Bantosm Posted August 18, 2019 Share Posted August 18, 2019 After a period of dating, and at the onset of the relationship would you compare: "I'm in love with you" and "You're my favorite person to be with" as equal if not what differences would you imply in those statements? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted August 18, 2019 Share Posted August 18, 2019 I wouldn't imply anything without a deeper understanding of the relationship. Context is important. Link to post Share on other sites
Vanity1 Posted August 18, 2019 Share Posted August 18, 2019 You're my favorite person to be with- I have the best times with with you, you're more fun than the other people in my life, You bring the most joy. I'm inlove with you- means just that. I don't think they're the same or equal. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted August 18, 2019 Share Posted August 18, 2019 "I'm in love with you". pretty self explanatory. "You are my favorite person to be with", could be applied to anyone, a bf/gf. a friend, a work colleague, a family member... Anyone close that you share times together with. Of course some people have lots of people they may describe in the same way, so best not to get too focused on the "favorite" bit. It is more of a loose compliment, so in dating it probably means " I am interested, but I am not "in love" yet." But as basil has said it all depends on context. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bantosm Posted August 18, 2019 Author Share Posted August 18, 2019 I gave the general context for these statements. Being love with someone is completely subjective. Some people fall in love easily and some fall out of love just as just as readily. I think being someone's favorite person to be with, is a more powerful statement because it means that they would rather spend time with that person over other people that they genuinely love such as friends and family. Link to post Share on other sites
Watercolors Posted August 18, 2019 Share Posted August 18, 2019 Given the fact that words are like wind and mean nothing when blown around, those two statements taken in whatever context presented, mean absolutely zilch. Words mean nothing. Actions mean everything. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bantosm Posted August 18, 2019 Author Share Posted August 18, 2019 Given the fact that words are like wind and mean nothing when blown around, those two statements taken in whatever context presented, mean absolutely zilch. Words mean nothing. Actions mean everything. Statements are actions. They are declarations which have consequences. No different than swearing to tell the truth under oath or saying wedding vowels when getting married. Surely, you can't think that perjury or breaking weddings vowels mean absolutely zilch? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lana-banana Posted August 18, 2019 Share Posted August 18, 2019 After a period of dating, and at the onset of the relationship would you compare: "I'm in love with you" and "You're my favorite person to be with" as equal if not what differences would you imply in those statements? There is no period of time after which I would compare these statements or consider them equal. They aren't the same. One simply suggests infatuation or limerence; the other is just a statement that doesn't necessarily involve any kind of romantic affection. And neither of these are remotely the same as "I love you". This is very weird. It's like you put out an apple and an orange and asked under what circumstances we'd admit they're the same. Link to post Share on other sites
Watercolors Posted August 18, 2019 Share Posted August 18, 2019 Statements are actions. They are declarations which have consequences. No different than swearing to tell the truth under oath or saying wedding vowels when getting married. Surely, you can't think that perjury or breaking weddings vowels mean absolutely zilch? A spoken "statement" is not the same as a physical "action." You can't say they are the same thing because they are not the same thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Watercolors Posted August 18, 2019 Share Posted August 18, 2019 There is no period of time after which I would compare these statements or consider them equal. They aren't the same. One simply suggests infatuation or limerence; the other is just a statement that doesn't necessarily involve any kind of romantic affection. And neither of these are remotely the same as "I love you". This is very weird. It's like you put out an apple and an orange and asked under what circumstances we'd admit they're the same. I agree with you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bantosm Posted August 18, 2019 Author Share Posted August 18, 2019 There is no period of time after which I would compare these statements or consider them equal. They aren't the same. One simply suggests infatuation or limerence; the other is just a statement that doesn't necessarily involve any kind of romantic affection.Specifically, which of the statements are you matching with your definitions? And neither of these are remotely the same as "I love you".One of the statements was "I'm in love with you" in what world is that not not the remotely the same as "l love you"? Besides each were implied romantic statements so to makes the apples to oranges comparison is nonsense. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bantosm Posted August 18, 2019 Author Share Posted August 18, 2019 A spoken "statement" is not the same as a physical "action." Nonsense. Adding physical to the word action is completely unnecessary by definition of action: "the process of doing something, or something done, esp. for a particular purpose" https://dictionary.cambridge.org/us/dictionary/english/action"[/Quote] 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lana-banana Posted August 18, 2019 Share Posted August 18, 2019 (edited) Statements are actions. They are declarations which have consequences. Outside of a court of law or an interrogation with law enforcement/federal officials, this is completely false. Statements are not actions and statements do not have consequences. "I want coffee" is not an action, not a declaration, and carries no consequences. It's a string of words. A statement carries only as much weight as the speaker intends. No different than swearing to tell the truth under oath or saying wedding vowels when getting married. This is also so incorrect I hardly know where to start. Casual conversation is not the same as sworn testimony or wedding vows (I think you mean wedding vows, no?). Similarly, there are no consequences for telling someone they are your favorite person, or that you're in love with them. I have told men I was in love with them. Eventually I no longer was. That did not mean I lied to them when I said I was in love, only that I no longer loved them. There were no consequences. How could there have been? Surely, you can't think that perjury or breaking weddings vowels mean absolutely zilch? I am deeply weirded out by the implication that "I'm in love with you" is somehow on the same level as a wedding vow or sworn testimony. Being in love is pure infatuation, lust, excitement, imagination, hormones and giddiness. You usually spend the first 6-18 months falling in love with someone. It's worlds removed from actually loving someone, which is the bone-deep affection that comes after you've really gotten to know somebody and persists even when you don't particularly like them in a given moment. And, as Watercolors pointed out, none of these statements have any more weight than the speaker intends. Someone can say "I'm in love with you" and not really mean it, or think they mean it at the time, or not understand what those words are supposed to mean. Similarly, "You're my favorite person" can mean "you're my favorite person to talk to", "you're my favorite person to do things with", or even "I don't have a lot of real friends". Or it can be an empty compliment that they say just to get closer to you! The words themselves are meaningless. It's the actions behind them that count. If the actions and words are consistent, then you can trust that they're sincere. But they aren't always. Are you on the spectrum by any chance? Edited August 19, 2019 by lana-banana 2 Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted August 19, 2019 Share Posted August 19, 2019 Just wondered why you asked this particular question, OP? Is this something that is affecting you personally? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bantosm Posted August 19, 2019 Author Share Posted August 19, 2019 Outside of a court of law or an interrogation with law enforcement/federal officials, this is completely false. Statements are not actions and statements do not have consequences. "I want coffee" is not an action, not a declaration, and carries no consequences. It's a string of words. A statement carries only as much weight as the speaker intends. Statements are actions by the definition I cited above. This is also so incorrect I hardly know where to start. Casual conversation is not the same as sworn testimony or wedding vows (I think you mean wedding vows, no?). Similarly, there are no consequences for telling someone they are your favorite person, or that you're in love with them. Of course there are consequences for telling someone you're in love them or that they are your favorite person. I have told men I was in love with them. Eventually I no longer was. That did not mean I lied to them when I said I was in love, only that I no longer loved them. There were no consequences. How could there have been?Obviously there was consequences to telling those men you loved them or else there would be no point for you to do so. I am deeply weirded out by the implication that "I'm in love with you" is somehow on the same level as a wedding vow or sworn testimony. Being in love is pure infatuation, lust, excitement, imagination, hormones and giddiness. You usually spend the first 6-18 months falling in love with someone. It's worlds removed from actually loving someone, which is the bone-deep affection that comes after you've really gotten to know somebody and persists even when you don't particularly like them in a given moment.There is no timeline for when you can qualify when two people are in love. And, as Watercolors pointed out, none of these statements have any more weight than the speaker intends. Someone can say "I'm in love with you" and not really mean it, or think they mean it at the time, or not understand what those words are supposed to mean. Similarly, "You're my favorite person" can mean "you're my favorite person to talk to", "you're my favorite person to do things with", or even "I don't have a lot of real friends". Or it can be an empty compliment that they say just to get closer to you! The words themselves are meaningless. It's the actions behind them that count. If the actions and words are consistent, then you can trust that they're sincere. But they aren't always. The statements were assumed to be genuine. Are you on the spectrum by any chance? No and don't insinuate for ad hominem attacks. I'd willing to bet that you are using using socketpuppet account in this thread. Something fishy going this thread has decent views but it is has blue color for low activity, hmm? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bantosm Posted August 19, 2019 Author Share Posted August 19, 2019 Just wondered why you asked this particular question, OP? Is this something that is affecting you personally? No, they were discussing it on a radio program. I was curious of some more opinions so I posted it here. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted August 20, 2019 Share Posted August 20, 2019 "You're my favorite person to be with" To me, the above would indicate you're headed to the friendzone. Fine if you're looking for companionship, less promising if romance is your goal... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted August 20, 2019 Share Posted August 20, 2019 (edited) "I'm in love with you," IMO, expresses a weightier sentiment than "You're my favorite person to be with." Edited August 20, 2019 by LivingWaterPlease Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyM Posted August 20, 2019 Share Posted August 20, 2019 Very different statements, not at all equal, anyone should know this. You could be a platonic favorite person to be with. That's a long way from love. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bantosm Posted August 20, 2019 Author Share Posted August 20, 2019 To me, the above would indicate you're headed to the friendzone. Fine if you're looking for companionship, less promising if romance is your goal... Friendzone are you serious? Friendzone is like when a women tells a man who is interested in her about other men she's interested in or she's not not intimate. Neither of those would apply when when most people decide to pursue a romantic relationship together. Besides those two statements came from a radio interview with Jacqueline Bisset, an actress who never married. There were two men that she came closest to marrying. She described being in love with one and considered the other to be her favorite person to be with. Link to post Share on other sites
Fekenaws Posted August 20, 2019 Share Posted August 20, 2019 I didn't tell my last girlfriend I loved until 6 months into dating her My last girlfriend didn't tell me I was her best friend until 8-10 months into dating I don't think it really matters tbh Link to post Share on other sites
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