Question for women! What do you find attractive about a man?

[thefooloftheyear]

Wohooo,

 

Sorry, I can't carry on much more because I'm getting hot and bothered but if you look at the Prime Minister of Hungary you'll see what I mean - Viktor Orba

 

 

Phew....

 

Well...I looked...

 

And it appears like you got the extra strength beer goggle treatment.....wow....:lmao:

 

TFY

[Woggle]

There are women that many men find attractive that leave many women scratching their heads and it works the other way around as well.

[LivingWaterPlease]

Looks protective, acts protective. Has features that would make him seem protective.

 

Has the ability to protect.

 

Is amusing and fun, sees humor in life experiences, not necessarily a guy who tells jokes.

 

Has intelligence, depth and authenticity.

 

Looks like Robert Redford used to look. LOL, OK, doesn't have to.

 

Prefer medium brown hair and hazel or green eyes, guess because my dad had that combo. Don't care for blonde/blue (except for RR) or brown/brown.

Edited July 31, 2019 by LivingWaterPlease

[Arieswoman]

TFOTY

 

 

And it appears like you got the extra strength beer goggle treatment.....wow....:lmao:

 

 

:laugh:

[mark clemson]

Not seeing a lot of posts here, so, at high risk of man-splaining, I think I'll add a few points to this. Women please feel free to correct me if I get some things wrong.

 

I believe there are a wide variety of things that can make men attractive. The "settings" or rankings are different for different women, so there is no reliable ordering/primacy. Some will sound familiar to men. These include (but aren't limited to):

 

- Face

- Eyes

- Voice

- Overall body shape (including shoulders)

- Legs and butt

- Posture, mannerisms, and gait (the way you walk)

- Athleticism, ie. having either a toned body or a muscular one

- Clothes (ie, wearing nice clothes that fit well)

- Confidence

- Intelligence

- Competence/specialized skills/ability to earn a living

- Perceived popularity/social value

- Perceived social fluency, ability to get along with others

- Perceived dominance (note: this varies greatly by social setting, a male dentist may well be the dominant male in a dentist's office, but that won't make him much use in a barfight)

- Wealth/physical resources

 

I also think that, as we say during adolescence - women try to attract men, but men try to impress women. I think in this case the difference in phrasing hits on something somewhat important. Particularly when it comes to LTRs, I think women are often assessing the overall man in his social context - not just how sexy he may look. So you impress a woman with sufficient combinations/amounts of the above traits (and possibly others I'm not aware of).

 

Exactly what impresses a specific woman enough for her to want you will vary depending on many factors, such as her specific genetics, her place in the social hierarchy, and her specific goals or needs at the time - ie, hook-ups or LTRs).

[Arieswoman]

mc,

You give a good summation but I would add 'character' to the list. (Not to be confused with 'personality')

 

 

IMO there’s a big difference between the two and particularly in dating where we’re going to encounter personality before we really see character, we need to be discerning and ensure that we don’t jump to conclusions about what people with a certain type of personality will be like.

 

 

Any guy who was kind, agreeable and willing, got gold stars from me when I was dating. I would overlook poor fashion sense for example (that can be fixed) for a pleasing character every time.

[mark clemson]

Thanks, AW. There's one I think I forgot, but adding yours to the list too we have:

 

- Character

 

 

And I would add as another potential item:

 

- Having an established role/place within a community (and it's implied with that the respect of that community)

[SuperHeroMan]

So what makes a man attractive for you?

[major_merrick]

I love women. I'm not wired for men at all, so my answer my be different from others. My husband is attractive to me because of his character and what we mean to each other. There's some physical attraction, sure. He's pretty good looking, for a man. But having someone in my life who is absolutely loyal, who would defend me to the death (and has proved it), and who notices all the little things about my mood...that's attractive to me. We've been friends for almost 20 years, and our marriage is built on that friendship and the shared experiences of growing up together and surviving together.

 

I take care of my female partners. They are cute, soft, cuddly, adorable. I scoop them up in my arms and carry them around. My husband is the one who picks ME up.

[basil67]

His smile and eyes....it's a window to his soul

[Prudence V]

 

 

my #1 celebrity crush, Benedict Cumberbatch.

 

Benny Bandersnatch may look like he was designed by a committee, and he may be posh, but his heart is in the right place. His politics are impeccable (personal politics, ethics, values etc. I’ve no idea who he votes for) and he is always so decent in his interactions with people. Pretty sexy combo.

[Prudence V]

Well...I looked...

 

And it appears like you got the extra strength beer goggle treatment.....wow....:lmao:

 

TFY

 

Yep! most women prefer men who are not fascist dictators, but even Benito Mussolini managed to snag a couple, so who knows.

[Geraltt]

A short time ago I watched a TV bio on Evel Knievel.

 

Despite being married, women - single and otherwise - couldn't keep their hands off of him.

 

His appeal?

• Danger (kinda goes without saying)
  
• Looks - he was one handsome dude, in the Steve McQueen mode
  
• Money money money money - spent it as fast as he made it, but always did well
  
• Independence - never took no for an answer and answered to no one
  

And perhaps the most controversial part about him, he didn't treat women very well. Cheated on them all the time, including his wife (though, AFAIK, he was never physically abusive). And yet, they STILL rushed to him like iron filings to a magnet.

 

Another thing, not related to Knievel:

 

Remember the show Mythbusters? In one of the episodes they did an experiment with three sets of 250 or so women and showed them dating profiles.

 

The profiles that showed that the fellow in question was a high-powered executive, or surgeon, or something that otherwise made a lot of money, consistently were rated as "sexier" by the women.

 

See Mythbusters Episode 220: Laws of Attraction

 

And - interestingly - every single woman asked about it said that the occupation was basically irrelevant.

 

Every

Single

One

 

More proof, as if it were needed: do not listen to what people say, watch what they do.

 

So if you want to be attractive, have a lot of money, be somewhat dangerous, be independent and good looking.

[Blind-Sided]

...........

 

I find breasts kinda bizarre, I never want to get anywhere near another woman’s vagina - I mean honestly I have no idea how men can be attracted to those - yikes!!

 

I am not into touching soft squishy bodies, I just don’t get it!!

 

.............

 

Never thought about that... but I think that answers it right there. Woman are looking for a larger firmer body... where most guys are looking for the smooth, curvy, softer parts. Interesting.

[Cersei]

To me a good sense of humour is super attractive. Not an annoying over the top, try too hard type; but a genuine, funny guy who can make me laugh with little effort. Thoughtfulness is very attractive too.

 

Physically my preference (but not limited to) includes:

-latino

-full head of hair, clean cut

-shaved face

-decent sized biceps

 

Turnoffs: arrogance, over confidence, drunk, dressed sloppy, smokers