JS17 Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 I just got a call from my mom while I'm at work. I've spoken to my sister too. My mom has been having cluster headaches for the past month or so and they've been doing tests on her but everyone thought it was stress. She went for an MRI today. My mom called both of us and told us that they found that she has bleeding in her brain. I don't want to tell anyone at work yet but I don't know what to do. I would have to imagine that bleeding in your brain is pretty serious. She told both of us to stay put right now and go about our lives but she will be in the hospital for the next few days for more tests. What do I do? Do I go home right now? I don't know if I can deal with losing my mom. Am I jumping the gun? I'm seriously panicking. Help Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 Go see your mum. If it's just a false alarm, no problem. If the tests are not good, you'll always be glad that you were with her for it. In 10 years time, you won't remember the urgencies of your daily life. But you will remember what happened with your mum. This is a good index of relative importance. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 If they are letting her get to the hospital under her own steam it mustn't be critical yet. They will probably have to operate to seal up whatever's leaking but the good news is that she didn't bursy an aneurysm and bleed out all of a sudden. They didn't say they had to operate immediately or anything so they clearly don't think she's in danger at the moment. It's not the greatest thing in the world to have a bleeding brain but it seems it's not a life-threatening situation so take it easy and wait to see what the tests reveal. Link to post Share on other sites
NTB Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 don't panic i know easier said then done.......... go see your mom and all you can do is wait to see the results of the exams hopefully all will be fine and it is something that can be treated. chin up it will be alright Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 i would go see her, she prob needs you rite now. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 JS, Go see your Mom.. Even you just being there for a day will help her get thru it and heal a whole lot better.. Link to post Share on other sites
Jayhawks Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 I agree with RR, JS. Go see her. Don't fear the worst and wait until you know more info. I am praying for you and her. M. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 make plans to visit as soon as you are able so that you can assure yourself that she's gonna be all right. As Outcast points out, if she's still able to tote herself to the hospital, things aren't as dire as it sounds. If you think about it, there are more positive things than not about her situation, because medical technology has advanced so much that surgeons can use laser to cauterize the areas that are bleeding, allowing your mom to heal much more quickly. in the meantime, try to convince yourself that you will put off the bulk of worrying for when it's truly necessary. A hard thing to do, but something that's a must – you need to be in a more or less solid frame of mind these next couple of days and when you go see her. you and she are in my prayers ... Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 If she was in big trouble, she'd be headed for an operation today; they wouldn't make her sit around and wait for tests. I would save my 'family illness' time for later, in case you need it. Waiting for tests in a hospital is boring and they often won't let you go with your mom for the tests. Go see her after work every day and spend the evening to keep her from getting too bored. Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 If she was in big trouble, she'd be headed for an operation today; they wouldn't make her sit around and wait for tests. The voice of calm sanity Maybe go drop in on her around lunchtime to check the tests going ok and she's bearing up? Link to post Share on other sites
Author JS17 Posted September 28, 2005 Author Share Posted September 28, 2005 I'm going to leave work now. I'm about a 45 minute train ride from my parents house. I have the vacation days so time is not a problem. Thanks for all of your support. I'll keep you posted. Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 I'm going to leave work now. I'm about a 45 minute train ride from my parents house. I have the vacation days so time is not a problem. Thanks for all of your support. I'll keep you posted. Tell us how it goes. We'll be thinking of you... Link to post Share on other sites
georgiagirl76 Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 JS17 I know you aren't at your computer right now to see this but I just wanted you to know that I am here for you. It is always alarming when we get news that we can't control. Just try to maintain your health, sleep, eating cycles ect so you can be strong for your mom. Ask the Dr. as many questions as you have so you can be informed. Hang in there Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 The voice of calm sanity Otherwise known as ''generally an exercise in futility". Link to post Share on other sites
Author JS17 Posted September 29, 2005 Author Share Posted September 29, 2005 Thanks to everyone who responded. I was really only freaked out for the first half hour after I found out which was when I posted. I don't know why I didn't want to tell anyone I worked with....just not thinking clearly I guess. I'm doing ok now, I think I'm just in shock or denial and the gravity of the situation hasn't really sunk in yet. Today they'll just be running tests all day so I'm going to go to work. Her friends will be around and my dad will go over to the hospital during lunch and after work. There's really nothing we can do right now but wait for the tests to show something definitive, it's most likely something more than bleeding. I'd rather save my time for whatever needs to be taken for the outcome of the tests. I'll head back out over the weekend but I may need a distraction over the next two days so I'll probably stop by LS. Edit: Also, I'm pretty much the "primary caretaker" because my dad is a typical guy..."uh, I don't know, they gave her some medicine to help with something":confused: "dad, you're not allowed to be in charge anymore":laugh:...then again, the neurologist did tell me that I was anal retentive just like him for writing everything down Link to post Share on other sites
NTB Posted September 29, 2005 Share Posted September 29, 2005 glad all is going ok for you.......everything will work out just takes some time then again, the neurologist did tell me that I was anal retentive just like him for writing everything down that could be a good thing Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted September 29, 2005 Share Posted September 29, 2005 Otherwise known as ''generally an exercise in futility". If you can keep your heads when all around you... Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted September 29, 2005 Share Posted September 29, 2005 Also, I'm pretty much the "primary caretaker" because my dad is a typical guy..."uh, I don't know, they gave her some medicine to help with something":confused: "dad, you're not allowed to be in charge anymore":laugh: Hey, I'm glad it's going better JS Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted September 29, 2005 Share Posted September 29, 2005 If you can keep your heads when all around you... Keep your chin up, JS. Don't worry until you know for sure there's something to worry about. There are many things that go wrong with our bodies that sound scary but are easily fixable, after all. Link to post Share on other sites
lindya Posted September 29, 2005 Share Posted September 29, 2005 I may need a distraction over the next two days so I'll probably stop by LS. Quite right too - It's a great distraction, and it's important for you to take some time out from the stress. Hope things go okay and that you don't all have to wait too long for the outcome of your mum's tests. Link to post Share on other sites
FataMorgana Posted September 30, 2005 Share Posted September 30, 2005 Don't worry until you know for sure there's something to worry about. I'll second that as well....well, if you can, i know it's easier said than done. Thanks for update JS, was wondering how it all went. hope it will all be OK. let us know Link to post Share on other sites
Author JS17 Posted September 30, 2005 Author Share Posted September 30, 2005 Thanks all. Just got off the phone with them. Still no definitive news. I'm starting to feel it all now but tonight is also the first time I've been alone. My friends all offered to cancel their plans to be with me but I really needed to get some things in order at my place. I think that's why I'm really starting to feel it. At least I have my little monsters here. Link to post Share on other sites
Jayhawks Posted September 30, 2005 Share Posted September 30, 2005 Pets can be very comforting. Just hug up on them. Makes you and them feel so much better. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted September 30, 2005 Share Posted September 30, 2005 Go see your mom, because she is sick and she needs you. If you were sick, you would want your mom (or children) around you, right? I am sorry for your pain and fear. Be happy she is alive, don't panic unless you have a real reason for that. Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted September 30, 2005 Share Posted September 30, 2005 Still no definitive news. Keep us updated. We're thinking of you At least I have my little monsters here. Link to post Share on other sites
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