selling the ring and an email?

[destroyedlife]

so about a year before our breakup, i bought my ex an engagement ring, it was 4000 dollars and i finally just paid it off. my ex didnt know that i bought it for her, so i think.

 

me and my ex have only been communicating over email , because she racked up her cellphone bill and it got cut off. but shes slowly been fading away. usually emails me once a week, most of the time is about nonsense.

 

so i was talking with my sister inlaw ( my exes sister/kids auntie) she does not get along with my ex at all, they hate eachother. but apparently her husband still talks to my ex.

 

so there was this 80 inch tv forsale at super store, it was only 500 bucks, i could of bought it but i decided not to, but while i was planning on doing so i was trying to sell this engagement ring. the jewlers only offered me 1000 for it because they need to make profit. even though the value was 4 times that amount. so i never sold it.

 

i told this to my sister inlaw that i was trying to sell it.

 

two days later my ex emails me asking what the model number for her favorite ring was and if i new what it was. i never replied.

 

i can only assume that this is either a coincidence that she just happened to email me this a few days after even though we never spoke of this ring for years then suddenly she messages me 2 days after asking that question. or it would of had to been my sister in laws husband. who told her that i had a ring i bought for her that i am trying to sell.

 

anyways i dont know why my ex would care anyways , she left me. or unless if shes getting married secretly and is trying to get another man to buy her the ring, who knows,

 

my heart has been broken for way to long, i hope this pain goes away soon, sucks being dumped twice by the same woman, especially when you started a family,

 

what do you all think, coinsidence or is she secretly keeping a hawk eye on me from afar . because theres been other times where she somehow new **** about me that i had no idea how she knew,

[LivingWaterPlease]

Good that you didn't reply to your ex about the ring. Who knows why she inquired about it but since she's your ex there's no point in her getting info about it.

 

She may have heard about the ring and you're trying to sell it from your SIL's husband since he still talks to her. You told his wife, she told him, he tells your ex.

[destroyedlife]

Good that you didn't reply to your ex about the ring. Who knows why she inquired about it but since she's your ex there's no point in her getting info about it.

 

She may have heard about the ring and you're trying to sell it from your SIL's husband since he still talks to her. You told his wife, she told him, he tells your ex.

 

yeah , maybe im just over thinking, this whole ordeal and sudden thing she pulled on me 9 months ago really put a toll on me, i wanted her back so bad, but the damage is so sever theres really no going back. its crazy how the people closest to us are the ones that hurt us the most.

[LivingWaterPlease]

yeah , maybe im just over thinking, this whole ordeal and sudden thing she pulled on me 9 months ago really put a toll on me, i wanted her back so bad, but the damage is so sever theres really no going back. its crazy how the people closest to us are the ones that hurt us the most.

 

So true. And yet, when we choose to face up to them moving on, their new relationship and release them to a good life in our minds, it's very freeing!

[schlumpy]

Sell the ring to the jeweler and get the TV set. You may not realize it but that ring is holding you back. Don't cling to it - sell it and get the TV. Football season is here.

 

Or you could do with it what I did with my ex-fiancee's ring and flush it down the toilet.

 

I like to imagine a graduate student of some future advanced civilization many years from now stumbling across it and guessing as to its use among the primitive people it originated from.

[Blind-Sided]

Yep... Schlumpy is right. Unfortunately, engagement rings are WAY overpriced for what the actual value of the jewelry is. It's a huge scam, and that's why they say... "The ring should cost xxx to your income." Besides... who wants to look cheap to their bride??? I got lucky, and my ex was actually reasonable, and didn't want our marriage to have debt.

 

 

Anyway... around me, there are a bunch of honest gold buying places. If you have some of those... see what they will give you for it.

[Kitty Tantrum]

Sell it! $1000 back for a diamond ring that cost you $4000 is actually quite good. Most of the time you can expect to recoup about 10% of your cost when selling diamond jewelry of any variety; engagement rings are usually the worst in terms of immediate depreciation.

 

Coincidence or not - I dunno, but you can't go feeding information to "her side" and expect it not to get to her. Even if she's not close with her sister.

[destroyedlife]

Sell it! $1000 back for a diamond ring that cost you $4000 is actually quite good. Most of the time you can expect to recoup about 10% of your cost when selling diamond jewelry of any variety; engagement rings are usually the worst in terms of immediate depreciation.

 

Coincidence or not - I dunno, but you can't go feeding information to "her side" and expect it not to get to her. Even if she's not close with her sister.

 

yeah i guess your right. this all sucks so much. i dono when i became the enemy . but my future i invisioned did not look like thiis

[Poutrew]

Keep the ring. If you buy a TV set now, where will it be in ten years? In the city dump, most likely. If you keep the ring you will still have a ring a decade later - and it may be worth more then than it is now.

[healing light]

For some reason when you posted about her asking about details of the ring, I had the feeling that she might try to claim it's hers or something if you guys ever had any future disputes over personal property....especially if she's not currently meeting her bills. Best to ignore or, if you must reply, say you don't know what she's talking about least she tries to claim it was a gift.

[destroyedlife]

For some reason when you posted about her asking about details of the ring, I had the feeling that she might try to claim it's hers or something if you guys ever had any future disputes over personal property....especially if she's not currently meeting her bills. Best to ignore or, if you must reply, say you don't know what she's talking about least she tries to claim it was a gift.

 

its possible, i dono why else she would suddenly be so interestedl either then the price of the ring. even though it was an indirect question about it. she was probably hoping for me to give it to her or reveal that i have it. i dono , i just didnt think she would find out, but my sister inlaw freaked out on her husband for even talking to my ex like a week ago. thats how much they hate eachother, so he must still be secretly keeping contact , who knows why

[schlumpy]

Ok. I get it. You are in denial.

 

You are not emotionally ready to part with what you perceive as a link to your lost love. What if she comes back you think?

 

At least for your own sake put it away somewhere you won't see it. If you have a bank deposit box put it in there. If not, box it up and put in the attic.

 

Put it somewhere that is inconvenient to access.

 

I keep seeing a picture in my head where you are stroking this ring and repeating over and over, "My Precious."

[Maddie82]

Keep the ring. If you buy a TV set now, where will it be in ten years? In the city dump, most likely. If you keep the ring you will still have a ring a decade later - and it may be worth more then than it is now.

 

This is a very good point, but does he really want to keep hold of something that just serves as a reminder of his heartbreak. I would suggest to him to at least acquire some more price quotes from other places before he makes any decisions.

 

As for the ex, i think she definitely heard about the ring.

[smackie9]

Screw the jeweler, you can sell the ring online for way more than that. As long as you have documentation and an appraisal you are good to go.

 

 

Next time get insurance so you can return it for paid value.

Edited August 29, 2019 by smackie9

[spiderowl]

I think that you can assume that anyone you talk to who is a relative of hers is likely to pass on such bits of information. You must know that. Don't tell them things like this because you know it will get back to your ex.

 

It sounds like more than a coincidence. I'm amazed your ex even dared to ask a question like that. Are you keeping in touch with her because of children? If not, then it would be best for you if you did not stay in touch at all. It just keeps opening old wounds.

 

It seems a good idea to keep the ring though, in a safe-deposit box or something where you will not see it regularly. You paid a lot for it so why should you sell it for 1/4 of the price? You could try putting it on ebay first with a high reserve price so that you don't lose out.

[destroyedlife]

I think that you can assume that anyone you talk to who is a relative of hers is likely to pass on such bits of information. You must know that. Don't tell them things like this because you know it will get back to your ex.

 

It sounds like more than a coincidence. I'm amazed your ex even dared to ask a question like that. Are you keeping in touch with her because of children? If not, then it would be best for you if you did not stay in touch at all. It just keeps opening old wounds.

 

It seems a good idea to keep the ring though, in a safe-deposit box or something where you will not see it regularly. You paid a lot for it so why should you sell it for 1/4 of the price? You could try putting it on ebay first with a high reserve price so that you don't lose out.

 

yeah we have a child, i havent spoke to her for a week, after she asked that question, then she asked me what i was doing, then asked me to send her daycare, even though i send it straight to the day care instead of going threw her.

 

now she said" why are you not speaking to me, did i do something to make you mad? i dont like it when you dont communicate with me:("

 

i didnt reply to any of that. i dono why she does small talk to me. i literly have broken heart syndrome though. i just dont under stand what she wants with me

[schlumpy]

(Good call Spiderowl about the child)

 

Your ex wants to keep you in limbo just in case she made a "mistake." Then she can float back to old reliable until the next opportunity.

 

Not good having a child with this women. You will never be completely free of her. BTW, are you sure the child is yours?

 

You have put yourself in a box and only time and her abuse of you will let you out.

[preraph]

Oh, yeah, someone mentioned it to her. Why are you even still talking to her?

 

It's a sad fact that unless it's a rare diamond, diamonds are worth very little in resell. I know because when my sister was in the hospital for six months with no way to pay her mortgage, there was more than one trip to the gold and silver exchange. It's the gold and silver that are worth something. Always remember that. Loose jewels are the pretty things we think are the luxury items, but they are really quite cheap when purchased not in a jewelry store loose and unset. Jewelers take advantage of selling engagement rings because the buyers are usually young and inexperienced and keep telling themselves "it's forever."

 

Comparison shop. Go to a couple of gold and silver places and not just the jewelry store, and take your best offer.

 

Next time you buy an engagement ring, buy one heavy on gold and don't spend as much on the diamond. Some ring designed by artisans are worth more than others as collectibles, but it's not because of the stone. I have one that's filligree that holds up in value because it's a known designer and is intricate gold work. Maybe I'll have that expanded to fit my finger again for my birthday this month.

[Fekenaws]

Assuming you're young I'd honestly just keep the ring for the next girl. Some people will flame me for saying that but you'd be saving money in the long run considering the offers you're getting from the jewelers.