MrMurphy Posted September 8, 2019 Share Posted September 8, 2019 My partner and I have been together nearly 5 years and we have our 3rd baby on the way. I'm 6 months pregnant. I'm 28 and he's 39. We've been having some relationship issues and have just started couples counselling. I'm pregnant so feeling extra sensitive about everything and I'm having trouble thinking clearly and logically. We were talking about our sex life which I've personally never been happy with as he has a really low sex drive and we don't have sex enough. I'd like it 2 or 3 times a week but some weeks we have it once and some weeks not at all. It's been like this forever. He says it happened in his past relationship too and that's why his ex cheated. However, my real problem is that whenever I spend the night away he always masturbates yet I know that if I had been home we wouldn't of had sex. He admitted to masturbating every day for the whole 3 weeks I was away with the kids due to our current relationship issues.he also said he fantasizes about other women when we're having sex. I was really hurt by this and I feel betrayed. I know fantasizing isn't cheating but I feel like I've been cheated considering I've always made it clear to him I need more sex. Am i just being oversensitive ?? Is this normal?? I'm totally hurt Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted September 8, 2019 Share Posted September 8, 2019 My partner and I have been together nearly 5 years and we have our 3rd baby on the way. I'm 6 months pregnant. I'm 28 and he's 39. I'm trying to understand how bringing so many kids into an unmarried relationship troubled since Day One makes sense? Wouldn't you want some time under less pressure to work on the issues between you? Mr. Lucky 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrMurphy Posted September 8, 2019 Author Share Posted September 8, 2019 I'm trying to understand how bringing so many kids into an unmarried relationship troubled since Day One makes sense? Wouldn't you want some time under less pressure to work on the issues between you? Mr. Lucky It wasn't unhappy from day 1. We've had a good 4 years, things have gotten rocky in the last 6 months. Different sex drives wasn't enough of a reason for me to not have the kids I always wanted. Also not too sure what being married or not has to.do with anything. Does marriage guarentee happiness. What stupid assumptions you make Link to post Share on other sites
giotto Posted September 8, 2019 Share Posted September 8, 2019 I looked at your prior threads... why are they written by a man? Or rather why are you writing as a woman now? Very weird indeed... Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted September 8, 2019 Share Posted September 8, 2019 Does marriage guarentee happiness. What stupid assumptions you make No, marriage doesn't equal happiness but it does provide certain automatic and well recognized legal protections for you and your children, so I wouldn't be so quick to use the word stupid. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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