My brother's friend was his tormentor and I can't forgive him

[samsungxoxo]

This might sound harsh but I can't forgive him at this moment. He's 16 years old and in my opinion, that's old enough to know better. My brother is now 17 years old and emotionally scarred from extensive bullyings. He doesn't have a gf yet and is socially awkward. We just found out 2-3 weeks ago that my brother's ''friend'' has been bullying him extensive since the 2015/2016 school year.

 

I've been bullied (socially mainly, rarely physical) by classmates in middle school so I know how that feels like. However, I believe the level of cruelty this guy displayed overrides even my own experience. Please bare with me as I'm going to make a list of the hell this guy put us through just recently:

 

- Faked 3-4 years of friendship with my brother

- Put an act in front of his own mother, my parents, my grandmother and me

- Lied to all of us (even to his own mother) about who was my brother getting tormented by and even elaborated his version

- Looked at us in the eyes while lying the whole time about how he cares about my brother, that he always defends him against bullies, etc

- Orchestrated the whole bullying by getting others to join in

- Walked towards random classes full of younger students and got them to join in too

- Made promises to my parents about teaching him self-defense and standing up for him while in private he would throw a couple hard punches in his stomach

- Made my parents take both my brother and him to the movies, to good restaurants, etc

- He slept over in our house a couple times

- My brother was on depressive medications for a long time and even had a nose surgery done

- Made his own mother cry when she found out it was him the whole time; the lady seems like a good mother that did her best in installing morals and values

 

Now according to his mother, the guy is suddenly remorseful, scared, quieter than usual and locks himself in his room to cry. He got exposed about who he really was by a classmate who couldn't keep quiet anymore and threatened to get expelled if he does it again. This guy is advanced in martial arts and used both his strength and skills to bully others, mainly my brother. Though, he would only do it in the stomach to not make it obvious and then applied humiliation tactics. Given all this information, do you think my stance is harsh on this guy who victimized my brother and went to that extend to lie to/mock my family? He wasn't sorry until busted and even then tried to still lie by saying that he has always cared for and defended my brother. He admitted eventually.

Edited August 19, 2019 by samsungxoxo

[amaysngrace]

I’d have no time for him. He’s a really good actor so he could just be acting now.

 

I hope your brother is okay xo

[samsungxoxo]

I’d have no time for him. He’s a really good actor so he could just be acting now.

 

I hope your brother is okay xo

My brother is a lot more forgiving than I was at that age. He's very naive for his age. This isn't good. It makes him an easy target for scammers, liars, bullies, sociopaths, etc.

Only my brother believes the guy's apology. They're on speaking terms now. IMO he's not sorry. He's only sorry for being caught.

Edited August 19, 2019 by samsungxoxo