jprice984 Posted August 29, 2019 Share Posted August 29, 2019 I left my girlfriend whom we have a son together after reading her text messages to her ex husband. The text messages from her was asking him if he missed having sex with her and such. Then one message from him said well you were damn sure intent on sucking my d#@k the other night in my truck.. She replied and you refused. He said because his daughter was around. I have a screen shot if I could post. When I confronted her after moving my things out of her house she said i read the messages wrong and that since nothing happened it wasn’t cheating and that I was wrong for leaving and doing so I was walking out on our son. Was I wrong? Link to post Share on other sites
Flame Aura Posted August 29, 2019 Share Posted August 29, 2019 No you are not wrong, you did the right thing. If I saw those messages on my girlfriend's phone I would be walking out the door for good. Link to post Share on other sites
emeraldgreen Posted August 29, 2019 Share Posted August 29, 2019 100% cheating. She literally wanted and tried to get another dude's schlong down her throat. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 29, 2019 Share Posted August 29, 2019 Oh, I'm so sorry. What she did was completely wrong. I'm glad he's having none of it, but it's probably only a matter of time before he takes the freebie. It's cheating, what she did. It's an ex and she has made clear she wants to have sex with him and she's sneaking around and she's setting a terrible example for your child. I'm so sorry. I don't see how you save this. It's too extreme. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jprice984 Posted August 29, 2019 Author Share Posted August 29, 2019 (edited) I don't want to salvage this. I tried hard enough and put up with enough. I've seen alot more messages. She would tell her cousin that she thinks her and her other kids would be better off back with her ex husband because he makes more money than me. She would tell other guys I found out she was talking to that I didn't help her around the house or help her with our son and pay bills n such. Making me look like the bad guy. And there was prob 11 other guys she would constantly talk to sometimes sexually but nothing ever happened so to her it wasn't cheating. She would put my other kids down behind my back and if i spent time or money with them she would get pissed at me. Made me out to be a pos to her family and friends and honestly that hurt because I did more for her and her kids than anyone ever has. But what kills me the most is she is playing the pity card to everyone since she's already planted the seed in there head that I'm the one who left her and the kids for no reason. And also when I ask if I can get my son for the weekend. She would say it wouldn't have to be like this if you didn't leave. Edited August 29, 2019 by jprice984 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 30, 2019 Share Posted August 30, 2019 Well, you're going to need an attorney so that you don't get the wrong end of this deal. You don't need to be paying for her kids. You need sole custody of yours (or with whoever the mother is). In time, you will stop caring what her relatives are being told. They'd side with her no matter what. Friends, if they're real friends you can explain it to them. You might even be able to get screenshots of her texts to show them. She sounds just horrible and mercenery. Get her out of your life completely. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jprice984 Posted August 30, 2019 Author Share Posted August 30, 2019 (edited) I have over 300 screenshots of all of the guys she talked to and all the degrading she tried to do. Edited August 30, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted August 30, 2019 Share Posted August 30, 2019 IMO, consider this cost of tuition at relationship university, focus on being a great dad to your son, and when a woman shows you who she really is, believe her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted August 30, 2019 Share Posted August 30, 2019 Bud, you just avoided pain and agony. This is who she is. Stay as far away from that train wreck as you can get. Take care of yourself and your son. The rest is none of your business or concern. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted August 30, 2019 Share Posted August 30, 2019 It sounds like you should have left this relationship a long time ago, OP. Contact a lawyer about your son. She cannot keep him from you, but you are going to need a formal custody agreement in place. Link to post Share on other sites
Maddie82 Posted August 30, 2019 Share Posted August 30, 2019 You have all the evidence you need to show friends and family just what kind of woman she is. She can't get out of that. I agree with the others about contacting a lawyer as soon as you can. Link to post Share on other sites
Calmandfocused Posted August 30, 2019 Share Posted August 30, 2019 This behaviour is so inappropriate and so disrespectful, I don’t even know where to begin. To answer your question. Yes, she has cheated on you, emotionally and physically. With lots of men. Likes male attention doesn’t she? What’s also highly alarming to me is that this behaviour is carrying on around your child and her other children by the sound of it. How many of these men has your child been subjected to? ... very worrisome indeed. Also just to highlight something that’s not already been said: cheating aside, she clearly still has feelings, sexually and otherwise towards her ex husband. Big red flag and certainly not the norm. Op, this is a blessing in disguise. Protect you child/children and stay away from her. Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted August 30, 2019 Share Posted August 30, 2019 @jprice984 Of course it is cheating. Her defense it like it wasn't murder only attempted murder. Just because it could have been even worse doesn't make it any less cheating. Link to post Share on other sites
Buffer Posted August 31, 2019 Share Posted August 31, 2019 You weren’t wrong in leaving. She is reaching out to start anew. Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted August 31, 2019 Share Posted August 31, 2019 Kick her to the curb and save yourself some heartache. If she hasn't cheated yet she has the intent to do so. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
PureAppleJuice Posted August 31, 2019 Share Posted August 31, 2019 To echo everyone else here, you're certainly better off out of this. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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