I don't understand why women aren't attracted to me.

[alphamale]

can't you just date women 4'10"-5'2"??

[preraph]

^ That's easier said than done, because men of all heights seem to prefer petite women, so they have no reason to date short just because they are.

[preraph]

I think we already covered this territory somewhere, but definitely wear boots with 2" or better heels or sports shoes with tall platforms. And keep working out. Don't wear flat heels. Boots come in different heel heights. All cowboy boots have some heel. Other boots, you just look for ones with 2" or 2 1/2 inch. Too bad this isn't the 1970s. Wearing heels makes your legs look better and your butt too.

[GuitarGuy7]

Whats sex with a hooker going to accomplish?

 

 

 

Save my life.

 

For me, everything is about women, it's an obsession. And I can't control it, iv'e been obsessed with girls even as a little kid at just 5 years old. And the fact that women are not attracted to me is DEVASTATING to me!

 

This obsession of mine will never go away, no matter how much anybody tries to convince me that women arne't worth it, no matter how many times I get rejected, I will still be a slave to women. The only thing that can set me free from this prison is to experience love and sex for myself.

 

And if that's not possible, then I don't want to live in this world. I don't want to live in this world knowing that I will never have a dating life for circumstances outside of my control! I would rather die than be alone!

 

 

 

 

I think that you and I and others. We really have to let go of the way that love will come for us. One thing that is consistent is that those that are looking heavy for love. Its not coming to us.

 

I think for me. Just based on my past. A love relationship will come out of the blue when I am not thinking on it. Never when I put effort into it.

 

 

You don't understand. I can't just stop caring about women, it's an obsession. I HAVE to have it!

 

I'll do whatever it takes for women to like me. And if that's not possible, then I will kill myself. I would rather die than be alone in this world.

 

 

Besides, that advice is merely blue-pilled mainstream crap anyways.

[mark clemson]

Suggest you try to apply as much as you can from the thread below:

 

 

https://www.loveshack.org/forums/general/general-relationship-discussion/689200-question-women-what-do-you-find-attractive-about-man

 

 

If you must, suggest trying to use sugar babies or similar, rather than prostitutes. If you live anywhere close to Nevada, consider going there instead of locally, as prostitution is regulated there.

 

 

It sounds like, for you, having a woman is part of your identity. Hence your extended dry spell is causing you even more distress than normal. Consider seeing a therapist if you haven't already.

 

 

Hope you don't find my advice annoying. I'm trying to help.

 

 

Good luck.

[HiCrunchy]

can't you just date women 4'10"-5'2"??

 

Women 4"10 to 5"2 tend to want the height difference to be the biggest. It will be a hit or miss

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

GG, have you tried any international dating apps?

[chillii]

l'd eat like hell as you work out anyway and bulk up.

And eh , treat yourself to a bit of junk food, your luck wish l could eat more of it haha.

 

 

See, l worked with a guy once, about your height and he was pretty lean too at first . Then he got into body building and man , over the 12mths l worked with him you wouldn't recognize him.

l couldn't believe the changes and look.

He'd sit down at lunch and eat 3 burgers, told me a lot about his food. Also added in lots of junk stuff too said he didn't wanna be a muscle man so much he just wanted to be bigger and bulkier so the junk food helped add the other kind of eight too with his working out.

He went from about 60kg up to about 90 in that 12mths and totally changed to look at.

He looked good too, really cool, grew his hair a bit too.

 

l remember we bumped into each other walking one day at work and l tell ya , he's body didn't even flinch couldn't believe it, felt like l bumped in a brick wall.

6mths mth before he would've stumbled from that.

 

 

Just sayin, if it's of any interest.

[preraph]

After reading how obsessed you are about women, I'm going to go out on a limb and say this is what's holding you back even more than being short and skinny. There's no way to hide that kind of desperation. Even if you did get in a relationship, your behavior might likely be too much for most. So I think maybe that's what you need to work on the most.

[alphamale]

^ That's easier said than done, because men of all heights seem to prefer petite women, so they have no reason to date short just because they are.

 

so short women want tall guys too?

 

Women 4"10 to 5"2 tend to want the height difference to be the biggest. It will be a hit or miss

 

I see...

[Foxhall]

what can happen too is when you do eventually click with a woman,

 

another one or two can come along shortly afterwards, giving you a different problem then:cool:

[GuitarGuy7]

After reading how obsessed you are about women, I'm going to go out on a limb and say this is what's holding you back even more than being short and skinny. There's no way to hide that kind of desperation. Even if you did get in a relationship, your behavior might likely be too much for most. So I think maybe that's what you need to work on the most.

 

 

That's what i'm trying to say, if I go get a prostitute, then maybe it will help get rid of that desperate vibe. Because i'm so desperate to get laid or find a girl, if I go get my dick wet, then maybe I will see that sex isn't that big of a deal, so I won't be so desperate anymore and i'll be more confident in myself, hence more likely to attract a woman. Now you see what i'm getting at?

 

Because I can tell you right now, that "desperate" vibe isn't going away anytime soon, i'm lonely, horny, and afraid of being a 30 year old virgin. Getting my dick wet will change all of that.

[alphamale]

how old are you GG7??

[Gretchen12]

I read what you wrote and I think I know why women are not attracted to you.

 

First, you're no Adonis. You're not hot enough for random girls to have sex with you. But a man need not be so hot to get a girlfriend if he is romantic. But you're not romantic either - you've got prostitution on your mind. So you fail in both departments.

[GuitarGuy7]

GG, have you tried any international dating apps?

 

 

At one point, I considered going to the philipines because I heard that filipino women like white guys and being white is the ideal and since the average height there is only 5 ft 4 for a man, I woudn't be too much shorter than the average. Of course it wasn't too serious considering that I was 23 and flat out broke. But maybe if i'm in my 30s and still unable to find anyone, I might try it.

 

Iv'e considered leg lengthening surgery as well but that's pretty expensive for only about 2-3 inches of extra growth. And at 5 ft 3, I would only grow to be about 5 ft 5.5 which is still a lot shorter than average so not really worth it.

 

 

And then iv'e considered getting a prostitute.

 

 

Iv'e pretty much thought of everything to try and change my situation.

[healing light]

Your desperation of rather wanting to die than be alone is what is killing it, imo. Sometimes when we want something too badly we project that energy unconsciously for others to pick up on and it squeezes it off from us.

 

Unfortunately, I do think height adds to it. I think height tends to be more of a problem as guys fall under 5'5"... so I do think that maybe some shoes with a good sole might help level your chances.

 

Hookers will only complicate matters. Women you date will likely be put off by the risky decisions and/or moral conundrums brought up by prostitution. It will be a deal breaker for most.

 

I have heard from the horse's mouth by someone who visited sex workers that it isn't anything like sex with someone who loves you, as there tends not to be any cuddling or real intimacy.... so if you are looking to somehow be able to refine your skills in this department, I'm not sure it will bring about the desired results. In general, the women just want to get you off as fast as possible so they can get on to their next client.

 

 

Right now, I think the most important thing is to realize that you have worth independent of your sexual status and the women in your life. It's human to want that connection with another person, so I am not going to begrudge you that, but try to relax the space around it and find other ways to build your identity and find value in yourself. Take the focus off of it entirely if you can and I think that will help to open up more opportunities for you as you find other things worth living for. As someone who waited to have sex until I was older (I wanted to be mutually in love), I understand the stigma... but it's so silly because once it does happen, you realize that you placed all this awful judgment on yourself that really didn't change anything about who you are or your place in the world. If you place your sole reason for living on the shoulders of another woman, it will be too much pressure for any partner.

[chillii]

Ahh, seen plenty of shorter guys with very nice gf's.

Ya gotta lose the desperation, women will spot that at 100 paces and run, and yeah l agree, get some romance into you.

[HiCrunchy]

Have u thought about dating a girl that's a little older than u?

26 to 28? Expanding ur dating prospects

Edited August 27, 2019 by HiCrunchy

[HiCrunchy]

l'd eat like hell as you work out anyway and bulk up.

And eh , treat yourself to a bit of junk food, your luck wish l could eat more of it haha.

 

 

See, l worked with a guy once, about your height and he was pretty lean too at first . Then he got into body building and man , over the 12mths l worked with him you wouldn't recognize him.

l couldn't believe the changes and look.

He'd sit down at lunch and eat 3 burgers, told me a lot about his food. Also added in lots of junk stuff too said he didn't wanna be a muscle man so much he just wanted to be bigger and bulkier so the junk food helped add the other kind of eight too with his working out.

He went from about 60kg up to about 90 in that 12mths and totally changed to look at.

He looked good too, really cool, grew his hair a bit too.

 

l remember we bumped into each other walking one day at work and l tell ya , he's body didn't even flinch couldn't believe it, felt like l bumped in a brick wall.

6mths mth before he would've stumbled from that.

 

 

Just sayin, if it's of any interest.

 

Agree, appearing as masculine as u can can totally help with this.

[greymatter]

Again, I don't think it's just your height. Yes, height is an issue. I myself have only dated tall men and I'm only 5'3".

 

Your last few posts were crude. I agree with the others that you reek of desperation which isn't helping your situation. Pumping yourself up at the gym is not sufficient to make you appealing. Working on yourself may.

 

Do you have friends? Have you ever asked friends or family for feedback about your interpersonal style?

[alphamale]

Iv'e considered leg lengthening surgery as well but that's pretty expensive for only about 2-3 inches of extra growth.

 

you do know that that surgery is extremely painful?

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

Because i'm so desperate to get laid or find a girl, if I go get my dick wet, then maybe I will see that sex isn't that big of a deal

 

I've never heard a man say sex wasn't that big of a deal. The opposite will probably happen, and then what? More hookers?

 

But, it seems like you want sex more than companionship at this point, so maybe hookers are the way to go. But be prepared that it won't only be just once....hey, is that why they call them hookers?

[HiCrunchy]

you do know that that surgery is extremely painful?

 

It's very painful. Most people that have gotten the surgery agree.

[chillii]

l'm feeling sick.

[GuitarGuy7]

 

But, it seems like you want sex more than companionship at this point, so maybe hookers are the way to go.

 

 

I just want to feel wanted by somebody, for someone where there is mutual love and understanding for one another. That is what I want more than anything!

 

But I understand that a prostitute won't be able to provide that for me. But maybe, they can help me get a feel for what sex is like at least. It's a compromise, and at this point in my life, I don't have a choice but to make compromises. I am not in a position to be able to choose, at least not yet...

 

 

 

But be prepared that it won't only be just once....hey, is that why they call them hookers?

 

 

It will be like the first time I ever watched porn. The first porn video I ever watched, I was 18 years old, and it was also the first time I ever saw a woman naked. It was a girl on the floor getting pounded doggystyle, her round juicy ass was making clapping sounds as she was moaning really loudly and I came within 20 seconds while barely even touching myself. And from that point on, I was hooked and could never stop no matter how much I tried. It was as if a switch had been turned on that could never be turned off, ever again.

 

 

I reckon when I have sex for the first time, it will be the same way. It will be like a switch that can never be turned off ever again, and I will be hooked from that point on. What had remained dormant will now be awakened.