jess060191 Posted August 26, 2019 Share Posted August 26, 2019 2 months post breakup and I still feel terrible. Yes time has helped, I do not cry out in tears out of no where anymore. But I still have the pain and miss him. Even though I know he used me and was a terrible person. We haven't spoken in weeks but yet I still find myself lurking on his social media sites, breaking my own heart. Isn't 2 months of pain long enough? I wish I could just wake up and not think about him or miss him everyday. How long did your pain from a break up to go away? Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted August 26, 2019 Share Posted August 26, 2019 Well if you take stronger steps to avoid stalking his social media, and get on with your life, you won't be stuck in this cycle of disrepair. When you get busy, hang with friends, go out and have fun, you won't be sitting around thinking about him....you will be thinking about how great life is and how much of a good time you are having. go out shopping, boost your ego with new clothes, sexy shoes, flirt with the guy at the coffee shop, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Silver_star Posted August 27, 2019 Share Posted August 27, 2019 There is no timeline on healing. It takes as long as it takes. No way around it, you have to go through the emotions to heal. For me, I romanticize the past often, so i stay stuck unless I can keep reminding myself that there WAS a reason we broke up, and that he was not perfect, and that we were not working as a couple. Getting yourself out of negative habits that don't serve you will help you little by little get over him. Not stalking his social media, or his friends social media, getting rid of any physical reminders of him in your life...not forever, but just for now. So, stay busy with work and other activities that are not about him. You might think of him from time to time and that is okay, just let the thoughts pass as they come, acknowledge the feelings it brings up and deal with the emotions it brings up as it comes. Go to your friends/fam for support. No need to contact him. He's going to deal with things his way. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 27, 2019 Share Posted August 27, 2019 Like you said, he didn't even treat you right, so logically, you shouldn't even miss him. What you miss is the thrill when you still thought he was who you hoped he would be. Then you got to know him and found out he's not. So you're missing an imaginary man. You'll stop being miserable when you're tired of being miserable and just accept that he's not who you hoped he'd be. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ana1234 Posted August 29, 2019 Share Posted August 29, 2019 Jess, I am so sorry you are experiencing this pain. I understand how difficult it can be, but I admire your courage to share your struggle. Please know that you are not alone in this struggle. Do you have a family member or a friend you can talk to about this? In my experience, those who know me the best give me the best advice. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jess060191 Posted August 30, 2019 Author Share Posted August 30, 2019 Jess, I am so sorry you are experiencing this pain. I understand how difficult it can be, but I admire your courage to share your struggle. Please know that you are not alone in this struggle. Do you have a family member or a friend you can talk to about this? In my experience, those who know me the best give me the best advice. Thank you I appreciate that!... My family and friends have been more than helpful but I feel like because its been 2 months they probably are already at their max on hearing me talk about the breakup. They never say it but I can't help but to think its annoying to them at this point. Link to post Share on other sites
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