rainbow12 Posted August 31, 2019 Share Posted August 31, 2019 Okay, I've been making friends online 2 months ago with a friend who lives in turkey. I do like him and fancy him and he knows that and we have been flirting and talking in a seductive way, I started the sex talk first. He never pushes me to do anything i don't want to do and he's very nice to me but i miss his company. He hasn't talk to me for 2 weeks. Last time I talk to him was on the 16th of August when he said he was very busy and he's sorry, he was with family on vacation and couldn't always use his phone. I know the lifestyle is no excuse but i feel like he has ghosted on me even though he doesn't own me an explanation because we aren't partners but I just didn't like that he didn't warn me that he was going away. He just went without any warnings. I tried talking to different people but it just made things worse and i tried to do other things but my friend told me not to get emotionally involved with him but to me all he was is for fun but i don't know if i like him emotionally. All I know is that I wish he kept in contact with me instead of going away. I sent him a message on whatsapp that was on the friday 23rd and still no response. my message has been delivered to him but he didn't read it. his whatsapp is encrypted and i tried sending him a message on instagram but he didn't read it ever since then I have left him alone allot. I mean i would of saw him online if he was ignoring me but i've never seen him active on either messengers. I just don't understand whats really going on. I know he's far away but i just feel so connected with him. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 1, 2019 Share Posted September 1, 2019 You don't even know this person. It's been 2 months. Sounds more like you are obsessed & he just doesn't care so he moved on. At this point you are annoying him. Also most people don't keep up communication while on vacation so your expectations are unrealistic. You need to figure out why you are so deeply invested in such a tenuous "connection" after such a short time. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author rainbow12 Posted September 1, 2019 Author Share Posted September 1, 2019 You're right the connection doesn't exist and it's weak. I'm invested in him because...I like it when a guy gives me attention and...i don't normally have that usually. It's his life so...like I said no reason to disturb him if i only know him for a short time. Thanks for your input. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted September 1, 2019 Share Posted September 1, 2019 If someone in another country initiated sex talk with me, I'd blow them off too. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted September 1, 2019 Share Posted September 1, 2019 You're right the connection doesn't exist and it's weak. I'm invested in him because...I like it when a guy gives me attention and...i don't normally have that usually. It's his life so...like I said no reason to disturb him if i only know him for a short time. Thanks for your input. But that's just it, he isn't giving you his attention and lives too far away. He is dating others who are closer to him and so should you. You'll have a better chance with someone in your area. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rainbow12 Posted September 1, 2019 Author Share Posted September 1, 2019 But that's just it, he isn't giving you his attention and lives too far away. He is dating others who are closer to him and so should you. You'll have a better chance with someone in your area. easier said than done to find someone in my area. He told me he likes being single well that's what he said's. Guys out of my country seem to appreciate me more than my own nationality does. That's why i liked foreigners better. Dating sites i've been on are creepy and men are flaky. I sometimes don't know what to do for the best. Sometimes it's best to not do anything. Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted September 1, 2019 Share Posted September 1, 2019 You may have felt 'connected' but you didn't know him. People can be totally different in RL than they are online. And he really didn't ghost you. Ghosting is far worse. He just moved on. It happens. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author rainbow12 Posted September 1, 2019 Author Share Posted September 1, 2019 (edited) You may have felt 'connected' but you didn't know him. People can be totally different in RL than they are online. And he really didn't ghost you. Ghosting is far worse. He just moved on. It happens. moved on as in he doesn't even want to talk to me as friends anymore? That's all we ever was nothing more nothing less. if thats the case then why not just block me and get it over with? Edited September 1, 2019 by rainbow12 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted September 1, 2019 Share Posted September 1, 2019 You could never go back to being friends after the sex talk....and because you fancy him. There is no reason for him to block you unless you become a crazy stalker. Of course, you could block him if you wish. Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted September 1, 2019 Share Posted September 1, 2019 Guys do enjoy this for a while but they tend to tire quickly enough of computer talk, it becomes too tedious, unless they are guys who have never been with a woman and so on, he will probably check in with you again soon , try to keep you on standby for future hot sex, but expect his interest to wane again unless a meet up is imminent, so I dont know, you would not have too much trouble finding a guy I imagine, so its up to you whether to hold out for this arrangement:eek: Link to post Share on other sites
Author rainbow12 Posted September 1, 2019 Author Share Posted September 1, 2019 He is not like that to just use me as a standby for hot sex. He talks to me normally aswell, it's not just sex. You know I can find computer sex talk tedious and I only did it because I wanted that from him in real life and also to please him. Link to post Share on other sites
anika99 Posted September 2, 2019 Share Posted September 2, 2019 With all due respect you don't know what he's like because you don't know him. Online relationships are fantasies where people pretend. Either you or he could have been pretending that he was someone he is not. You truly have to spend a considerable amount of time with someone in the flesh before you can say you know them. If you are looking for love you are not going to find it online. Normal men won't waste their time on fantasy relationships. They want a real live in the flesh woman. Someone they can touch and be with. They prefer real sex. They might pass some time sweet talking a girl online but they are still keeping their eyes open for women they can be with for real. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rainbow12 Posted September 2, 2019 Author Share Posted September 2, 2019 even normal guys find it hard to find women in real life. Not everything is easy to just find somebody in real life. Don't you think I want that? a real flesh man who i see live who i can be with? don't you think i don't want to do this virtually? because I don't. I prefer the real thing too but in my situation and some normal men out there they are not always getting lucky. Link to post Share on other sites
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