How do you lower your standards while also dating people you are attracted to?

[elaine567]

...his nose keeps growing

???

 

 

"Between 50 and 60 years of age, nasal volume in men will typically increase by another 29 percent; in women, 18 percent."

[Mr. Lucky]

What's hard is that, I just not attracted to most men.

 

Do you mean physically or emotionally?

 

The statement implies there are factors involved not having much to do with physical qualities or compatibility...

 

Mr. Lucky

[HiCrunchy]

Do you mean physically or emotionally?

 

The statement implies there are factors involved not having much to do with physical qualities or compatibility...

 

Mr. Lucky

 

Physically. Most men I see on the street or in my life are not attractive to me. Even most men on TV for example. But I am sexually and emotionally attracted to men.

 

I have no confusion about my sexuality either. I do not want to be with women. At all.

 

Here is my thread on the subject:

https://www.loveshack.org/forums/transitioning/search/633992-i-am-not-attracted-most-men-what-wrong-me

Edited August 26, 2019 by HiCrunchy

[Mr. Lucky]

I have no confusion about my sexuality either. I do not want to be with women. At all.

 

Actually, that angle never occurred to me.

 

I was thinking more that you're self-sabotaging to avoid the challenges attraction and relationships bring.

 

But I could certainly be wrong ...

 

Mr. Lucky

[chillii]

Nahhh, she just hasn't met the right guy or found any connection yet. l'm attracted and connect to very few women , but eh ,when l am though , l am.

l get along with women in general really well , but it's always been a rare girl where l have any more interest than that.

[Mysterio]

Physical and Personality matches are hard. Add in Personal circumstances then its a whole different level as well.

 

At this stage. I think the best match for me is a woman in which we are both single/childless and into each other. Anything else I don't think is going to work well.

 

So for me that would be if I could control it. A woman that is late 30's. No kids. Likes to go to a lot of Music events and works out at the gym and is well groomed and chill, but affectionate. Think Kate Walsh or Sandra Bullock looks wise if I went by actresses.

[Mr. Lucky]

Think Kate Walsh or Sandra Bullock looks wise if I went by actresses.

 

Glad you're setting the bar at a reasonable level. Will these women be getting Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise in return ?

 

Mr. Lucky

[preraph]

Date some that you are only borderline attracted to and see if their personality makes up for it. That isn't real common, but sometimes...although when online dating, I think most of the good personality (you know, extra good, real entertaining) ones are probably not on there because they're doing just fine in real life.

 

Go ahead and let some friend or relative fix you up. You never know.

[Mysterio]

Glad you're setting the bar at a reasonable level. Will these women be getting Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise in return ?

 

Mr. Lucky

 

I am well dressed and groomed. I chose actresses that play low key chill chicks in the movies. They are not glammed up. I think that I want a woman that puts an effort into her looks.

[SumGuy]

I did have someone like that once. Wasnt perfect but pretty close. Ticked off almost every box.....God I'm depressed.

 

Dating since Jan and nothing even comes close to giving me those feelings or even that instant attraction.

 

I feel for you. It can take a long time.

 

What happened to the guy who ticked off almost every box? Can that be revived?

[oldtruck]

Confusing what you want with what you can pull in.

 

That could be the problem. Everyone wants to date a 10, even 1's.

 

A woman does not have to be a 10 to be attractive. It is the sum of all

her parts that make her attractive.

 

Example men love breasts. Bigger is better. I have seen women with a small

rack that were a lor hotter than women with large racks.

 

Then there is the person, dress, values, grooming.

 

Everyone has a wish list. A woman does not have to have everything on

the wish list to be attractive.

 

There are deal breakers. Biggest one for me is weight. Though not having

a lot of things on my wish list would not be a deal breaker.

 

Facing reality.