Alwaysbe Posted September 3, 2019 Share Posted September 3, 2019 (edited) I loaned my bf now ex bf $900 and when I’ve asked him for my money he tells me to get lost. I’ve been screwed over by two guys before and I never go pairs back they call me names. I mean I helped them loan them money when I ask to be repaid they black my number ignore my calls texts Edited September 3, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator language Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted September 3, 2019 Share Posted September 3, 2019 Bad people. But here's the obvious lesson: Don't lend boyfriends or any friends money, period. It never ends well, never. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted September 3, 2019 Share Posted September 3, 2019 Now that you have learned an expensive lesson that people can treat you like that, don't let it got to waste. Don't do it again. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Rayce Posted September 3, 2019 Share Posted September 3, 2019 Don't loan money to family either...they do the same thing. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted September 3, 2019 Share Posted September 3, 2019 take this as an expensive learning lesson Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted September 3, 2019 Share Posted September 3, 2019 Always be wary of this, it is an indication that the boyfriend is a gambler and not a good one. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 3, 2019 Share Posted September 3, 2019 Unless you have a writing signed by the other person promising to pay you back, the law says it was a GIFT not a loan. Since this has happened to you more the once, it's time to examine the men you pick. You also have to make a promise to yourself never to loan money to anyone again. You are poor judge of character & a bit naïve. You will be taken advantage of again if you persist in these bad choices. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Alwaysbe Posted September 4, 2019 Author Share Posted September 4, 2019 I mean I’ve only got texts saying he will pay back but I highly doubt that since I ask he tell me go suck my mother etc the texts I’ve got are him admitting and aware of the debt And I’ve learned my lesson I’ll never do it again never guy I end up dating ask for money I’ll drop him right there maybe I’m a little naive but I just wanted to show the guys I care u know not for them to think I don’t and wouldn’t help I’m guessing that’s my weakness I mean their not doing it for me why should I do for them Link to post Share on other sites
Author Alwaysbe Posted September 4, 2019 Author Share Posted September 4, 2019 Unless you have a writing signed by the other person promising to pay you back, the law says it was a GIFT not a loan. Since this has happened to you more the once, it's time to examine the men you pick. You also have to make a promise to yourself never to loan money to anyone again. You are poor judge of character & a bit naïve. You will be taken advantage of again if you persist in these bad choices. These guys had jobs while I meet them and continue to had jobs while dating I don’t know why they choose to ask me and yes I seem to have a problem saying no I won’t be doing it again I’ve learned my lesson I mean they had jobs that’s how I met them 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Blind-Sided Posted September 4, 2019 Share Posted September 4, 2019 OK... lesson learned. BUT some additional advice that my dad has given me. 1) Do not loan money to anyone, that you really can't afford to lose. 2) When you loan money, just assume it's a gift to that person, and that you will never get back. That way, your friendships and family connections can stay happy. AND... if they do repay... it's a happy point to you. (opposed to disappointment) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 4, 2019 Share Posted September 4, 2019 I mean I’ve only got texts saying he will pay back That MAY be enough to take him to small claims court. The only thing you have to lose is a few hours of your time. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Maddie82 Posted September 4, 2019 Share Posted September 4, 2019 Never lend money to anyone, friends, boyfriends, family, NO ONE. It never ends well. I would really want to get back at him though. Are his family like him? or are they nice understanding people? Maybe you could talk to them about getting him to pay up? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Alwaysbe Posted September 4, 2019 Author Share Posted September 4, 2019 Never lend money to anyone, friends, boyfriends, family, NO ONE. It never ends well. I would really want to get back at him though. Are his family like him? or are they nice understanding people? Maybe you could talk to them about getting him to pay up? Isn’t getting back at someone is by trying to sue them I got texts admitting the loan and saying he would pay back Are cussing them off on social media I need to vent Link to post Share on other sites
Rayce Posted September 4, 2019 Share Posted September 4, 2019 Are his family like him? or are they nice understanding people? Maybe you could talk to them about getting him to pay up? Don't involve other people in the dispute that just causes more problems. You could take him to small claims but what a hassle and will cost you more money up front with no guarantee you will win. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted September 4, 2019 Share Posted September 4, 2019 To be blunt, some people just suck. Don't loan out anything anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
anika99 Posted September 4, 2019 Share Posted September 4, 2019 If you have texts from him that prove he borrowed the money then you could take him to small claims court. But I also agree with other posters in that I never loan more than I can afford to lose and I don't continue to loan people money who still owe me money from a previous loan Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted September 6, 2019 Share Posted September 6, 2019 (edited) I loaned my bf now ex bf $900 and when I’ve asked him for my money he tells me to get lost. I’ve been screwed over by two guys before and I never go pairs back they call me names. I mean I helped them loan them money when I ask to be repaid they black my number ignore my calls texts If this happens multiple times, I have to ask just what criteria are you applying before you are calling them your boyfriend? A "boyfriend" doesn't behave this way. A parasite who just uses women, doesn't treat them well but the women follow him around like a puppy, does. I mean, how long had you been seeing this last guy? How was he treating you overall up to this point? What about him made you want to call him your boyfriend? Edited September 6, 2019 by Redhead14 1 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted September 6, 2019 Share Posted September 6, 2019 Not saying its the case here, because I don't know, but FAR too often what was once a "gift" or nice gesture when together and things are great, then becomes a "loan" after a breakup....It doesn't work that way... It would be nice if he paid you back, but if its the case that you changed the terms in light of the breakup, then he's under no obligation to pay you back... TFY Link to post Share on other sites
Kitty Tantrum Posted September 6, 2019 Share Posted September 6, 2019 Expensive lesson, but a valuable one. Anyone who can prove they're "good for it" to pay back the loan can go to the bank. Anyone who CAN'T... isn't likely to pay you back. Link to post Share on other sites
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