boyfriend vs ex-husbands

[Missred]

boyfriend is jealous of my ex husdand we have kid together. My ex call sometime when im with My boyfriend i though he understands that we have talk. My boyfriend. Say the way i talk to my ex it like we hookup. We are not hookup my ex have girlfriend and he know about my boyfriend. My boyfriend started not answering. My text and phone call, and doing thing with me i got on him about it so we only talk and text. One day boyfriend want be friend for the time been.he just quit his job and the thing about me and my ex is all in his head and dont know what to. He say need space to think . I just found out as he been push me way he been texting and talking someone esle. But now he just start back take me out on dates and going out his way to do thing for me but if my ex call he pull way again. What can I do to make him understand there's nothing going on between me and ex and stop push me way.

[schlumpy]

There is very little you can do if he doesn't want to understand that you must talk to your EX because you have a child together.

 

You can help things by not being friendly with your EX and only talking to him about things that involve the child. That may not be fair if you have a friendly relationship with your ex but how much do you care about your boyfriend? I think that until this crisis has passed your EX is going to have to be understanding.

 

Or...…. you could get a new boy friend who doesn't mind your friendly patter with your EX.

[elaine567]

You KNOW there is nothing going on between you and your ex, your bf doesn't KNOW that and he doesn't trust you or your ex.

 

You need to provide a stable home for your child.

You cannot do that if your bf cannot cope with your ex being in your life. The upheaval and upset caused will be affecting your child.

Your ex is going nowhere, he is your child's father.

Time to find a bf who CAN cope with dating a single parent.

[d0nnivain]

I think I understood you to say that your BF understands that you & your EX have to communicate because you have kids together. What your BF is objecting to is the way you speak to your EX.

 

There is a difference between:

 

Hello. Can you please pick up the kids tonight? Don't forget Suzy has a game & Johnny has piano lessons.

 

vs.

 

Hey babe! How is everything? Thanks

so

much for picking up the kids tonight. You're a doll. Have fun at Suzy's game. I wish I was gonna be there. Please tape Johnny's lesson for me. See you tomorrow. Luv ya!

 

Your guy said he didn't like the way you spoke to your EX. To mean that means the words you used & your tone were overly friendly which led him to conclude that you were hooking up. Does that make sense to you?

 

 

 

Your BF has now essentially broken up with you. He's no longer answering when you call or text. He says he just wants to be friends. You know he's talking to another woman.

 

It may be for the best. Not everybody can date somebody with an EX.

[Mr. Lucky]

What your BF is objecting to is the way you speak to your EX.

 

Agree with this. While your kid may be the reason your ex calls, I highly doubt your conversations are limited to that subject...

 

Mr. Lucky

[Foxhall]

Just enquiring about the other side of this,

 

how does your ex-husband feel about you having a new guy and does this ex-husband hold any resentment towards him.

[preraph]

Tell your ex emails only and only contact you about the kid, and you do the same. No one likes it when the ex is acting like they still have privileges -- and yes, having access to call and chat you up at anytime about anything is inappropriate. Don't know why you can't see that.