My husband and fun at work

[major_merrick]

Went to bring my husband some lunch today as a surprise since I was running errands in town. He's a kind of project manager, and overseeing installation of new electric stuff near the university in the city near us. He's a successful leader due to a combination of getting things done and a really strong rapport with his people.

But lately, the hours he's working have increased. He's been out in the field more and dealing with production and office stuff less. Wife #4 isn't with him, so it is mostly him and a group of men. He does stuff he shouldn't have to do, and gets in with his hands and gets dirty - not your usual management guy.

But back to today. When I got to his work site, it was like a party. He and the employees had music turned way up out of somebody's car, and were dancing to "Wild Thing" (Tone Loc, thirty years ago....a trip down memory lane). A couple of college girls had joined in the fun, and others were taking photos.

 

Now I get it...work shouldn't be boring. My husband keeps things entertaining to keep his people motivated. But perhaps work is too fun? I mean, is this why he's staying later? He's got community responsibilities outside of work multiple nights a week, and it just feels like I'm seeing less of him lately.

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

From what you've said about your husband before, I think if you voiced even an inkling of concern about this to him, he would assure you and adjust the behavior if you did not like it. He seems to want to keep in line with whatever you want, so I would not worry about him being a fun boss!

[mrs rubble]

We have a load of fun where I work too, it makes the day go faster and better. It's great that he's creating an environment like that for his workers.

They'll be more productive.

It sounds like your main concern is that you are seeing less of him, perhaps have a chat with him and see if he can shuffle his schedule to allow more time with you.

[S2B]

Fun at work is motivating, good for him!

 

If you want more time with him then tell him so.

[crispytoast]

Is he hiring?

[BreakOnThrough]

From what I gather, its is not necessarily that "they" are having fun, but "who" is he having fun with (college girls). Just admit your insecurity with it to him, if he's any kind of husband, he'll understand.

[major_merrick]

Yeah, he's aware of my insecurity re: college girls, and so am I. I know that it is just the environment, and his friendly personality. I told him how much I appreciated that he came home early yesterday. Tried to frame it positively instead of as a complaint. On the flip side, he told me that he likes it when I drop by where he's working and that he misses me during the day. So I guess we're mostly on the same page.