MusicLova Posted August 24, 2019 Share Posted August 24, 2019 Honest thoughts on interracial marriage in general. Do you think that overall they deal with more hardships than same race marriages or the same amount? *All thoughts are welcome as long as they are not racist or harmful in any way Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 25, 2019 Share Posted August 25, 2019 There's potentially more obstacles. I think most of those obstacles are within the families, rather than in the schools or workplace these days. There can be cultural differences that can make it harder to agree on things or for family to agree with whatever your decisions are. Or there might not be any of that if you have very similar backgrounds, religion, politics, etc. I wouldn't say it's insurmountable if the cultures are at least more alike than different. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Lotsgoingon Posted August 25, 2019 Share Posted August 25, 2019 You can certainly do it successfully ... but you really do need to have some honest conversations with your future partner about race and potential family issues and so on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
DKT3 Posted August 25, 2019 Share Posted August 25, 2019 I'm a black man born and raised in South Central LA, my wife is a Welch born Italian. We are as opposed as you can be, different race, culture, socioeconomic status, born on different continents and we made it work. I agree that family can be the most difficult obstacle to overcome, luckily for us only one of her grandparents had an issue. We started dating in High school and all four of our parents supported the relationship from the beginning. We were told by many that it could never work, we are too different. At the end of the day those obstacles are only obstacles if you allow them to be. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted August 25, 2019 Share Posted August 25, 2019 So very subjective. There's just no universal answer. Personally, I love to see it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 25, 2019 Share Posted August 25, 2019 inter-racial marriages have higher divorce rate than the general population Link to post Share on other sites
DKT3 Posted August 25, 2019 Share Posted August 25, 2019 inter-racial marriages have higher divorce rate than the general population This is actually false. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted August 25, 2019 Share Posted August 25, 2019 I think it’s fantastic. Anything should go. It may be easier living in certain areas of the country that are more open minded to all types of relationships - to make it easier on the couple/family. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted August 25, 2019 Share Posted August 25, 2019 inter-racial marriages have higher divorce rate than the general population I’d like evidence on this opinion. Where did you get this info? Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted August 25, 2019 Share Posted August 25, 2019 One article I found online states the divorce rate for interracial couples falls in between the divorce rate for white marriages and the rate for African-American marriages... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted August 25, 2019 Share Posted August 25, 2019 (edited) A new friend and I met up yesterday to hike. Both of us single and talking about our dating lives. She just broke off a R with someone of a different race because of cultural differences. She's caucasion, he was Japanese. To me it's not so much physical differences as cultural differences as to why I wouldn't be able to marry outside of my race. Being a very sensitive person, I even have issues with cultural differences within my own race that limit the pool I'd marry from, much less adding cultural differences of a different race to the mix. Editing this to add that physical differences are an issue with me, I realized after I wrote the above. I've found I'm only attracted to men with some distinct facial features that pertain to a small fraction of the men in my own race! Edited August 25, 2019 by LivingWaterPlease Link to post Share on other sites
NomiMalone Posted August 25, 2019 Share Posted August 25, 2019 I am from a Latin background but grew up in a Western nation. English is my second language. When I was in my twenties, I used to think that race didn’t matter at all, and primarily dated white and mixed-race guys. I’m sure both the guys I had serious relationships with didn’t set out looking to date an ethnic woman - race wasn’t something that mattered to them. I never felt like I didn’t fit in with my white partners’ families, who were always extremely welcoming. But... I also never felt like I belonged 100% with their families either. Even though I didn’t have to, I always felt like I had to work hard to fit in. Now in my thirties, I feel myself longing to date someone who shares my cultural history. With whose family I can be completely comfortable in a way I will never feel with a white partner’s family. Having said that, I don’t believe that race is a huge factor in whether relationships last or not. Both my relationships ended due to issues completely unrelated to race. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 25, 2019 Share Posted August 25, 2019 I’d like evidence on this opinion. Where did you get this info? I read it on the internet a few years back Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted August 25, 2019 Share Posted August 25, 2019 2008 study findings listed on Wikipedia. US Study found Comparisons across marriage cohorts revealed that, overall, interracial couples have higher rates of divorce, particularly for those that married during the late 1980s. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interracial_marriage_in_the_United_States#Marital_instability_among_interracial_and_same-race_couples There may be other studies though. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 25, 2019 Share Posted August 25, 2019 2008 study findings listed on Wikipedia. US Study found There may be other studies though. thanks elaine567, that's where I read it... Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted August 25, 2019 Share Posted August 25, 2019 In interpersonal relationships and general day to day life there will probably be a sprinkling of racist people you encounter occasionally who show disdain or mild hostility towards you and/or your partner. There will also be those who are openly mildly supportive. I knew a (white) woman who adopted an asian baby. Once in a while on outings she would get cold stares and similar from some folks. Generally not a big deal as it's your life. Just be aware it's something you'll probably have to deal with occasionally. The area you live might have an impact on the frequency. Link to post Share on other sites
alsudduth Posted August 25, 2019 Share Posted August 25, 2019 I'm a black man born and raised in South Central LA, my wife is a Welch born Italian. With that mix of genes, I bet your children are beautiful!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 25, 2019 Share Posted August 25, 2019 The area you live might have an impact on the frequency. indeed mc...if you live in a high brow area no one is going to care. if you live in a working class neighborhood lots of people will care Link to post Share on other sites
LauraXX Posted August 26, 2019 Share Posted August 26, 2019 That's interesting. I just tried to find statistics for my country. There are no studies about biracial marriages, but several studies about binational marriages. We don't have a high percentage of different "races" here. I e.g. never went to school with or worked with a black person in my whole life and we had one Asian guy at school (a large school with 1000+ students). It's a shame, really. However, we do have a lot of different nationalities and a lot of immigrants from countries like Turkey or Morocco. The studies I found claim that the divorce rate is actually significantly higher for binational marriages (60% higher), but only for couples with different cultural backgrounds (e.g. 1st generation immigrants with a different religious background). The numbers are lower when 2nd generation immigrants are involved or in binational marriages where both partners have the same religion. It's also much lower when the couples have kids together. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
major_merrick Posted August 27, 2019 Share Posted August 27, 2019 (edited) I think it depends on which partner is what race. My husband has four partners, and I'm the only really "white" looking one. Wife #1 is Finn/Argentine, Wife #2 is Mexican, and Wife #4 is Vietnamese. His kids all look fairly white, but you can tell they aren't 100%. I haven't noticed issues. We live in an area with lots of Hispanic folks, so mixed marriage is normal. I think Wife #4 has had some racist stuff thrown her way, but I can't say for sure. One thing I'll throw into this mix is a mixed religion marriage. Even among people of the same ethnicity, religious differences cause a lot of havoc. Try marrying a Christian and a Muslim and see what fireworks happen... On the other hand, having a religion in common can bring people of different races together, especially if those people are part of a religious community. In my community, we have a mixed family where the husband is white and the wife is black. Their relationship seems really solid. Edited August 27, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted August 27, 2019 Share Posted August 27, 2019 2008 study findings listed on Wikipedia. US Study found There may be other studies though. Anyone can put info on wiki - it’s doesnt mean it’s solid evidence of what’s real. Link to post Share on other sites
Springsummer Posted August 27, 2019 Share Posted August 27, 2019 Seems fairly common. I know at least 3 white men married Asian women in my work floor alone. Generally white men with Asian women, rarely see white women with Asian men though... Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 27, 2019 Share Posted August 27, 2019 Generally white men with Asian women, rarely see white women with Asian men though... it all depends upon what DNA one wants to pass down to their kids Link to post Share on other sites
major_merrick Posted August 27, 2019 Share Posted August 27, 2019 it all depends upon what DNA one wants to pass down to their kids That's my thought. If I am going to the trouble of having kids, I want them to be like me. My husband's kids look like him. I can't imagine that being the case with some racial mixtures. Link to post Share on other sites
DKT3 Posted August 27, 2019 Share Posted August 27, 2019 So what you're referring to is shade on skin, right? Because when I look at my biracial daughter all I see is my white wife with darker skin. She is her mother's reflection. When comparing pictures from similar ages the only difference is the shade of thier skin. Link to post Share on other sites
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