Maddie82 Posted September 24, 2019 Share Posted September 24, 2019 (edited) His other posts regarding her would strongly suggest so. Edited September 24, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted September 24, 2019 Share Posted September 24, 2019 What bothers me the most is that your wife doesn't see this as improper. That would be a tough thing for me to live with. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted September 24, 2019 Share Posted September 24, 2019 Your wife wants to ask the friend of a work colleague, whom she's only met twice, to move in with her while you're away? You should ask her what kind of rocks her head is filled with if she thinks you'd be OK with that? She is either incredibly dumb and naive, or she's shopping around for your replacement. My bet would be the latter, because it's quite unimaginable that someone could be that dumb and naive. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted September 24, 2019 Share Posted September 24, 2019 Your wife you said in a previous thread, comes from "overseas". Does this "friend" also come from "overseas", in that is this just expats helping each other out? or could this be some sort of a cultural thing? Some cultures are very altruistic... Just a thought. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted September 24, 2019 Share Posted September 24, 2019 Some cultures tend to invite their brother, their mother, their mothers best friend, and their dog to live in their home... This man is a stranger. An hour commute is nothing, depending on where you live. This shows really poor judgment, in my humble opinion. There is absolutely no way that I’m inviting a stranger to stay in my home. Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted September 24, 2019 Share Posted September 24, 2019 The carpooling in your other thread started in part as an effort to go green/burn less gas, did it not. Possibly she's in part thinking about the gas he's burning on his hour long commute. Doesn't really matter though if that's her intentions. As a spouse, you get to lay down reasonable boundaries to make the marriage work. Not allowing a strange man to live in your house at a time when you won't be home much is COMPLETELY reasonable. Your wife sounds somewhat naive in some ways. By the way, I hope you're keeping just half an eye on her with that whole gym guy thing. Trust but verify. Do trust, but suggest a little unobtrusive verifying too every now and then, just in case. Link to post Share on other sites
William Posted September 24, 2019 Share Posted September 24, 2019 As a result of many references to other recent threads on a similar marital issue, I merged them for context. Please continue! Link to post Share on other sites
usa1ah Posted September 25, 2019 Share Posted September 25, 2019 (edited) It’s not April 1st so I am going on the assumption this is for real. What is it going to take to get you to see. Actually catching her in action? Out of the blue your scheduled to be gone over the next 4 to 5 weeks and she has a replacement for you all lined up. How in the heck did this come about if they only talked a few times? A complete stranger my azz. He has a place to live, his moms couch!!!! It is time for you to tell her she can do what ever she wants but it won’t be as your wife. You need to stop trying to explain why it’s wrong because it just is. Tell her that a female friend of yours just lost where she was living and needs to travel with you for a place to stay. Sounds stupid right. That is as stupid as your wife’s explanation of why she wants another man staying with her while you are away. Wake up and pull your head out of the sand. Edited September 25, 2019 by usa1ah Link to post Share on other sites
Poutrew Posted September 25, 2019 Share Posted September 25, 2019 Turnabout is fair play. If she insists on having her substitute man over, just tell her that there has been a change in plans on your end as well. You are going to be staying over at a single woman's house to save money. Then find a picture of a sexy young gal from the internet, lounging near her backyard pool in her bikini, and show it to her. If that doesn't budge her, then really do it. You can start to line up wife replacements now for the eventual divorce... no reason you can't have a bit of fun as well because you know what your wife and her boy toy will be doing while you are gone. Then, try to come home early so you can catch them in the act, so to speak... Link to post Share on other sites
BettyDraper Posted September 25, 2019 Share Posted September 25, 2019 Turnabout is fair play. If she insists on having her substitute man over, just tell her that there has been a change in plans on your end as well. You are going to be staying over at a single woman's house to save money. Then find a picture of a sexy young gal from the internet, lounging near her backyard pool in her bikini, and show it to her. If that doesn't budge her, then really do it. You can start to line up wife replacements now for the eventual divorce... no reason you can't have a bit of fun as well because you know what your wife and her boy toy will be doing while you are gone. Then, try to come home early so you can catch them in the act, so to speak... Whew chile....the pettiness! This level of petty is savage and I love it. I'm being serious. How amazingly karmic would it be if the OP gave his wife a taste of her own medicine? Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted September 26, 2019 Share Posted September 26, 2019 How amazingly karmic would it be if the OP gave his wife a taste of her own medicine? Of course the danger of this is that the wife doesn't give a rat's behind. She just carries on cheating, and lets her husband do it too. And so you're both trapped in a crappy marriage, meeting up with others and having sex but not moving on, wasting your life. That doesn't sound very ideal to me. Better to be the adult instead, and resolve the issue with a grown up conversation, backed up by positive actions. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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