Husband's coworkers - should i worry?

[redhead22]

He refuses therapy or counseling. He said- if u feel the need to go to counseling, go the f### on. I will not be wasting my time.

 

 

Forgot to add this- yesterday when he was stressed about how to respond to her and what he would say the next time she texts, he cried “she has been nothing but good to us!” I was like- how the he$$ has she been good for us or me? He said she was a patient boss when he had to miss work because of our child health problems. I said “That is because she likes you! How naive are you???”

[Beendaredonedat]

He refuses therapy or counseling. He said- if u feel the need to go to counseling, go the f### on. I will not be wasting my time.

Then why don't you go to personal therapy? Maybe if you do you'll garner the strength and maturity to see this relationship for what it is and get yourself out of it.

 

 

Forgot to add this- yesterday when he was stressed about how to respond to her and what he would say the next time she texts, he cried “she has been nothing but good to us!” I was like- how the he$$ has she been good for us or me? He said she was a patient boss when he had to miss work because of our child health problems. I said “That is because she likes you! How naive are you???”

He's emotionally connected to her and is making her a priority over you. He now completely resents you for putting a stop to (or trying to) their involvement.

 

If YOU change nothing then you will always get what you've always gotten.

[redhead22]

So tonight he is slight remorseful and apologized several times for his behavior. I told him we need to sit down and discuss boundaries in the workplace. He said he never had issues with my boundaries (no $hit Sherlock- I’m not the one dining alone with women, texting women, defending other women, putting my spouse last).