lioil Posted August 31, 2019 Share Posted August 31, 2019 So i have been talking to this girl from another country for 1/2 year and last couple of weeks she came to US with her mom. Part was to visit relatives and visit some places and other is to visit me. We met a few times (twice us and once with her mom where we went to see some museums) and had good conversations. She is now back to her country and the person who introduced me asked me how i feel and said she feels good. My only concern is how she can survive here. She works as a secretary back in her country and her english is not good. She did get by with her mom to NYC and PA without tour guides so that was kinda impressive... I think she could either come here to study and get a decent job or start family first and then study. My uncle in her country said to be careful and he wants to meet her (they live in same city) to "screen" for me. I am 99% sure she is not a scammer since the person introduced her is a very good friend and she is long time friend of her mom too. Plus she does this as a business so she wouldnt just ruin her image either. In any case, anyone can give some advice on next steps? I was thinking maybe pay for her to come here during winter break and go to few places. She did spend money out of her own pocket coming here (the exchange rate is X7 so it is a lot of money to her - imagine going to another country and 7 USD is 1 of their currency...) and all i did for treat her few meals. I know ideally i should find someone here but who is to say we cant be together? thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 31, 2019 Share Posted August 31, 2019 I mean, check your immigration laws, because most places don't just let people move to their country unless they need their skills. I would say find someone local. This sounds like a tall hill to climb. And you've not been alone with her, right? I'm sure she's thinking you'd support her and possibly some more of her family as well. That's usually how it goes since few women like to move alone to a strange country. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted August 31, 2019 Share Posted August 31, 2019 Just to clarify, do you also speak her native language? I am gathering that you do, as you mentioned having an uncle in her country as well. Has she herself expressed an interest in relocating to the US? You would need to speak to an immigration lawyer should you two cross that bridge, and figure out what sort of visa/paperwork she's even eligible to apply for to stay for a longer period. Before you start thinking too far ahead, in terms of how she'll get by should she emigrate, I would meet her in person again. Keep communication open. Is is possible for you to fly to her instead this time? It could be beneficial for you to get a better sense of her daily life in her home city, to more clearly understand the sort of person she is and how she lives her life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 31, 2019 Share Posted August 31, 2019 Which ever way you think this move will go, her to you or you to her, speak to an immigration lawyer in the country where you expect to end up sooner rather than later. It can take years & thousands of dollars to work this stuff out. Best learn what you are up against. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted August 31, 2019 Share Posted August 31, 2019 You’ve said nothing about what she wants, so I’m going to start there: Before talking to immigration lawyers, fist find out if she wants to come to the US. Or are you willing to live where she does? Link to post Share on other sites
Author lioil Posted September 4, 2019 Author Share Posted September 4, 2019 You’ve said nothing about what she wants, so I’m going to start there: Before talking to immigration lawyers, fist find out if she wants to come to the US. Or are you willing to live where she does? she likes the US. Kind of sick of the environment in china. i speak same language as her too. She does want to start a family too and there's a lot of pressure there in china. Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted September 7, 2019 Share Posted September 7, 2019 So are you a regular U.S. citizen? An immigration lawyer might tell you what to do. But you just met her twice for a few hours, each time. What could she do in the U.S. without speaking too much English? Well, in NYC, most of the girls doing nails in spa/beauty salons, giving massages or doing your hair are Asians (mainly from Korea, but not necessarily). And in the shop, they hardly speak English. I guess one or two do, all the others don't. You can do labor in hotels, restaurants, etc. It all depends on what she wants to do with her life. Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts