Author Fair Posted August 30, 2019 Author Share Posted August 30, 2019 Well, another Friday and lawn mower man is gone again for the evening and possibly the whole night. I've been watching. I don't know what he's got going on but it's something, and it's been no time at all since he was over here..... Reinforces my conviction men have the attention span of a flea and why bother with them? Ah, oh well. I've got better things to do. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted August 30, 2019 Share Posted August 30, 2019 Men have the attention span of a flea? Considering how little you've shown in the way of interest...let alone actively thanking him, this is grossly unfair towards both him and men in general. If he was writing about you here, we'd all tell him that your actions show disinterest and he should move on. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted August 31, 2019 Share Posted August 31, 2019 (edited) Well, another Friday and lawn mower man is gone again for the evening and possibly the whole night. I've been watching. I don't know what he's got going on but it's something, and it's been no time at all since he was over here..... Reinforces my conviction men have the attention span of a flea and why bother with them? Ah, oh well. I've got better things to do. Crackin me up , a flea , awwww, look l think l could go at least a 3yr old child. But eh , disappearing for the night , hmm , does he do that at regular times and nights ? Anyway , it could be a few things , drinking with he's mates, trying a bar or two , sick mother, ahh, not that l'm saying he doesn't have someone then, just sayin. lt'd seem a bit odd that you never see her at all though so not sure about that one. Your obviously gonna have to sneak over and stick a tracker on his car. Edited August 31, 2019 by chillii Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fair Posted August 31, 2019 Author Share Posted August 31, 2019 Show interest you're doomed... don't show interest, you're doomed... f For a woman, that is. Men have all the power. You have to let them 'chase'... you have to show interest but not too much or he'll lose interest... bah. Women can't just go and get what they want the way men can. It's unfair. Actually he was home last night. I saw his lights on after dark. If anyone was honest about this if I went up and knocked on his door it would scare him off... it would be too forward, too bold. I hate dating. Link to post Share on other sites
Gagis Posted August 31, 2019 Share Posted August 31, 2019 So I'm going to take a gamble on my sanity for stakes of truth. I think you are a man or a god. That is the mainstream Orthodox position, which some say stems from the Mystery Schools of Ancient Greece. You start off as a man and aim to reach theosis, or union with God whereby you become a God at least in the Mystery Schools, or the God in Orthodox Christianity, at least that is the only meaning of being one with God that I can think of. Perhaps you are subsumed. I know of one Orthodox mystic who was almost excommunicated for saying that we are all Gods. That is as maybe. To your point. Other men start getting women attracted to them. I think it plays both ways. Certainly by showing interest in men I never got other women attracted to me, but maybe I was blind, I wanted women interested in me for who I was, not for my great co-operation skills. Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
ChatroomHero Posted August 31, 2019 Share Posted August 31, 2019 That goes both ways. Seems there are a lot of men getting lax once in an established relationship and don't even know their wives are getting jealous over other women's men. That said, I have to laugh because if I'm honest with myself, you're right. I want the whole dating thing to be easy. Love struck guy, happily ever after, amen. If only... lol. I know it can't work that way. I just wish it would. I've always been one who wanted the fairy tale without any of the work. If it doesn't come easy it just seems too exhausting to me. Dating is something I never wanted to spend a lot of time on. Oh I absolutely know it goes both ways, I was only responding to the original post and it in no way reflects on women in general. I am the same way. I want it to be easy, I want the woman to be like, "You're perfectly my type" and then go from there. But most of the time you really have to put in the effort. I just think after you weather the initial stages the pressure to land the other person should go away. You shouldn't have to prove yourself over and over, just to "land" him or her so to speak. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted August 31, 2019 Share Posted August 31, 2019 Men have all the power. You have to let them 'chase'... you have to show interest but not too much or he'll lose interest... bah. Women can't just go and get what they want the way men can. If this was true, the assertive, sexy women women wouldn’t win a guy when there’s a bit of completion going. You don’t need to turn up on his doorstep at night, but would it kill you to wave hello if you see him across the street? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted September 1, 2019 Share Posted September 1, 2019 Show interest you're doomed... ?? When a woman shows interest in me I respond (to the extent I am able, which is much less these days). Don't know what other guys do, but this view seems somewhat self-defeating. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted September 1, 2019 Share Posted September 1, 2019 Yeah , he def needed something to go on that first day , or the next. But you know, you don't have to put anything on the line , just want a coffee or something would be a great start, even just have it outside, with the mower , um. See if things warm up. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PoisonJay Posted September 2, 2019 Share Posted September 2, 2019 Absolutely agree with you Link to post Share on other sites
IslandSanctuary Posted September 6, 2019 Share Posted September 6, 2019 I'm a man and I totally agree with you. I think in the dating market there are a lot of recycled people and serial daters. The good people that make good partners and legitimately want to be monogamous and pair off and rock their partners world - most of these people get paired off young and stay that way - so are no longer in 'circulation' for you to meet. I believe in 100% exclusivity from the start - if you want to see other people now then it breaks something special between us and is just not something I want to be part of. Some people - especially Americans call this insecure. I think that is nonsense. If someone is interested in other women then he is disrespecting you. I really struggled to find good women when I was younger. I think I lingered too long on women that were terrible for me. If I could give young me some advice it would be "If you feel she isn't right for you then move on." 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fair Posted September 7, 2019 Author Share Posted September 7, 2019 I believe in 100% exclusivity from the start - if you want to see other people now then it breaks something special between us and is just not something I want to be part of. Some people - especially Americans call this insecure. I think that is nonsense. If someone is interested in other women then he is disrespecting you." Validation! Thank you. And you're right, it's shoved down our throats by modern society that we're insecure for not wanting to be out there fighting for attention... As far as I'm concerned you either want to be with me right from the start or you can go fly a kite. I won't be an option. Calling that insecure IS nonsense. Absolutely. Lawn mower man is out again for the night and I must be an idiot, checking to see if his lights are on, if he's home or not, wondering if he has someone... I must need my head examined. There was nothing saying he couldn't have come and knocked on my door like a decent, upfront, well intentioned human being and asked me out if that's what he wanted. He didn't. Why should I care one way or the other what he's doing, now? Bet he won't turn up this fall to fix it my lawn mower 'properly' either, as he offered to do last time I saw him... bah... fickle, fickle. Link to post Share on other sites
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