supersteelman Posted September 11, 2019 Share Posted September 11, 2019 (edited) birthday today. ****ty birthday present. I did not sleep a short history I met a woman online. up north long distance. we dated for 5 years and I did the drives. after that I moved to her street. 4 years im still here. 10 months weve broken up. Im moving back this monday back to central area. more work for me I cant find apartments for decent prices and the city I want. I found a place. I came to sign the lease, my mom says wait, lets rent this big apartment my cousin is leaving at on the same day. how the hell does that hjappen I dont know. weird coincedence. thoughts running into my head. no woman will date me as a 48 living with mom. although I have a lot of success with ladies and NO complaints with that. the huge turn off is living with mom. no privacy when I have my "needs" no bringing women over for sex. the woman will hear that I live with mom and will run away. this lease will be for 3 years my mom lives in an old area. theyre basically breaking down all the buildings there, rebuilding huge towers and after the 3 years they will give her a new apartment. it will save me a lot of money per month. apartment is quite big and I havent seen it yet but rooms arent exactly lined up like a long corridor with rooms on each side where there is tons of distance between rooms. its more square not long (if it was we can be on opposite sides of the corridor). 6 rooms. but not a villa, its an apt. I didnt sleep. give me some insight, different perspectives on things I may not see. otoh, 99% of the time I would go to the woman I was dating, she didnt come to my house. still day to day living with mom isnt exactly appealing. I like quiet and to not talk to anyone when I get home. we know more women crave communication then men. insights PLEEEASSEE? Edited September 11, 2019 by supersteelman Link to post Share on other sites
crispytoast Posted September 11, 2019 Share Posted September 11, 2019 Tell them your mom lives with you, not the other way around. It's not much better but it certainly sounds a whole lot sweeter than the alternative. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author supersteelman Posted September 11, 2019 Author Share Posted September 11, 2019 after my divorce 13 years ago, I had long relationships with 2 women. I always drove to them. they were curious what my shethole, err palce looked like but after that I would always goto them 99.9% of the time. I never had any issues finding dates. in fact too much. my wallet would always be diluted. but I feel embarrassed to even bring it up. crap. I havent dated for almost a year. now moving in with mom, there goes my chance to find a partner. Link to post Share on other sites
crispytoast Posted September 11, 2019 Share Posted September 11, 2019 If thats how you feel, perhaps this is a nice time to worry more about finding independent housing than dating. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author supersteelman Posted September 11, 2019 Author Share Posted September 11, 2019 I cant find. no available decent priced apt. the ones im looking at are under construction for strengthening for earthquakes ZI have to leave on monday Link to post Share on other sites
crispytoast Posted September 11, 2019 Share Posted September 11, 2019 I don't mean immediately. You can look for one while you live with your mother. I know it's not ideal but you have a roof over your head and family close. And if you're 48, perhaps this is a good opportunity to spend some time with your mother as well. I can't imagine she's getting any younger. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted September 11, 2019 Share Posted September 11, 2019 A man has to do what a man has to do:cool: say she is "slowing down" and needs your help for a while. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author supersteelman Posted September 11, 2019 Author Share Posted September 11, 2019 good information here. it helped calm my nerves. I woke up with fear and panic. much appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted September 11, 2019 Share Posted September 11, 2019 good information here. it helped calm my nerves. I woke up with fear and panic. much appreciated. you're welcome superman Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted September 11, 2019 Share Posted September 11, 2019 Happy Birthday, SSM! Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted September 11, 2019 Share Posted September 11, 2019 Sure, its not probably what most guys would want at your age, but so what?? Rather than look at it as a deterrent for getting laid, forget about that stuff for the time being...Use it as a way to regroup at this time in your life...Take stock and figure out where you are going...Use the time to reconnect with your mom....Im a few years older than you, and my mom is aging and I know her time on this earth isn't all that long...I currently assist her in other ways, but if I had to stay with her, then I would just expand on that... But back to women/dating... If you find the right woman who isn't judgmental, she would surely be understanding and even assist you in the move towards the next phase of your life...As for a place to have sex, just figure it out, like you did(hopefully) when you were a kid... Good luck.. TFY 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 11, 2019 Share Posted September 11, 2019 In the short term you just say you recently moved back to the area & are looking for suitable housing. You get yourself financially situated. You find a job. You keep looking for housing. If you are still with mom at 58. . . eh, that may be a problem. For right now be grateful you have the financial option & the time to spend with your mother. She won't be around forever. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted September 11, 2019 Share Posted September 11, 2019 There's always the option of moving out of your expensive city and finding cheaper housing and a job there. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted September 11, 2019 Share Posted September 11, 2019 happy birthday! Do like crispy toast says, just tell them she lives with you. A good woman will think it’s sweet. Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted September 11, 2019 Share Posted September 11, 2019 Do like crispy toast says, just tell them she lives with you. A good woman will think it’s sweet. Nah....lying about something like that would make any guy look like the biggest jackass that ever lived... And tell me how you would explain to her that he actually chose the same décor/furnishings that an older lady would in his own place...He'll get sussed in 10 minutes of her walking through the place.. TFY 2 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted September 11, 2019 Share Posted September 11, 2019 Oh true, I forgot about furniture. Yes, it’s going to look like you live with your mom, not her with you. Link to post Share on other sites
crispytoast Posted September 11, 2019 Share Posted September 11, 2019 Hmm that's a good point. Link to post Share on other sites
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