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I'm as critical of modern feminism as anybody but I never got the appeal of being used as a walking wallet by a woman. The issue today is that some people don't know the difference between an equal relationship and an antagonistic one. I want an equal partner in every way and I never ask anything of a woman I am not willing to deliver myself but if she were to make every little thing a battle then I would leave.

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l dunno what the big deal is dd.

l'm not in the states but after my marriage had no problem meeting old school women here of all sorts.

l wasn't looking for say what your talking about as such, just someone with time, just time, to do what she wants like l can.

My ex was just work work work she didn't have to be there was no need but that basically killed it for me . l wanted her home more l was home more had my little business only needed to work part time she didn't have to be doing what she was.

Oddly enough though my gf is the opposite, Most important to her is just us and our life together . She doesn't have much money only works pt but she likes helping me and just looking after us and stuff.

And oddly , to your post anyway, she really looks after herself and our - won't go into detail , is one of the most important things to us and to her.

l'm not rich not even close .

l did hope to meet someone a bit more financial but eh , can't have everything. She does own a place outright , rents it out, close enough for me she's done ok, just wants a real life now like l do.

lf your in the states isn't it very multicultural there anyway l never get what guys are complaining about , must be a smorgas board just meet women from other backgrounds .

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thefooloftheyear
Daddy Dom is well known for wanting young women (hence his name). Are your cousins who do this also young? What happens when the relationship ends and their resume has big holes in it like this? They can't be very employable. I guess they just go and find another sugar daddy.

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Thanks for the background info...Did not know that..

 

Anyway, yes, these women are all in 40's and 50's and look dynamite...Some even better than their daughters...They have careers or are vital parts of their husbands businesses...They just were cognizant about not letting themselves go...There would not be resume holes, and even if there were, they probably would have enough at that point to survive just fine with a mediocre paying job....

 

Some women(men as well) understand that keeping themselves looking good opens doors at any stage of life...Maybe its a geographic thing as well....Good looking and fit women, even older with grown kids, abound here..

 

And also just a note to those that think its some enormous, expensive effort to keep looking good, it really isn't ….Heck, people could make life changing improvements in themselves with a fraction of the time they waste on social media, forums, etc...

 

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TFY

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Agree. Improvements in health tend to = improvements in looks as well. It doesn't have to be the huge beauty industry $$s spent either. Find a decent look that's low maintenance and, well, maintain it. Exercise and eating right are not a waste of time and shaving and trimming a few stray hairs once a week is not a huge time sink. Just don't let perfect be the enemy of good in this department.

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Curiosity question for OP: DD, do your lg girlfriends have to actually be young, or do you just like them to share the lg kink?

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Agree. Improvements in health tend to = improvements in looks as well. It doesn't have to be the huge beauty industry $$s spent either. Find a decent look that's low maintenance and, well, maintain it. Exercise and eating right are not a waste of time and shaving and trimming a few stray hairs once a week is not a huge time sink. Just don't let perfect be the enemy of good in this department.

 

You are talking about a low maintenance woman here. Doesn't sound like OP is looking for that. A good haircut and color can run $200+ every six weeks. Can't have a stray gray hair. Monthly gym membership $100, leg and bikini wax looking at $100 bucks each visit. Add in Botox, fillers and other cosmetic treatments, skin care treatments for home, quality makeup (not the stuff you get at Target) and pretty soon you are looking at some real money. That's not even including clothes and shoes. Again, this type of girl is not going to be shopping at Kohls. A part time job isn't going to pay for all that.

 

So OP, if that's what you are looking for, what do YOU bring to the table? A high maintenance girl has high expectations.

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Op must bring in a quarter mil at least. What do you do for a living daddy dom and how old are you?

 

My 21 year old daughter likes being taken care of but she has pretty high standards.

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I'd love to have a more traditional feminine woman that works only 20hrs per week in something she is passionate about just to pay for her own upkeep. Then she puts the rest of her energy/focus into her health, fitness, appearance, and romantic life. She keeps a good home, cooks, maintains a high libido w/lingerie, etc., But most importantly she is fully focused on being present, vulnerable, and empathetic. She treats her man like a king because she deserves to be his queen.

 

 

You want someone at your service, someone that will service your house as well as someone that will service you in bed.

 

 

 

I have not heard in any of this that you want an equal mate, nowhere you speak about this woman's intellect, you don't seem to care if you'll be able to maintain an interesting conversation with her. It's probably not important to you that she knows what a 'veto' means or what NATO stands for.

 

 

 

What will become of this woman once you're done with her? Working 20 hours a week won't allow her to invest in her retirement, or even save for emergencies.

 

 

 

Traditional women are none the less 'women'. They have a mind of their own, they have opinions, needs, they have likes and dislikes, they have insecurities, worries, they have flaws and you will have to deal with all of that. If you think women staying home or working part-time have better tempers and less needs, you're in for a surprise.

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You are talking about a low maintenance woman here. Doesn't sound like OP is looking for that.

 

 

Agree, I was speaking more generally. Certainly true that a woman who is into the more expensive beauty stuff can run up big (even huge) bills.

 

Not sure, but I assume there are lower maintenance women out there who share the DD/lg kink. I could be wrong about this since it's really not my thing.

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The modern women work so they have independence from their husband, with good reason too. Many times I have seen a married couple split where the husband was the sole provider. Sure, the women get a share of his assets (usually half of those produced during their marriage period) but the women are often stranded then with no marketable skills to provide for herself.

 

Furthermore, the better the job my spouse has, the less money shes taking out of my pocket. Win, win.

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And also just a note to those that think its some enormous, expensive effort to keep looking good, it really isn't ….Heck, people could make life changing improvements in themselves with a fraction of the time they waste on social media, forums, etc...

 

You're talking about being fit. But for the young women who aspire to be "beautiful" the following is also required:

 

Fillers, botox, fake eyelashes, fake tan, nails, beauty treatments, twice weekly hair blowouts, clothes, shoes, makeup, handbags.... and when they get older, then it's the cosmetic surgery, lasik etc.

 

For the record, I think all the above looks dumb. Saw a heap of them getting on a cruise the other day and it was like watching a freak show. But they like it and it ain't cheap.

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Agree, I was speaking more generally. Certainly true that a woman who is into the more expensive beauty stuff can run up big (even huge) bills.

 

Not sure, but I assume there are lower maintenance women out there who share the DD/lg kink. I could be wrong about this since it's really not my thing.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Oh shyt yeah , mine doesn't spend anything much. She is big on creams, got lots of creams, l dunno what they all do haha but they last a long time and she's got the most beautiful skin l've ever seen. She makes a lot of her creams.

She exercises at home doesn't even like gyms, has long baths loves baths and tlc, costs nothing.

Doesn't like salons so her hairs often like a wild cat at home but eh l love it like that , makes her own conditioner haha, doesn't like stuff in a bottle, loves as organic as possible, she makes all kinds of stuff loves it.

She says l don't wanna look sexy all the time or you won't appreciate it, l like turning into sexy, knows her stuff too and she's kind of right l've discovered because when she turns it on it's like woooo , where did you come from, damnnn.

But anyway so l dunno , l know dd has his own quirks by the sounds,no idea, l'll leave that up to him haha. Just talking about the looking after herself stuff really.

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Call me old fashioned or chauvinistic if you will. But today's "modern woman" is a drag to be with and I prefer gender roles.

 

I'd love to have a more traditional feminine woman that works only 20hrs per week in something she is passionate about just to pay for her own upkeep. Then she puts the rest of her energy/focus into her health, fitness, appearance, and romantic life. She keeps a good home, cooks, maintains a high libido w/lingerie, etc., But most importantly she is fully focused on being present, vulnerable, and empathetic. She treats her man like a king because she deserves to be his queen.

 

I couldn't read past the original post before running my mouth here, so I'm sorry if this has already been covered... but this is NOT the portrait of a traditional feminine woman. A traditional woman focuses her energy on developing her domestic, householding, and child-rearing skills. Health, fitness, and appearance are important - for securing a good husband, producing healthy offspring, and keeping up with them as they grow (and ideally helping in turn with grandchildren). She serves her HUSBAND because he PROVIDES for her and for their FAMILY.

 

This business about paying for her own upkeep, focusing on her "romantic life" (i.e. prioritizing and pursuing sex for recreational purposes), high libido/lingerie - no mention of building a family... sounds like you want a thoroughly modern woman who is down for "playing house" in exchange for the slightly reduced financial burden associated with cohabitation - and your username is a dead giveaway that this is a fetishized fantasy of yours rather than a longing for any sort of meaningful traditional life.

 

What you want is to pick and choose all your favorite attributes from two diametrically opposing directions of growth and development and mash them together into one woman.

 

Don't work that way, budd-ay.

 

I mean, you're allowed to want whatever you want, but that doesn't mean it exists.

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As a very traditional woman myself, I'm dang sick of men saying they want a traditional woman when what they actually want is some kinda self-funded alt/fetish lifestyle accessory who will fulfill their fantasies of male power and leadership/feminine submission, without requiring them to actually fulfill the traditional masculine role in the home/relationship.

 

Gmafb. :rolleyes::lmao:

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l think women often get a lot of that type of thing twisted up.

But again l have no idea what op's thing is and in no way speaking for that you all know his stuff from what l can gather and l ain't goin there.

 

But just personally things l talked about have nothing to do with power or bla bla what so ever l couldn't care less about any of it.

Me personally , l just want time , life, freedom. l don't really care much about money got enough for whatever l need or we need if so or whatever the case.

People are so busy now , lotta couples hardly see each other and when the do they're warn out. l don't want that bs.

As far as my woman goes , she does whatever she wants haha, no body tells her what to do, which often cracks me up.

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Well, a conservative woman here in the UK is usually in a masculine, working role.

 

I agree that femininity is currently suffering, but so is masculinity. Are you working out regularly, going for your goals no matter what? Is every aspect of your diet, time, geared towards making your life and the world a better place? Are you still drinking alcohol, looking at nonsense online and on the TV?

 

We're not entitled to have a woman, we have to work at it. If you want a real woman, you need to be a real man.

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My daughter just got in from work and was telling me about her one patient, 92 y.o., who has a mani and pedi :love:

 

Would a sugar mama do, Dom? My guess is she’s probably traditional and she does like to look good.

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It's already been said in many of the posts, but there is no way I'm going to give all the power over to a man and only work part time with the expectation that I will spend all of that on my own upkeep. Where does that leave me when I start to age a bit, and you trade in a 40-yr-old for one or more 20-yr-olds (regardless of how well I kept up my appearance)?

 

Nah. I'll be the author of my own story. If a man cannot handle an independent, self-sufficient woman, there are plenty of women out there who do want to be taken care of, but I definitely did not raise my daughters that way.

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