TheCasual Posted August 13, 2019 Share Posted August 13, 2019 So a few weeks ago I had an amazing few days. I went to see my guitar hero, Johnny Marr and then had a weekend in Swansea for Hull City's first game of the season. Great food and ended up partying with Hen party. I went back to work on the Monday and was on a proper downer all week. My mate invited me to a party last Saturday, I only knew two or three people. But everyone seemed really chatty and friendly. Especially one lady who was there with her husband. Her husband got really drunk and ended up falling asleep. We sat on the doorstep and chatted for ages. She got really touchy, feely. Keep stroking my inner thigh and hand. We ended in the kitchen and she got even and more flirty and we ended up kissing. I vaguely remember her talking about having an affair. She added me on Facebook. I messaged her telling her that it was nice meeting her and I apologized for my behavior. She wanted to meet for coffee, but I've said it isn't a good idea. I feel worse now and have a sense of shame, embarrassment, and such a downer. I dare not even message my mate who hosted the party. Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted August 13, 2019 Share Posted August 13, 2019 Sounds very much like you just avoided getting sucked into an affair (or possibly something less common, such as a cuckold fetish situation). Either way, walk away and don't let it bother you too much. This woman is probably trying to end her marriage (by taking a public risk like this) or possibly just a nutcase. You don't need to be a vehicle for her self-destructive behavior. There are those who might suggest you tell the Husband about it. You'll have to decide if that's something your personal morals/ethics would support. If you do, you might have to deal with significant anger from him. ("You LET her touch your thigh!", etc...) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted August 13, 2019 Share Posted August 13, 2019 If I were you, I'd pretend it never happened. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted August 13, 2019 Share Posted August 13, 2019 Agree. a shut mouth catches no flies, you dont know these people anyway and probably wont meet them again. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 13, 2019 Share Posted August 13, 2019 this sort of secret should go to one's grave 2 Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted August 13, 2019 Share Posted August 13, 2019 Brush it off and move on. You've apologized and that's all you can do. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Veronica73 Posted August 13, 2019 Share Posted August 13, 2019 (edited) I wouldn’t worry about it I were you. I mean, I know you knew she was married and all, and you shouldn’t have kissed her, but ultimately it’s her job to be faithful and to maintain the sanctity of their marriage. You didn’t marry the guy. She did. You don’t even know these people. She’s probably done more and worse with other guys. Let it go and move on. (But stay away from her!) P.S. I think one of my very first posts on these forums was about a very similar situation! Although I don’t think I felt ALL that bad about it. I felt *somewhat* bad about it, I thought it was the wrong thing to do, and worried that people would find out. But I actually enjoyed it too. As long as you don’t do it again...I don’t think it’s something you should worry about. PPS. And please don’t let this negatively affect your relationship with your friend. Just don’t mention it. If he says something, then I guess you’ll need to deal with it. But otherwise, just keep quiet about it and go on as you normally would. Edited August 13, 2019 by Veronica73 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted August 13, 2019 Share Posted August 13, 2019 We ended in the kitchen and she got even and more flirty and we ended up kissing. I vaguely remember her talking about having an affair. Were I a betting man, I'd wager you're neither the first guy ending up in her kitchen with hubby passed out upstairs, nor will you be the last. Dodged a bullet... Mr. Lucky 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheCasual Posted August 14, 2019 Author Share Posted August 14, 2019 Firstly I want to thank people for not ripping into me. I thought I'd be crucified. I've no intention of having anything to do with. I just wish the guilt, embarrassment and fed upness would disappear. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheCasual Posted August 15, 2019 Author Share Posted August 15, 2019 I spoke to my mate who hosted the party. I apologised for what happened. He said he preferred it if it wasn't in his house and accepted my apology. We're going for dinner next week. I'm trying to forget what happened and move on. I still don't feel great though. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
snowcones Posted August 16, 2019 Share Posted August 16, 2019 Every now and then you will encounter a desperate married person. (just wait until you hit 35 and up, it gets worse) Just reject them like you did and don't even think twice about it. It's their problem that they are trying to lob onto you. Forget about it and keep focusing on what you really want. Now you are aware. #StayWoke 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheCasual Posted August 17, 2019 Author Share Posted August 17, 2019 Every now and then you will encounter a desperate married person. (just wait until you hit 35 and up, it gets worse) Just reject them like you did and don't even think twice about it. It's their problem that they are trying to lob onto you. Forget about it and keep focusing on what you really want. Now you are aware. #StayWoke I'm only 31. I guess I still have all that to come TBF she was 36 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted August 17, 2019 Share Posted August 17, 2019 Cut off/block all contact. She was looking for her next victim. Link to post Share on other sites
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