oldlion]

I would think that the tone of his voice and his facial expression in delivering the comment would tell his true feelings. If the comment was said in a harsh and rude way and the facial expression showed this, then you were not over reacting. I disagree with you walking away. If you truly felt disrespected you should have dumped a drink on his head and told him you would not be talked to in that way. You are his wife and not his whipping boy. I do wish you well.

[Inspire]

If it was a serious conversation you should have given him the space to finish talking to his brother. I know you were just teasing, but maybe it was an inopportune time. He apologized for it, and I think you should have apologized to him as well.

[ajequals]

Although he didn't take being teased very well I can't say the reply pointed directly at you , IMHO

[snowcones]

You're going to have to find peace on your own and independent of what your husband or anyone else says, with your decision to stay at home with the kids. That's first and foremost. Next, your husband is going to have find peace with it on his own. This is very important. It's a good sign that he apologized but I would talk with him to dig deeper to find out if he apologized because he really meant it. Get his true thoughts on you staying home and then come back.