What would you do for Love

[Mysterio]

I have three friends. They all have their ladies. This is what they did in order for them to be together.

 

I am wondering if the men would do the same. Women if your viewing this. You can flip the gender to suit you as well.

 

TD. Met his lady on line. She lives in a different city 14 hrs away. Once a month. He played around with his work cycle and got to spend 6 days with her a month from 2004 to 2009. He moved to her city. They have a child. They are not married.

 

DT. His Ex GF looked him on Facebook. They went out with me to a Mardi Gra social in Feb 2013. She got him to meet the 2 kids in March of 2013. I actually met them at the same time as I was at DT place. She is still Married to her EX and can't get Divorced from him. DT and her have 2 bio kids and he moved into her house and is paying the Mortgage. I don't know how she managed to get him to do that, while she can't get out of her Marriage and her Ex has a GF, so its not like the Ex wants to get back with her. DT proposed 2 yrs ago. She still can't get out of it.

 

GJ. Met his GF on line in our city. She moved to be with her father. GJ's only out of wedlock son had some personal issues. That resulted in the son having to go to treatment. Even though he could be with his GF later. He quit his job to go be with his GF. Leaving his son in a treatment centre and GJ is not rich and has a lot of money to throw around. GJ is separated from his wife. The Wife is not the sons bio mom. I had a talk with GJ about at least staying in town, until his Son got better a delay of 6 months. GJ said he had to be with his GF. He always has been delaying a change. GJ and his GF came back 3 months later as the other city was two expensive to live. GJ's Lady is a single mom/bi polar and can't work because of OCD. Although when he met her she was working. GJ has to work 5-6 days a week and 16 hours 2 times a week to keep them afloat.

 

 

So I ask this. Are my Male friends headed for heartache in the end with their ladies?

 

Contrast to that. 3 of my other male friends that are married. Their wives did not have any of what I have stated with the women above.

Sometimes. Even though I think I want a romantic relationship. There is a part of me that says. It has to be good or I am not missing out.

[Foxhall]

TD- they are going strong since 2004 so perhaps he is happy enough.

 

DT: He could be in over his head alright- hes seemingly in love though in his own head at least, for the time being.

 

GJ: His situation is perhaps the most worrying. whatever about heartache, his health and mental sanity could be jeopardised.

[Mr. Lucky]

Assuming happiness is their goal, two of your three friends have made life choices pushing that finish line further away.

 

Regular marriages and relationships are hard enough. Mixing in unresolved previous unions, kids with different mothers, mental disorders and lurking exes just adds to the uphill climb.

 

Luck is the residue of design....

 

Mr. Lucky

[chillii]

l dunno , l wouldn't do some of the stuff your friends have done. But if scales are tipped in fav of one decision or another and it's manageable, and that she'd do the same for me, as long as it was real love l'd do what l could and so would she.

 

My women travels to mine , 12hours, and she'll move here later. Because l have a business and my daughter. On the other hand her city is insane expensive and she has no reason to stay there anyway, so all up, it's better that it's mine.

[Mysterio]

Good for you Chilli that your Lady is accommodating. I just feel like both sides need to be accommodating

 

DT's lady to me only gets her way because, DT is introverted and is obsessed with his Digital Entertainment. If I was in his situation, My Ex could not look me up on Facebook. Rekindle our love. I move into her house and start paying the mortgage and have bio kids with her. On top of her kids. No way. I would say if you want that to happen. Your getting legally Divorced before any Cohabiting/Kids happen.

 

DT should have done that. Seen what she would have done. DT's Lady does not have a bunch of guys chasing her as well and its not that she is average looking. She just does not have that methodical thinking. On DT's side. DT probably loves that she just jumped in his lap love wise. He did nothing to make it happen.

 

I just see my other friends that have successful relationships. They are strong, because they did things Right in my mind. Went out a long time. Were not wrapped up with other things before they married.

[nospam99]

Couldn't resist responding to the subject question

[Mysterio]

TD's fate is going to be raising his one kid too Adulthood. They stay together, but if R cheats on him. Its game over, because TD did a lot to have them be together like changing his work cycle and leaving his hometown. So I don't see him working things out. This is based on his personality. I don't see him having an affair on R either.

 

GJ is going to stay with M until they implode. He will not marry her or get his legal Divorce unless GJ's exwife meets a new guy. If the New Guy says if you want to be with me, you need to divorce GJ. Then it will happen. M just has to live with it. She has been for the Last 4 yrs. GJ having a woman is like a security blanket. He does not like being single.

 

DT is the one where I see problems arising. DT to me is letting his woman C, run his life. Its not like DT was like lets get pregnant and live together after 2 yrs. While your Divorce is in limbo. The reason why DT has this happening is that DT is lazy with his relationship. He knows that having a GF for him is rare and C basically dropped into his lap. He did not have to do major courting. Its one of those rare situations where his EX-C came back into his life in a romantic way. He either goes with it or not. She treats him well. Its just that C's ex does not want to play ball and divorce her. Yet C'sEx husband was the one that wanted the separation. I don't know what type of game he was playing. I think he was trying to bully her and then take her back, but then she got hooked on DT and they never got back together.

 

I don't know why its that hard to get divorced these days. C's older son now lives with the bio father. So basically its just shared custody with the daughter who will be 16 soon. So in two yrs she will be 18 in 2021. So come 2021. C's ex won't have any custody issues with C. There is no Property issues that I hear about. It just agitates me that DT can live in this toxic style. If that was me. No way could my EX GF bring that situation around me. She would have to be divorced at least, before anything got off the ground.