Unsuccessful Posted August 25, 2019 Share Posted August 25, 2019 Since I last posted on this forum, I had a big breakthrough. After 10 years of trying, I got a boyfriend and he dated me for 7 months. Sadly, it ended in June. He told me that I was just a rebound, he just wasn't that into me and he had been really lonely after his sudden divorce so he dated outside his type. This was bittersweet. After trying so hard to have a relationship, I did it. But, I am sad because it didn't last and he was just dating me because he was desperate. I have learned that having a relationship is the only way that I am happy. 10 years of misery until he came along. But, during our relationship, I was happy every minute. So, now I am 53 years old and if the future will be like the past, I may not find anyone new for 10 years, which is so long to be miserable again. And, men prefer younger women, so it might take 20 years to find someone new. Even in my 20s, I got little to no interest from men that I meet socially or online. I am tall and very thin, with no curves. Most dates end with the guy saying he just doesn't feel chemistry or attraction. I had a few relationships in my younger years (someone with extremely bad hygiene and someone that I had to 100% financially support who didn't even contribute with cleaning). But, I have worked on myself and now I have some standards. How can I have strength to get through this breakup? I started No Contact today. Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted August 25, 2019 Share Posted August 25, 2019 If you are willing to date men shorter then yourself that would increase your odds of finding someone. I assume you are interested in love and not greed but if you have money or access to money in the future that could be an attractive bargaining chip for a future mate. Link to post Share on other sites
Berteau Posted August 26, 2019 Share Posted August 26, 2019 There’s someone out there for everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
Buffer Posted August 26, 2019 Share Posted August 26, 2019 Hi Don’t know you from a bar of soap, but you perfect the way you are. What are you social habits, gym, book club, walking, etc? Broaden you habits can only increase contact with others. But don’t lower your standards. Be happy and good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Author Unsuccessful Posted August 27, 2019 Author Share Posted August 27, 2019 Thank you, everyone, for the support and love. Your comments helped me get through a bad weekend. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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