MsHopeful0208201689 Posted August 25, 2019 Share Posted August 25, 2019 (edited) It is so liberating and freeing when you are able to finally say you are NOT emotionally attached to a person that it was going nowhere with! I can finally admit I was apart of an emotional affair off and on for about 3 years (whilst being in an exclusive relationship for 2 of those years). I use to be in denial what it was and would always say to myself "this isn't wrong it is not physical and we are just friends". I've learned emotional affairs alone can last far longer than a purely physical affair.... This experience has simply taught me to not become close with a MM... Back then I was young and a bit naive to think it was purely friendship (I was 24 when I met him and he was 39).... ExEA P has contacted with me within the last few weeks claiming to want to inform about things in our local community however I have not felt any type of way towards him since sometime early last year or maybe late 2017... My feelings are of neutrality & indifference towards him at this point.. I recently entered my 30s (no longer in my exclusive relationship) & I am thankful I still have time find a husband and have children! To all of you whom are in an A or are pondering idea, RUN! Do NOT waste your time on a dead end relationship. It's a waste of time & precious energy! Of course, I've had MM hit on me since this ordeal but I think I am at the point I know how to safeguard myself against these types of situations. Happy Sunday to you all! :-) Edited August 25, 2019 by MsHopeful0208201689 4 Link to post Share on other sites
DeepSparks Posted August 26, 2019 Share Posted August 26, 2019 You give me hope that there is light at the end of this dark and lonely tunnel. I am trying hard to break free of my A and MM. I had the 2 months of no contact, but I got sucked right back in. I cannot wait for the day I can finally say I am free after a year and a half of this emotional roller coaster ride. You give me hope!!! Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted August 26, 2019 Share Posted August 26, 2019 Congrats on emotionally normalizing. It can be a big deal since limerence is non-voluntary. Glad you are happy/feeling better now! Link to post Share on other sites
BlindsidedTwice Posted August 26, 2019 Share Posted August 26, 2019 My feelings are of neutrality & indifference towards him at this point.. I long for neutrality and indifference. For me, it’s still anger, sadness, confusion, embarrassment, on top of a mountain of shame... Thank you for your post. There is hope. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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